Girlfriend may not forgive me

[1ke]

well this was last year, but i cheated on her with her sister and i regret it so much.
It wasn’t intentional…but it happend. she forgave me (so she said) and we moved on.

If you had a child with me and had sex with my sister, I’d never speak to either of you again. This is a betrayal not just of her but of the whole family relationship.

If she is talking to you at all, you should be on your knees thanking God.

Grow up, get a job, control yourself, and MAYBE she will take you back. But, you and the sister have damaged the family by this act.

 

[jrabs]

Wow - you are absolutley NOT going to like my post, but tough acts need tough words.
You may love your girlfriend, however your actions speak louder. You betrayed her with her sister. It didn’t just happen because things don’t just happen. You make choices -and this was a supremely dumb and disastrous one.

I am not surprised you girlfriend has not spoken to you.
You have no job and you lost your license? The license thing is also alarming! Whatever led to that situation was also not an accident. It obviously was dangerous and careless…and you have a baby to think about.

Dude - I really don’t mean to rain on your happy upbeat thoughts, but talking like a parent, someone needs to smack you upside the head (in a figurative way of course).

You are a student, but you also have a child to support. Who is providing the money for the baby right now?

There are a few things going on here. You are NOT ready to get married to anyone. You need to do some soul searching and praying.

In my opinion, you are not a good fit for this gal and her family. The sister is a temptation to you. How do you move on with that? How does the fam,ily move on? You said the sister is always meddling, well that is not healthy either.

Whatever happens, please think about this poor girlfriend and her well being. It may not be with you.
I do hope there is a happy ending in this sad story.

 

[Irishmom2]

l.
miss when God was closer to me. still feel like he’s not here sometimes

God is not the one that moved away, you did.

You have been given some excellent advice. You must improve yourself not for your girlfriend, although it may please her eventually, but for yourself. When you are close to God again, the outcome however it ends up, will be one you can handle because you will feel His presence in your life.

May God bless you and guide you.

 

[kage_ar]

i love writing letters. MORE meanigful sometimes. Esp when talkin to friends that dont expect anything but bills. lol

FlyingFish,
i do mostly everything on my own. i rarely askk others for help.
ride with my friend to church, she lives close by and she’s always been supportive since i started going there. but take the bus where i need to go.
and i am in skool. be done this upcoming may. would be sooner but had some difficulties with family. uhh

I dont blame anyone for my mistakes. wish more ppl would do the same.
have my faults and bad decisions. time to grow up, be a man and take care of it.
getting a job in my area is harder than it seems. sometimes i do think about a career change but my goals are set, think i’ll be fine. most the jobs i see are manager jobs which is part of my education path.

News flash - when you get out of school (that is the way it is spelled, by the way) - that diploma does not have “guarantee of a manager job” stamped on back.

You will still have to have experience and pay your dues.

People DO get jobs and work full time while in school. It will help you to learn discipline and responsibility to have a job now.

Clean up your spelling and grammar, your job application will be thrown in the trash can if you don’t.

 

[SarahR]

Forgiveness is one thing…but to think that one deserves another chance after doing that?? Sorry but…good luck.

 

[dulcissima]

Sometimes when you chase after something, you just drive it further away. If you have already sincerely apologized, then you need to give your former girlfriend some respect and give her some space. Instead of pursuing her, I would focus your efforts on becoming the man that you need to be which would include finishing school, getting a job, supporting your son (both financially and emotionally) and addressing whatever bad habits led to your loss of your license. I think taking on those responsibilities would speak much better for you than any words you could throw together in a phone call or letter.

 

[TRD_jody]

Sometimes when you chase after something, you just drive it further away. If you have already sincerely apologized, then you need to give your former girlfriend some respect and give her some space. Instead of pursuing her, I would focus your efforts on becoming the man that you need to be which would include finishing school, getting a job, supporting your son (both financially and emotionally) and addressing whatever bad habits led to your loss of your license. I think taking on those responsibilities would speak much better for you than any words you could throw together in a phone call or letter.

by far my favorite reply. thank you.

kage_ar
im guessing you DiDNT NOTiCE i spelled those words lyk that iNTENTiONALly!!


anyways…
i have a job, my manager said she not gonna have me start working untill after christmas which sux. (<see, intentional!! )

AND this cheating incident happend BEFROE we had a baby.
just clarifying that.