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I made a decision today. I have been considering leaving Catholic Answers for a few months. I planned to “cut the cord” when we get our overseas assignment but I feel called to do it sooner. You have all been a great support to me when my husband is out on missions. It can be so lonely at night when he is gone for weeks at a time, and being home alone with the responsibility of three wonderful kids can be a challenge! It was really hard there for awhile when my friends moved away, but I have been getting aquainted with some of the new families in base housing, so I feel called to invest my time there.
I find it very troubling to be accused of being a racist, or uncharitable, or having my threads picked apart. This is the worst it has ever been, but it does happen freqently, even for little things.
I am going to ask the moderators to remove my thread. “MOM Cursed two mad Black women” This was not intended to be “racist” as I am not RACIST. I have tried to be patient with the people on here who are blasting me, and seem to be very much enjoying it, especially considering they are new to this site, and haven’t figued out that I am not the person they are accusing me to be.
I feel it would be a double standard and racist if I had been “afraid” to say that the women who made rascial slurs toward my mother and I were black. It was the honest truth, I felt no need to walk on eggshells. I treat people equally. If you consider treating people equally, and holding them to the same standard of behavior, then I think you have a misguided idea of what racism is. I do not and have never held the opinion or belief that one race is better than another. As an Air Force Wife I have friends from all over the globe and every walk of life. I feel no need to justify myself and my life to people who are obviously overly offended. This thread took a turn that was not it’s original intent.
I have been around far too many bigots who, becuase they were well- phrased in political correctness and knew how to behave to someone’s face, got by with flying colors at the workplace or in general, when in reality they were racist or bigoted and just hid it very well. In my life, especially coming from a family of mixed race, It is the people who “pretend” to be nice and loving and friendly, when in reality they were just afraid of a bad reaction from how they really feel. I would much rather be with people who are “real” and honest and tell you like it is, than somone who is so afraid of offending others, and harboring a prejudice against you.
Now I understand why my mom was so angry. She has been dealing with this much longer than I and on a more personal level because of my dad.
Actually, this thread made me face the reality that the double standard is possibly worse than I realized. It is the Americans who are of mixed race that have a wider perspective on this issue. Sure, in a perfect world,using the right politically correct words would fix people’s hearts, but unfortunately, Politcal Correctness only provides a disguise for the ugly truth. I guess that is why so many of my friends, even now, are of mixed ethnic background.
If you can take what I wrote, an honest situation with an honest question on how to help my mom overcome her anger and this habit of “cursing” people, well, you just used polical correctness police to take down a friend, a person on the side of justice and truth. Political Correctness was devised to keep news media from being sued… but it has mutated into being part of the problem.
I guarantee if I had titled the thread “Mom cursed two mad white women” and my mom had been black and the three women called her a “*B” there would be people telling me to lodge a formal complaint against the cashier and sue Walmart.
What a mess we are in when people on the same “side” cut each other down because of a few words, rather than looking at the intent and heart of the person. That is the whole problem here.
If you see that this thread is locked down it is because of my request to do so.
I am going to rejoin the world where friends can look into each other’s eyes and see Christ in one another.
Good bye everyone, I will be gone in a few hours! Please know that every post I have ever made was done with a pure heart, in charity and the desire to help others, and I came here as an apologist, to defend the Catholic faith against hatred and misinformation. My oldest threads are all in “Apologetics” and “NonCatholic Religions” but since then I have migrated toward “Family” I guess you could say I came here as an apologist and left as a friend.
God Bless you all!
Peace!
I find it very troubling to be accused of being a racist, or uncharitable, or having my threads picked apart. This is the worst it has ever been, but it does happen freqently, even for little things.
I am going to ask the moderators to remove my thread. “MOM Cursed two mad Black women” This was not intended to be “racist” as I am not RACIST. I have tried to be patient with the people on here who are blasting me, and seem to be very much enjoying it, especially considering they are new to this site, and haven’t figued out that I am not the person they are accusing me to be.
I feel it would be a double standard and racist if I had been “afraid” to say that the women who made rascial slurs toward my mother and I were black. It was the honest truth, I felt no need to walk on eggshells. I treat people equally. If you consider treating people equally, and holding them to the same standard of behavior, then I think you have a misguided idea of what racism is. I do not and have never held the opinion or belief that one race is better than another. As an Air Force Wife I have friends from all over the globe and every walk of life. I feel no need to justify myself and my life to people who are obviously overly offended. This thread took a turn that was not it’s original intent.
I have been around far too many bigots who, becuase they were well- phrased in political correctness and knew how to behave to someone’s face, got by with flying colors at the workplace or in general, when in reality they were racist or bigoted and just hid it very well. In my life, especially coming from a family of mixed race, It is the people who “pretend” to be nice and loving and friendly, when in reality they were just afraid of a bad reaction from how they really feel. I would much rather be with people who are “real” and honest and tell you like it is, than somone who is so afraid of offending others, and harboring a prejudice against you.
Now I understand why my mom was so angry. She has been dealing with this much longer than I and on a more personal level because of my dad.
Actually, this thread made me face the reality that the double standard is possibly worse than I realized. It is the Americans who are of mixed race that have a wider perspective on this issue. Sure, in a perfect world,using the right politically correct words would fix people’s hearts, but unfortunately, Politcal Correctness only provides a disguise for the ugly truth. I guess that is why so many of my friends, even now, are of mixed ethnic background.
If you can take what I wrote, an honest situation with an honest question on how to help my mom overcome her anger and this habit of “cursing” people, well, you just used polical correctness police to take down a friend, a person on the side of justice and truth. Political Correctness was devised to keep news media from being sued… but it has mutated into being part of the problem.
I guarantee if I had titled the thread “Mom cursed two mad white women” and my mom had been black and the three women called her a “*B” there would be people telling me to lodge a formal complaint against the cashier and sue Walmart.
What a mess we are in when people on the same “side” cut each other down because of a few words, rather than looking at the intent and heart of the person. That is the whole problem here.
If you see that this thread is locked down it is because of my request to do so.
I am going to rejoin the world where friends can look into each other’s eyes and see Christ in one another.
Good bye everyone, I will be gone in a few hours! Please know that every post I have ever made was done with a pure heart, in charity and the desire to help others, and I came here as an apologist, to defend the Catholic faith against hatred and misinformation. My oldest threads are all in “Apologetics” and “NonCatholic Religions” but since then I have migrated toward “Family” I guess you could say I came here as an apologist and left as a friend.
God Bless you all!
Peace!