I have a girlfriend who is in desperate need of help and I’m scared that I’m givinge her bad advice.
She is divorced with a child. She’s been dating a divorced father of 3 … For 2 months. They hit it off quite quickly. She made an error (in my opinion) and gave him oral …after only a few weeks. A few days later he told her via TEXT that he has herpes. She didn’t dump him but told him she wanted to wait awhile to have intercourse. He got a bit upset and told her he felt she was treating him like he was a leper. Well they got past that. He told her he would wait. He then invited her to a holiday trip with his family and to meet his kids. She agreed. She made arrangements. He said he booked her a private room.
Well the next weekend she ended up having sex with him. She regretted it but didn’t tell him anything other than it really meant a lot to her since she hadn’t been with anyone other than her ex husband. He said he understood and that he wasn’t going anywhere…
Then the following morning he seemed stand offish. She texted him and asked him if she should book the flight for the vacation. He said “on second thought… I think I better talk to my kids first… I need to get their permission. Can I let you know?”
She was devastated. She texted back and asked if they could talk. He said he was busy. So she lost it. She told him she could see what was happening and that she was sad that he treated her this way. She said she couldn’t believe that their relationship was nothing more than about sex.
He sai that was absolutely not true and they needed to talk. She said well call me when you can. He didn’t. He only texted later that night and said he had his kids but he missed her.
He finally called her this morning. He told her she completely overreacted. So she said okay… Have you talked to your kids? He said he hadn’t yet. He said he wasn’t sure now if they were still going to be talking since my friend got so upset.
Now he asked her if he could see her tomorrow. She agreed. (beyond my advice) and now she’s wondering if she should still be seeing him… And what f if says she can’t go on the trip? I think anyone who invites you from meeting the family… Is an awful person. Am I wrong to tell her that… Among other things?
