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****Hello,God Bless you all,
I would like your view on this sitution.
A women marries a man of Mexico,he becomes legal,works,as time goes on ,he brings his two children to America,applies for legal status for the children.The couple separate from each other,the children live with the step mother.The natural mother is departed from this world before the children came to america.So the step mother raises the children for years,seeing the father once in a while.More time goes on ,the family finds out the Father is in deep trouble,he goes to prison,is going to be deported when his prison time is up.
Now the question is what do you think should happen to the children.The paper work is not finished.The children only have the step mother ,other siblings from the stepmother,for a family.Deeply connected ,great in school,many outside activities,such as football,counsiling to other teens as a peer mentor,ect…they do not in any shape or form want to go back to Mexico,they hardly remember being there ,as they came to america as young kids.Now they are teens.
Big question is,what do you think of this sitution?What do you think should happen next?Because they were born in mexico,do you think they should return?Should they be allowed to stay here in america with the only familly and life they know?
LOve of God to you all,freshwater:blessyou:
 
Why didnt anybody every complete the paper work for these kids? Does she have any legal rights over these kids? Did she adpot them?
 
I think she should do what anyone else would do in similar circumstances, get a lawyer to protect her rights and the rights of the children, and finish “getting the paperwork.”
 
Okay,the answer to the questions here is that the mother is disabled ,no money for lawyer.NO ,not adopted.She would love to adopt,only the father refuses.Now ,???any answers?So far i am seeing that you folks believe the kids should stay ,right!? With all the hate going around about immigrations letting immigrants stay here in the states,i was interested in how people felt about the kids staying.I strongly believe the kids should stay.Blessings,freshwater
 
freshwater said:
Okay,the answer to the questions here is that the mother is disabled ,no money for lawyer.NO ,not adopted.She would love to adopt,only the father refuses.Now ,???any answers?So far i am seeing that you folks believe the kids should stay ,right!? With all the hate going around about immigrations letting immigrants stay here in the states,i was interested in how people felt about the kids staying.I strongly believe the kids should stay.Blessings,freshwater
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if she has no money who supports these kids?
well as the step mom has no legal rights over these kids and the father will not allow her to adopt them and seeing as he is being deported more than likely his kids will have to go with him.
Also I do think that the kids should stay** if they have all their proper papers**…they have had ample time to get them!
 
Confusing post. I faxed it to my attorney spouse who to be fair does not specialize in this area. But spouse said its a case that is one that not many attorneys would touch. Also, many details are missing from this case that simply dont make logical sense.

Just the 2 cents of a lawyer.
 
Damascus said:
Confusing post. I faxed it to my attorney spouse who to be fair does not specialize in this area. But spouse said its a case that is one that not many attorneys would touch. Also, many details are missing from this case that simply dont make logical sense.

Just the 2 cents of a lawyer.
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That’s the way I saw it as well (though I am not a lawyer).

For one, the father’s opinion is missing. Since he has the legal right to take his kids back to Mexico, the desire of the step-mom and kids may not matter.

How old are the kids? Would that make a difference? ( I know it does in custody battles, but again, we are talking dad versus step-mom, not dad versus mom.)

How long have they been here?

Why wasn’t the paperwork finished?

How long will the dad be in prison before being deported? What age will the kids be then? (again, if their age is relevant).

I think their illegal status is a separate issue. If you are asking if they should be allowed residency, I personally have no problem with that…but only after the custody issue is taken care of.
 
freshwater said:
With all the hate going around about immigrations letting immigrants stay here in the states,i was interested in how people felt about the kids staying.
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I am guessing the majority of us would like to see the family stay intact. Since the step-mother and kids have bonded, it would be good to keep them together. But the father, of course, has parental rights first and foremost.

It sounds like a very sad situation.
 
freshwater said:
Hello,God Bless you all,
I would like your view on this sitution.
A women marries a man of Mexico,he becomes legal,works,as time goes on ,he brings his two children to America,applies for legal status for the children.The couple separate from each other,the children live with the step mother.The natural mother is departed from this world before the children came to america.So the step mother raises the children for years,seeing the father once in a while.More time goes on ,the family finds out the Father is in deep trouble,he goes to prison,is going to be deported when his prison time is up.
Now the question is what do you think should happen to the children.The paper work is not finished.The children only have the step mother ,other siblings from the stepmother,for a family.Deeply connected ,great in school,many outside activities,such as football,counsiling to other teens as a peer mentor,ect…they do not in any shape or form want to go back to Mexico,they hardly remember being there ,as they came to america as young kids.Now they are teens.
Big question is,what do you think of this sitution?What do you think should happen next?Because they were born in mexico,do you think they should return?Should they be allowed to stay here in america with the only familly and life they know?
LOve of God to you all,freshwater:blessyou:
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Is this a hypothetical situation, or a real life case?
 
The children have been here since they were three and six years old,they are teens now.
The father has about a month left in prison.
He has been abusive to the family all along.There is record of his abuse on court document.
Familly has struggled money wise.Large family,they help out money wise all they can.
NO one has had the two thousand dollars it takes to finish the paper work .Still working on these funds.
The father will have no say in the adoption when the oldest of these kids turns eighteen,which is soon…Mother will still adopt.NO divorce is planned.As both parents are catholic.
I am the mother of these children.Its so said to say that step parents have no right s.
I have ten children all together ,eight i gave birth to.
I had no idea my husband was into drugs ,with his family,it was like a mafia sitution.He has had a bad drinking problem for a long time,also gambling. Tough life,is why i couldn’t keep livieng with him ,it wasn’t good for the kids.Too much abuse.
We kept waiting for him to give us the money to pay for the paper work to get finished.Its half way done now.
I have appointment to go to see a attorney next month.
I’ve been praying for God to protect our family,to watch over our every step. Thankyou for giveing me your views.In God we trust.
 
I hope you succeed in keeping them with you. I will keep you in and the kids in my prayers. I’m hoping their age may help in the situation, but their legal status will probably complicate things.

God bless,

Robert
freshwater said:
The children have been here since they were three and six years old,they are teens now.
The father has about a month left in prison.
He has been abusive to the family all along.There is record of his abuse on court document.
Familly has struggled money wise.Large family,they help out money wise all they can.
NO one has had the two thousand dollars it takes to finish the paper work .Still working on these funds.
The father will have no say in the adoption when the oldest of these kids turns eighteen,which is soon…Mother will still adopt.NO divorce is planned.As both parents are catholic.
I am the mother of these children.Its so said to say that step parents have no right s.
I have ten children all together ,eight i gave birth to.
I had no idea my husband was into drugs ,with his family,it was like a mafia sitution.He has had a bad drinking problem for a long time,also gambling. Tough life,is why i couldn’t keep livieng with him ,it wasn’t good for the kids.Too much abuse.
We kept waiting for him to give us the money to pay for the paper work to get finished.Its half way done now.
I have appointment to go to see a attorney next month.
I’ve been praying for God to protect our family,to watch over our every step. Thankyou for giveing me your views.In God we trust.
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freshwater said:
I am the mother of these children.Its so said to say that step parents have no rights.
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Thank you for giveing me your views.
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Our views aren’t of much use to you, but our prayers might help. I will certainly be praying for you and your family. Please, if you would be so kind, let us know how things progress.
 
My prayers for you and your family this morning.

my heart is with you now.

I will ask your intention be prayed for from my priest I know well.

May I suggest if you have not already spend some time with Mary now.

She is the mother of all, and knows sorrow.

I can tell you she hears our prayers. I am a believer in that.

Hail Mary, Mother of God Pray for us!
 
freshwater said:
I am the mother of these children.Its so said to say that step parents have no right s.
I have ten children all together ,eight i gave birth to.
I had no idea my husband was into drugs ,with his family,it was like a mafia sitution.He has had a bad drinking problem for a long time,also gambling. Tough life,is why i couldn’t keep livieng with him ,it wasn’t good for the kids.Too much abuse.
We kept waiting for him to give us the money to pay for the paper work to get finished.Its half way done now.
I have appointment to go to see a attorney next month.
I’ve been praying for God to protect our family,to watch over our every step. Thankyou for giveing me your views.In God we trust.
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From what you described earlier you are not the birth mother of these two teens.
You said the natural mother departed this world.
You must be the stepmother who raised them, wanted to adopt them but your husband would not permit.

I am sorry for the turmoil you are going through, but bottom line is those teens are the reponsibility of the father. He put you in a bad position to raise them all these years while denying you the opportunity to adopt them. He has done you and the children a great disservice but that is neither here nor there, for now.

When he goes back to Mexico, the kids would have to go with him. Unfortunately for the kids, once they get to Mexico they will need to apply for visas to come back legally (perhaps a student visa would do for the elder, if his/her grades are good now, and people at the school could help him/her apply for and gain admission to a community college or university).

It will be a very rough time for them and for you. But it is not necessarily permanent. They will need whatever support, financial/legal, you can provide for them. Just having you sign documents stating you would house them if they were to come back is worth a LOT.

The one closest to 18 will have the better situation. If he/she turns 18 before the father gets released perhaps he can file, as an adult, to become legal here, independent of his/her father. Once he/she is legal, he/she can seek U.S. citizenship. If he/she becomes a citizen he/she will be in a better position, especially with your support, to get the younger sibling back from Mexico.

My heart goes out to the younger sibling who has no say in any of this and will bear the more difficult part of this burden. It will be absolutely crucial that the teens find a way to communicate with you while they are away. You can provide them much hope, and that is something they will need to get through this rough phase of their life.

My prayers are with you and the children.

Questions…
who knows that the father who is about to be deported has two children here in the states? I suppose if there are no government agencies looking to send these children home when they send the father home, all of this worry may be unnecessary.

Has the father indicated to you at all that when he gets released and deported he intends to take the children with him, or has he asked you to keep them safe here as long as possible?
 
Greetings to all,
Thankyou for keeping us in your prayers.
I got great news last night.I spoke with a attorney,he says i can finish the paper work that we started.He gave me all the information i needed .ONly thing left to do is to come up with the money .Now it will cost us six thousand dollars. Got to rack my brain to find a way to come up with this.I’m going to take a peek in the computer and see if there are any fund raiser’s that i could do to help out.
Thankyou for your prayers,i know God is listening.I spoke to my husband today,apparently he is out of prison.He’s in Mexico now.So far he isn’t fighting me on this subject.I 'm praying that he stays with this train of thought.God Bless you all.
Freshwater
 
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