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Hello! Can my wife and I attend my gay son’s wedding? It probably won’t be in any church, but we would like to be there.
 
soonercatholic said:
Hello! Can my wife and I attend my gay son’s wedding? It probably won’t be in any church, but we would like to be there.
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By attending his “wedding” you will be essentially stating that you support his decision to have an invalid marriage. Church teaching, I believe, states that you must decline to attend such a celebration.
 
Do not attend this “wedding” which is not a wedding or a marriage at all. If you do, you will give the appearance of condoning what is a gravely sinful event and could cause scandal to others.
 
I think it’s very difficult for you, OP. This is your son, after all, not just a friend or neighbour. If you decide not to attend, I’m sure you’ll make sure that your son knows that you love him and want him to be happy.
 
I wouldn’t go. Since you want to I have to assume you’re support your son’s misguided actions. Personally I’d sooner not be asked one day by my creator why I went and gave the impression that I was condoning such a thing so against His divine teaching.
 
soonercatholic said:
Hello! Can my wife and I attend my gay son’s wedding? It probably won’t be in any church, but we would like to be there.
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This is not a “wedding”, for you to attend would be aiding in sin, I do believe. The fact you asked about whether or not you should go tells me that you already know there is a moral problem with this. Pray, and for your son’s sake, tell him that he is doing something gravely sinful and contrary to human nature. Admonish the sinner! It may mean his salvation!
 
You don’t regard it as a valid marriage. Explain your position to your son. Then attend the ceremony because you love him.
 
If your son was celebrating his getting away with cheating on his wife would you go?

If your son was celebrating a successful kidnapping of a stolen baby would you go?

If your son was celebrating his joining the Nazi party would you go?

No.

I use such examples to make a point here.

I understand it is very very difficult - especially in this cultural climate - but love must be together with truth.

Love - yes.

Affirm or celebrate that which is gravely and objectively disordered? No.

They call it “celebrating a wedding” - “attending a wedding celebration” etc… Attending is of the order of participating in and of approving and of celebrating the “event”.

Truth with love - great love.
 
Catechism:

1868 Sin is a personal act. Moreover, we have a responsibility for the sins committed by others when we cooperate in them:
  • by participating directly and voluntarily in them;
  • by ordering, advising, praising, or approving them;
  • by not disclosing or not hindering them when we have an obligation to do so;
  • by protecting evil-doers.
scborromeo.org/ccc/p3s1c1a8.htm#V

Catechism:

2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,141 tradition has always declared that "homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered."142 They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.

scborromeo.org/ccc/p3s2c2a6.htm#IV

Attending an “attempted wedding” celebration can be said to be quite of the order of approving - of “celebrating” what is happening. As is “giving a gift” for such.
 
soonercatholic said:
Hello! Can my wife and I attend my gay son’s wedding? It probably won’t be in any church, but we would like to be there.
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Why would you like to be there? You do know that this is not a wedding, right? Marriage is only possible between a man and a woman. Anything else is flying in the face of God. It is a mortal sin for both of the men who are attempting this travesty. So, why on earth would you like to be there?

You know that just going is telling them that you approve. Even if you tell them that you do not approve, if you still go - they will believe that you want them to go this.

Do not go.
 
Thanks for all of your comments. I know what I should ( or in this case not) do, but it still is hard!
 
I know what the “right” answer is supposed to be here, but I also think you’ll always regret it if you’re not there.
 
soonercatholic said:
Hello! Can my wife and I attend my gay son’s wedding? It probably won’t be in any church, but we would like to be there.
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Absolutely. You must attend to support your son or you will regret it. I realize that I am the voice of dissent here, but I’m also probably the only one commenting here with a gay son. For most, this is merely a hypothetical situation, in which they have the luxury of considering the situation without actually having to deal with any real life consequences. Please do not listen to them. You will only damage your relationship with your son if you are not there to support him.
 
I think you should attend. It is your son after all, and the Catechism makes clear that we respect people who fall in love with the same sex. God loves all his Children: be there and support your son 👍
 
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