Getting aroused thinking of wife

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I clearly understand Lust and am a married man. When alone, would it be a sin to intentionally be aroused by thinking of my wife? There isn’t an intention necessarily here to be intimate later on that day either. It makes sense though that the purpose of arousal is for the procreative act in marriage.
 
I think it would be if you are doing it in a lustful manner. But sex is part of married life. If you are remembering a good time you had last night or looking forward to the next time you are intimate then I don’t see any problem with that.
 
I really don’t think it would be a sin at all because you can’t lust for something that you already have which in this case is your wife. On the other hand if you were trying to get aroused for the feeling of it and not for the love of your wife than I would think it would be the sin of masturbation. But this is just my opinion on this…
 
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One can have sinful thoughts about their spouse. Attraction and arousal are not lust.

Thinking of how beautiful and holy and smart and kind your wife is, being attracted to her as much as you were that first time you met her, desiring to become one flesh with her, that is a good thing.

On the other hand just wanting to use her for your own pleasure, selfish desire, that is where you jump the line to the sin of lust.
 
I thought you couldn’t lust for something that you already have.
 
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One can have sinful thoughts about their spouse. Attraction and arousal are not lust.

Thinking of how beautiful and holy and smart and kind your wife is, being attracted to her as much as you were that first time you met her, desiring to become one flesh with her, that is a good thing.

On the other hand just wanting to use her for your own pleasure, selfish desire, that is where you jump the line to the sin of lust.
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That’s fair enough but you can’t lump sexual desire and selfish desire into the one box. I do think there is a way that married people can think of their spouse that would be sinful for a single person. We’re supposed to desire our spouse and rejoice in the sexual pleasure which we share with each other. If it was a constant thought and mainly based on you getting your pleasure then that could go in to the area of being sinful. But if it is a thought that also desires that your wife is fulfilled then I think that’s ok.
 
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