Heavily burdened

[Omcc256]

I need advice or help guys. I have been carrying a secret a family member has told me for a long time. If I let it out to the rest of the family it will wreck the family. Family member has been having an affair behind their partners back . It’s weighing me down . Please help any advice

 

[crenfro]

Hello.

If it is harmful, maybe it’d be better to keep it a secret. Can you talk to a priest or a therapist about this?

Just my two cents.

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

What does partner mean?
A spouse?

 

[PaulfromIowa]

This family member should, of course, not have burdened you with this secret. Please speak with your pastor or a counselor.

 

[EricF]

No bueno. You probably should take this secret to the grave, even if it comes out elsewhere.

 

[tseleehw]

At the end of the day, you must follow your conscience. If that means you feel that you should reveal the secret, then so be it. Discuss it with someone, such as a priest if you must, but do what your conscience dictates above all else.

 

[crenfro]

Hello.

And make sure it’s a properly formed conscience.

 

[0104]

Pray about it ask our mother Mary to help you the closer you are with God the longer he will carry you. Good luck prayers for your family God bless!

PS if you feel like it talk to a priest they are not only a confessor but a counselor.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

Unless someone is in danger of death or serious injury, I agree with PaulfromIowa.

 

[stupidisasstupiddoes]

Family member has been having an affair behind their partners back .

You don’t know it’s behind their back. Believe it or not, many people want to turn a blind eye to things and you humiliate them when you confront them with it. Maybe they do know and will deal with it when they have the mental strength to do so. You don’t know what state their marriage is in, what problems they may or may not have and how they work them out. If they want your help they will ask for it, until then you can potentially do more harm than good. Simply put, you don’t have all the required information to make an informed decision but the consequences of making the wrong decision could be severe.

 

[stupidisasstupiddoes]

Don’t endanger another person’s marriage to make ‘yourself’ feel better. If it were me then there are circumstances where i’d want to know and circumstances where I wouldn’t. Don’t deprive a person of having that option.

 

[pianistclare]

The truth will come out without your “help” It always does.
Don’t tell.

 

[mbmulkern]

I think you feel guilty because now you are " partners in crime".
Tell him to stop " or else"