God and insecurities

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Is it a sin to get your feelings hurt by words? I thought we weren’t supposed to give our feelings power or let a man’s words effect us…doesn’t that point to vanity or a shaky sense of self? If you were truly confident, nothing a person’s said or does would bother you. I wonder if anyone is truly that invincible. Besides, why can’t people be kind? If you are vain or insecure, you’re bait for cruelty and bullies. Why are some people more vulnerable to abuse than others
 
My personal opinion is that it’s OK to be hurt by words. It doesn’t make you weak if you’re hurt because someone lied about you or something like that. Our words can have a profound impact on people, that’s why so many persons have committed suicide due to bullying.
 
“all that will live godly in Christ Jesus, shall suffer persecution.” (2 Tim 3:12) We will either be overtaken by God or the devil. Those who choose to serve God, choose the cross. There are pure and impure crosses: See Friends of the Cross (found online) by Saint Louis de Montfort.
 
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Contrary what the world would like us to believe, words can be upbuilding but also can be harmful. Scripture likens to tongue as fire that can burn the whole forest (James).

So yes, we can be hurt by words spoken. Curses can harm and affect us spiritually.

If we are troubled, hurt and harmed by unkind words, it is not unusual.

However, we can be strengthened by the power of the Holy Spirit and knowing that if God is with us, who therefore can be against us? If God is our Father, what does it matter then what others speak of us?

However, to reach that level of self confident, one has to grow in maturity in the Lord and allow the Lord to be our defense, our peace and our fortress.

God bless.
 
Feelings are neither good nor bad.
The moral component is what you decide to do with those feelings.
Talk it out with the person or let it go=good
Take revenge on the person=bad
 
“Those who gather shall drink in my holy courts (the Most Holy Sacrifice of the Mass). Pass through, pass through the gates (via Delarosa), prepare a way for the people. Build up, build up the highway, clear it of stones, raise up a standard (the imitation of Christ in the saints) over the nations. The Lord has proclaimed to the ends of the earth: say to daughter Zion, See you savior comes! (the priest transubstantiates the bread) See his reward is with him, his recompense before him. They shall be called the Holy People. The Redeemed of the Lord. And you shall be called, ‘Cared For’, 'A City Not Forsaken.” (Isa 62: 9-12)

“A brother that is helped by his brother, is like a strong city” (Prov 18:19)
 
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Based on my own recent experiences:
  1. I wouldn’t worry about not being able to suffer with a smile. Yes, we should be able to do that, as many saints did, but that doesn’t mean we’re able to do that now, since that requires growth in love of the Lord. Instead, let’s use our current suffering to get there; love God as much as we can right now, share it with Him in prayer and ask for grace, that we are able to grow ever closer to him.
  2. Since you suffer right now, use that suffering. Sometimes, God allows us to suffer, indeed, it can be a great gift from Him, because great benefit can come from that suffering; we can offer it in reparation of our sins and let it work for our salvation. Servant of God Élisabeth Leseur, whose dearly beloved husband was an atheist who refused to convert and actively attacked her religion, offered the suffering he caused her for his conversion. Successfully. And there are many other ways.
As my beloved quote from St. John Maria Vianney goes,
Whether we will or not, we must suffer. There are some who suffer like the good thief, and others like the bad thief. They both suffered equally. But one knew how to make his sufferings meritorious, he accepted them in the spirit of reparation, and turning towards Jesus crucified, he received from His mouth these beautiful words: “This day thou shalt be with Me in Paradise.“
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"O God, the strength of all who trust in You, it was from You that blessed confessor bishop Gregory drew courage and perseverance in defending the freedom of Your Church. May his example and intercession help us to face all adversity bravely. "

Collect of Pope Saint Gregory VII, Proper of Saints: May 25, Roman Missal (1962)

As Gregory was dying in 1085, he said, “I have loved justice and hated iniquity; therefore I die in exile.”
 
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I’ve been scared off from practicing Catholicism strongly because I see more opportunities that I will fail as a person. New and more insecurities to discover
 
I understand, at least somewhat. I have failed often in various ways the more I got into my faith. And the more one knows, the more acutely is one aware of one’s shortcomings. But still, I can do nothing else but encourage you with all my heart to dig deeper, because the most incredible, beautiful world is waiting for you. The depths of God’s love are inscrutable, of course, but honestly, even the “non-central” aspects od Catholicism (devotions, lives of saints, general Catholic culture, …) still give you five lifetimes of wonders to explore 😃 I could never give up being a Catholic since I got seriously into it with all my life. So if you feel like it, take a deep breath, pray to the Holy Spirit for guidance and wisdom and go for it 🙂 And try, if you can, to shop around few parishes for a holy priest who you would be comfortable with as your spiritual director – that can do wonders for souls with low self-esteem, scrupulosity etc. I’ll often pray for you, and may the peace of our Lord be with you 🙂
 
Jesus had feelings too. And showed emotion for others. It’s not a sin to feel, since they just happen. But yes, holding on to bothersome feelings is destructive. It’s an issue you have to deal with. I often have problems with letting go of bothersome feelings lately.
Have you ever said to someone, “i’m not scared of you”? At that time they want you to feel bad, but you don’t… No bad feelings to hold onto!
 
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