Gays, remarried divorces etc How to respond to them

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Suppose tomorrow you discovered a member of your congregation was a sexually active homosexual, say they had been with a same sex partner for 10+ years on the quiet.

I’ve seen individuals like this before, who like a Catholic who uses condoms buys into several other areas of faith but denies one or several others.

What would you do, or rather what would your priest do? I’ve seen a few reactions here, everything from “you’re fired” (I took over from an outed lesbian) to “who cares?”.

What would be the best path of action, attempts to convert, barring them from the Eucharist (I presume they might be in a state of invincible ignorance, after all why would they do it if they thought it really was a sin?). What course of action is taken, because I missed the “begone sinner” episode before I took my job (this establishment is known for rather extreme positions and I’m aware this is not normal behavior in this country) and I don’t really think liberal Western European and Scandanavian minoirty Catholics were really the most representative examples of Catholic practice. in this respect.
 
I would mind my own business for I confess with St. Paul I am the worst of sinners. I would let the priest handle it if he knows and sees it fit to do so.
 
The best option Verdanty, is not to be a busy body, and just pray for the person or persons and dont make said individual(s) life any harder than it already is. If you are not ready to get neck deep in a persons life then there is no reason to meddle in their life especially if you cant stay in their life for the long haul.
 
Unless they are actively involved in a ministry where there could be scandal involved, you can’t do much other than pray. I suppose that if you know them well enough and are somewhat close to them, you could do a “personal admonishment” (since admonishing a sinner is considered a spiritual work of mercy, and no, Vatican 2 did NOT change that!).
 
I felt obliged to let the priest know one of the special ministers was in a homosexual relationship some years back
 
I would pray for them because being in either situation would be incredibly difficult.

Remarried divorced people - you don’t know if they had their previous marriage annulled, or if was even valid at all. That’s a situation for the priest.

Homosexual people - if they came to you and asked your advice, then I would respond that we all have crosses to bear and that theirs can be a very difficult and lonely journey but that God loves and accepts them - he created them after all - but that sex outside of marriage is a sin and homosexual marriage does not exist in the eyes of the Catholic Church. I wish there were more ministries available for Catholics with same sex attractions. It would be very healing for both those who have SSA and people who don’t know how to care about them without feeling like they’re accepting homosexuality.
 
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