Mary_Gail_36
New member
Reputable people don’t like to have a drink and don’t like to dance? I’m an old married lady, DH and I on occasion like to have a drink. and/or dance.The message in your post seems very clear, concise and applicable. It’s simple: Reputable people don’t go to clubs or bars (very few like Cheers)!!! Reputations are ruined. Some based upon the very idea “of going to a bar and/or a club.” The club and/or bar carries its own connotation. You used the term “sexualized.” That’s a very appropriate description for the attendees at a bar or club. Attending with a “friend,” going to “listen to the music” or going to “have a drink” are all lame excuses.
To the OP, you can’t control what other people do. If your friend found it appropriate to hook up at a bar, he could find it also appropriate to hook up at the bowling alley, or park. I don’t think it’s your fault.