Gay Godfather

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Okay, well I was ask to be a godfather to a cousin of mine for early next month. I am also gay too, but I am not active (virgin)… But should I in the Catholic Church be a godfather?

And I said yes when I was ask, so I am 100% sure I am doing it.
 
If you are God father, you accept the responsibility before God to raise the children in accordance with Catholic teaching and for setting an example of a life lived in accordance with Catholic teaching. Assuming you accept this, your sexual preferences are irrelevant.
 
I don’t see why not, Jack.

You are doing your best to live your life for Jesus.

Isn’t that your main duty as a godfather–to provide this example?
 
Live a good life and be an example of a faithful Catholic to the child. If you’re not going to be able to do your very best to stay in line with the Church, which will in all honest include living celibately (easier said than done, rest assured, I know) then by all means, do your very best 🙂
On the other hand, I’ll be honest and say, if you do not think you are capable of being a good example or don’t think you will be, do what is best for the child and say no.
 
I agree.
If you are an orthodox Catholic believer, and are willing to help teach the child what the Church teaches and lead in this by example then I see nothing keeping you from being a godfather. Having homosexual feelings is no more sinful than any other temptation that a person faces.

(being tempted isn’t a sin)
 
Jack17 said:
Okay, well I was ask to be a godfather to a cousin of mine for early next month. I am also gay too, but I am not active (virgin)… But should I in the Catholic Church be a godfather?

And I said yes when I was ask, so I am 100% sure I am doing it.
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Having samesex attractions in itself in no way means that you should not be a godfather.

In a similar situation, I have SSA and am a virgin, and I was the confirmation sponsor to both people who asked me. I don’t see anything wrong with that, do you?
 
BobObob said:
Having samesex attractions in itself in no way means that you should not be a godfather.

In a similar situation, I have SSA and am a virgin, and I was the confirmation sponsor to both people who asked me. I don’t see anything wrong with that, do you?
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Not only is there nothing wrong, but you and Jack17 are examples to all of us of Jesus’ command to “take up your cross” and follow him. I can only imagine the daily strength needed to struggle with SSA and remain faithful to the Church’s teachings. God bless you gentlemen. Your strength will be an example for your god-children.
 
TheDoctor said:
Not only is there nothing wrong, but you and Jack17 are examples to all of us of Jesus’ command to “take up your cross” and follow him. I can only imagine the daily strength needed to struggle with SSA and remain faithful to the Church’s teachings. God bless you gentlemen. Your strength will be an example for your god-children.
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Well put.

God Bless you both.

John Marie Philomena
 
I’m Godfather to 13 kids…and while I’m not gay, I have my share of other things that lead me to sin. Your attraction to men is not a hypostasis, but rather an inclination. Were you to follow that inclination to its end, then you would be doing something sinful; however, that would not preclude you from being a godfather. The question you should ask yourself is are you willing to take an active role in this kid’s life to assist the parents in bringing this kid up with the teachings of the Catholic Church setting aside whatever personal bias or disagreement with that teaching that you may have?
 
More of a concern is how you accept your state. I will tell you right now that you are not…“anything”, but captured to some extent in a serious habitual sin.

So the question can be rephrased.

“Can anyone who knows he is in a state of mortal sin become a Godfather?”

I would say no not sincerely, and you would do a disservice to the Godchild as he has a right to have a protector that is in friendship with God. I would make some advances first in fighting this thing, and it is possible to improve.

But the remedy depends on you. Sincerely determine that you will endeavor to change your life through pastoral help,self help groups,devotions,prayer,etc or whatever works for you, then, go to confession and confess all your sins, and never bring this out into the general community. Discretion is important.

Now being absolved, you can become a Godfather, but you are still being held to your promise.

Andy
 
AndyF said:
More of a concern is how you accept your state. I will tell you right now that you are not…“anything”, but captured to some extent in a serious habitual sin.

But the remedy depends on you. Sincerely determine that you will endeavor to change your life through pastoral help,self help groups,devotions,prayer,etc or whatever works for you, then, go to confession and confess all your sins, and never bring this out into the general community. Discretion is important.
Andy
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Why do you hold that someone who has samesex attraction is in a state of serious habitual sin? Many Catholics seem to think that merely experiencing samesex attraction is a sin, but that is not what the Church teaches (at least according to my interpretation of the Catechism of the Catholic Church).

SSA does not seem to be chosen (usually).
 
TheDoctor said:
Not only is there nothing wrong, but you and Jack17 are examples to all of us of Jesus’ command to “take up your cross” and follow him. I can only imagine the daily strength needed to struggle with SSA and remain faithful to the Church’s teachings. God bless you gentlemen. Your strength will be an example for your god-children.
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Amen!!👍👍 You are a great example of Christian gentlemen who are following Jesus Christ. :byzsoc::byzsoc:for you and for your godchildren.
Bless you for your love for, and devotion to Our Lord.
 
Jack17 said:
Okay, well I was ask to be a godfather to a cousin of mine for early next month. I am also gay too, but I am not active (virgin)… But should I in the Catholic Church be a godfather?

And I said yes when I was ask, so I am 100% sure I am doing it.
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A godparent must be a baptized Catholic who is at least sixteen (unless otherwise specified by the diocese), has received the sacraments of Holy Eucharist and Confirmation, and is in good standing with the Catholic Church. Only one godparent is required. Canon law allows a baptized (Christian) non-Catholic to be present as a witness as long as one godparent meets the requirements.

If you fit the bill, go for it.
 
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