Getting over "Pierre"

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I thank all of you guys profusely for doing what you have done. I have received help and encouragement in ways I cannot fully comprehend. Thanks to you Irishmom2 for your motherly heart. Thanks to Trident for being fan already! Thanks to eisiffe for re-stating the goodness and interpersonal coherence of sexual dignity. Thanks to Hoosier Daddy for being a critic! Thanks to Lou2U for being worried for me personally! Thanks to Catholic1954 for reminding me to live in the present! Thanks to GEddie for giving me that tough loving! And thanks to 1ke for reminding me to make an appointment with my psychologist!

I will continue to follow the 12 Steps for AA to break my addiction to Pierre. However, I’ve always felt very convicted to pray for him…until I die. I think there’s clear spiritual warfare going on against me at the very least…and him, too. So, really, I’m loving him in a better way than I could have if I was next to him and didn’t pray for him, complacent and enjoying his patience and kindness, tolerating all the evil in me.

I do not pray for an earthly respite so that I may see him here below. It remains my dream to see him in Heaven. And like they said in Tangled “Go, live your dream!”

“I will.”

Ha!

~ Marlowe
 
MarloweDore said:
I thank all of you guys profusely for doing what you have done. I have received help and encouragement in ways I cannot fully comprehend. Thanks to you Irishmom2 for your motherly heart. Thanks to Trident for being fan already! Thanks to eisiffe for re-stating the goodness and interpersonal coherence of sexual dignity. Thanks to Hoosier Daddy for being a critic! Thanks to Lou2U for being worried for me personally! Thanks to Catholic1954 for reminding me to live in the present! Thanks to GEddie for giving me that tough loving! And thanks to 1ke for reminding me to make an appointment with my psychologist!

I will continue to follow the 12 Steps for AA to break my addiction to Pierre. However, I’ve always felt very convicted to pray for him…until I die. I think there’s clear spiritual warfare going on against me at the very least…and him, too. So, really, I’m loving him in a better way than I could have if I was next to him and didn’t pray for him, complacent and enjoying his patience and kindness, tolerating all the evil in me.
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There was a reason you met this young man and that could be it. Prayer can do wonderful things, and maybe your sincere thoughts and prayers will make him a better person and keep him going throughout life. There are no such thing as an accidental meeting.
 
I would recommend watching before sunrise and before sunset, both amazing movies that share a very common theme with your experience.
 
science says it can take 6 -24 months ON AVG to begin getting over a love. it is psychologically akin to the death of a loved one.

As the example above we don’t always fully stop loving someone. Especially if they did not wrong us…

even if they did, I am reminded of a friend who is married. Prior to his marriage he was divorced from a exwife who cheated on him many moons ago. He is married with children now and all that jazz.

The crux is he will admit he still loves his exwife more than even his current, he cannot and will not ever be with her again because of what she did…but there is still much love there.

Sometimes we pack up and deal with the hand we are dealt.
 
Entwhistler said:
There was a reason you met this young man and that could be it. Prayer can do wonderful things, and maybe your sincere thoughts and prayers will make him a better person and keep him going throughout life. There are no such thing as an accidental meeting.
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I always hope so.
Strydersroom said:
I would recommend watching before sunrise and before sunset, both amazing movies that share a very common theme with your experience.
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I saw the first half (I take breaks from movies because I have a short attention span/am busy) :o It was so cute! I loved Ethan Hawke in Snow Falling on Cedars and in general anyway! I think you’re quite right. Now I have some movie to watch when I’m going through withdrawal…haha.
LethalMouse said:
science says it can take 6 -24 months ON AVG to begin getting over a love. it is psychologically akin to the death of a loved one.

As the example above we don’t always fully stop loving someone. Especially if they did not wrong us…

even if they did, I am reminded of a friend who is married. Prior to his marriage he was divorced from a exwife who cheated on him many moons ago. He is married with children now and all that jazz.

The crux is he will admit he still loves his exwife more than even his current, he cannot and will not ever be with her again because of what she did…but there is still much love there.

Sometimes we pack up and deal with the hand we are dealt.
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Yes, I am in the process of dealing and packing! Don’t hurry me, Papa! 😛 Thanks for saying that it takes that long. I’m actually doing much better than 6 months ago, so I think that stat is quite right!

Ah, I don’t mind having a little piece of my heart consecrated to Pierre. :cool:

Thanks again, guys!
 
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