Guys: What would you do for the woman you love?

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I’m a girl and I know how I act, I just don’t know the other side. Guys, what would you do for the woman you love?

If she came home in tears, what would you do…Run to her? Ask her what’s wrong, hold her?

Feel free to put in your own scenerios.
 
From my perspective, a better and more helpful question would be what would a girl want us to do?
 
Can I turn this around and ask what would a girl do if her guy came to her upset, let’s say he’s really p.o.'d about something but says he doesn’t want to talk about it. Girls?
 
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Can I turn this around and ask what would a girl do if her guy came to her upset, let’s say he’s really p.o.'d about something but says he doesn’t want to talk about it. Girls?
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I would hold his hand, tell him that whatever it is it’ll be okay and I’ll help him through it…

…and then I’d have a long and serious conversation with thim about the importance of openness and communication in a relationship! 😛

P.S. I would be really worried if my guy was upset about something, but didn’t want to tell me. I’d interpret it as him not trusting me enough, not being able to seek comfort in me, not being emotionally close to me etc.
 
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Hermione:
I would hold his hand, tell him that whatever it is it’ll be okay and I’ll help him through it…

…and then I’d have a long and serious conversation with thim about the importance of openness and communication in a relationship! 😛

P.S. I would be really worried if my guy was upset about something, but didn’t want to tell me. I’d interpret it as him not trusting me enough, not being able to seek comfort in me, not being emotionally close to me etc.
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Sorry Hermione… it sounds like you want your guy to be a girl, lol.

Your above interpretation is flat out wrong. I really suggest you pick up the book “The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands” by Dr.Laura. She explains this much better than I could ever hope to.

Face it girls…guys are NOT like us. WE need handholding and long conversations… THEY don’t.

Malia
 
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Pro-Life_Teen:
I’m a girl and I know how I act, I just don’t know the other side. Guys, what would you do for the woman you love?
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Pro-Life Teen,

I just realized that this thread has been “hijacked”. I hope that the other posters will answer your original question and maybe start another thread for the question of what a woman would do for her man?

Malia
 
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Pro-Life_Teen:
I’m a girl and I know how I act, I just don’t know the other side. Guys, what would you do for the woman you love?

If she came home in tears, what would you do…Run to her? Ask her what’s wrong, hold her?

Feel free to put in your own scenerios.
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I would find out who made her cry, then I would go make them cry.:yup:

You want a problem fixed, marry a man. You want to take part in a focus group so that everyone feels fulfilled, marry what the left wing intelligencia have determined to be a “man”.
 
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Hermione:
I would hold his hand, tell him that whatever it is it’ll be okay and I’ll help him through it…

…and then I’d have a long and serious conversation with thim about the importance of openness and communication in a relationship! 😛

P.S. I would be really worried if my guy was upset about something, but didn’t want to tell me. I’d interpret it as him not trusting me enough, not being able to seek comfort in me, not being emotionally close to me etc.
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That’s the reason I asked the question because that is what a girl would want a guy to do, nothing personal i know you sincerely mean well but I’m sure many guys gagged at your response. It took me years to figure this out myself.

Girls/women (generally speaking) want to to be hugged, talked to, they want their guy “to it drag out of them” what ever is wrong even it means chasing after them (because that proves that they really care).

Boys/men (generally speaking again) want space to think things through. So many arguements and hurts happen because women interpret this to lack of trust, love ect. It’s just who guys are. It isn’t anymore wrong than a women wanting her man to chase after her if she’s upset.

If you tell a guy I want to be left alone, I don’t want to talk about it chances are he will drop it, - he will leave you alone. Because that it what he would want. It has nothing to do with trust, comfort, love or any of that. And chances are if you do tell him he will try to give you a solution to your problem because that’s what guys do. If a guy brings up a problem to another guy they aren’t looking for sympathy (generally again) they are looking for an answer and if they don’t want one they don’t bring it up.

I didn’t mean to high jack this thread. I was trying to answer jbradley. And I had a feeling the way prolife teen phrased the question a guy didn’t respond they way she expected him to.
 
A few people mentioned that I have unrealistic expectations of guys.

I don’t think this true. I’m engaged right now, and my fiance and I are extremely close. If something was wrong with me and I refused to tell him he would be upset as well.

I don’t think this is a man/woman thing. I think it is a need for openess, closeness, and communication. If the relationship is good, I don’t see any reason why a man who is upset would not WANT to tell his wife as soon as he could. After all, they are ONE FLESH. I think their connection extends to their thoughts, feelings, and everything that happens to them in their lives.

I think society treats men unfairly, men have feelings and a need for comfort and affection as well.

Maybe the reason many men withdraw is because sometimes they’re thought as less than men if they display feelings.

Jesus, the perfect man, cried! (If I am not mistaken)
 
You stole my thread!

But that’s ok. 😛

If he came to me ‘upset’, like angry, I’d try to help. Get him to talk to me and calm him down, then I’d suggest doing something together… like go to Mass, or a stroll around the street. Something to take our minds off things for a little.

Then, if he was still angry, I’d sit down with him and help him a bit more… unless he wished to be alone, then I’d let him.
 
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Hermione:
A few people mentioned that I have unrealistic expectations of guys.

I don’t think this true. I’m engaged right now, and my fiance and I are extremely close. If something was wrong with me and I refused to tell him he would be upset as well.

I don’t think this is a man/woman thing. I think it is a need for openess, closeness, and communication. If the relationship is good, I don’t see any reason why a man who is upset would not WANT to tell his wife as soon as he could. After all, they are ONE FLESH. I think their connection extends to their thoughts, feelings, and everything that happens to them in their lives.

I think society treats men unfairly, men have feelings and a need for comfort and affection as well.

Maybe the reason many men withdraw is because sometimes they’re thought as less than men if they display feelings.

Jesus, the perfect man, cried! (If I am not mistaken)
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My husband and I are very close, we communicate well, and we are more open with each other than we are with anyone else (other than our priest ofcourse). I have comforted my husband when *he wants *to becomforted. His grandparents were recently killed in a car accident and I held him tight.

I* don’t see any reason why a man who is upset would not WANT to tell his wife as soon as he could *That is because that is how you feel, that’s exactly what I do when I am upset. Part of communication in a relationship is respecting the differences in each other not forcing what is the right way -in your mind.

My husband knows to come after me if I’m upset, he knows I want a hug, he knows I just want him to listen so that is what he does. And I know when my husband is upset to give him his space. If I get an overwelming urge to hug him I’ll ask “do you mind if I give you a hug?” Mostly he’ll say ok but if not I’ll say “well if you need anything just let me know.” and then I back off. Usually he goes and plays video games or does something else distacting.

The thing is since I’ve stopped trying to “comfort” him with attention and affection he’ll usually eventually will tell me what it was when he feel’s like talking about it. Please don’t buy into the myth then men and women are the same, that men are just conditioned to be different. I think I will post a seperate thread on this since I don’t want to “high jack” pro life’s thread.
 
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