Have you ever had a totally wrong first impression of a person?

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Or even thought ill of a person for a long time, finally realizing that you were completely wrong about your negative impression of that person?

Or has this happened to you? Where people thought very bad of you but later changed their mind?
 
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Yep. Sometimes first impressions are spot on, other times, way, way wrong.

Both towards others and towards you.
 
Towards “me” huh? Well, probably both of your impressions are wrong then.
 
Towards my best friend. Thought she was incredibly annoying and rude, then I spent enough time around her that I fell in love. If that’s not a change, I don’t know what is.
 
Oh yes. I thought one girl was a major jerk, arrogant and snotty. She turned out to have a heart of pure gold. The other time I thought a guy was an argumentative and abrasive degenerate but it turns out he also had an amazingly kind streak. So yeah, I’m not a good judge of character at all.

It’s all on me-I had a very simplistic and naive view of human nature. Now, I realize that people are human. Capable of both great kindness and great cruelty.
 
We are all broken. Even the best of us are flawed and we are all just trying to make it. Once we move from viewing each other as enemies to viewing each other as weakened beings struggling against the horrifying and yet amazing journey of life it gets a lot easier! Once I saw everyone as hurting it’s hard to dislike or view anyone with anything but compassion.
 
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Or has this happened to you? Where people thought very bad of you but later changed their mind?
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Yeah, I got off on the totally wrong foot with a guy from my hometown some years ago. I was living somewhere else and he was living in the city where I was born and every time he’d start posting on this forum we were both on about that city, I’d get so excited and start posting and chiming in about lots of stuff and he thought I was a big know-it-all and got annoyed and finally just told me where to go.

About a year later the forum had this huge beer bash at a picnic grounds and it turned into a bonding event and I grabbed the guy after we were both drunk and told him I wanted to make peace with him and I wasn’t trying to be a jerk, I was just so totally homesick. Over time we got to be good friends. When I was really upset this past St. Patrick’s Day over the death in my family, him and his wife were the ones who invited me out for a drink.
 
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