Hello, new guy with an awkward question about sexuality

[Hidden]

I’m not sure if this is the place to post this, I’ve been reading the forums for awhile but never registered. Anyways here is my question.

Since I’ve stopped masturbating I have begun to experience nocturnal emissions. This hasn’t been too much of a problem, I have been able to hide it even though I share a room with two younger brothers. But here is my problem. I am planning on joining the Military (not sure which branch, Army or Marines), and if I had a wet dream during boot camp…well, the DI’s would have a picnic and…I’m sure you can imagine how bad things could get.

This could also become a problem if / when I am deployed, it may not always be possible to hide it.

This is a rather embarrassing question, but I was wondering if any of you knew how to stop these “wet dreams”.

 

[St_John]

Probably in boot camp you won’t have the energy left at the end of the day, if this post is even real. Sorry if I’m skeptical, but this forum attracts a lot of questions about masturbation.

 

[BlestOne]

Ex military here… You will be so exhaused at the end of each day of your training this won’t be a problem…

 

[dafalax]

Believe it or not, i am a female who had this same problem when i overcame impurity. While women don’t have any “evidence” the next morning, it still was upsetting. I started praying three Hail Marys before bed. Sometimes, too, i would pray the St. Michael’s prayer because i wondered if there aren’t demons who try to influence you when you are vulnerable.
The most encouraging thing i can tell you is that they will get less frequent over time. God bless you in your struggle.

 

[Hidden]

Probably in boot camp you won’t have the energy left at the end of the day, if this post is even real. Sorry if I’m skeptical, but this forum attracts a lot of questions about masturbation.

Unfortunately this isn’t a fake. I brought my question to you guys because I knew you would be respectful.

So if I’m very active it doesn’t happen? That’s good to know. It’ll put me a bit more at ease about making my decision.

 

[BrooklynBoy200]

Sorry if I’m skeptical, but this forum attracts a lot of questions about masturbation.

Masturbation is a common sin.

 

[BrooklynBoy200]

I have a question on the subject too.

Is masturbation the same sin as sex? Like when confessing, do you say you masturbated or you had sex? Like sex before marriage or inappropriate sex or something.

 

[Titus]

I have a question on the subject too.

Is masturbation the same sin as sex? Like when confessing, do you say you masturbated or you had sex? Like sex before marriage or inappropriate sex or something.

It belongs to the same group of sins for sure, but masturbation is not the same as sex. Never had to broach this subject in the confessional, but can easily understand how embarrassing it would be, especially if you know the priest really well.

 

[squeekster]

Masturbation is a common sin.

What is this opinion based on? It can’t be from Scripture because Scripture is totally silent on the matter.

I realize that the sin of Onan is used as an example, but if we read the passage without reading a lot into it that simply is not there, we will see that masturbation was not what caused Onan’s downfall.

 

[hasikelee]

I’m not sure if this is the place to post this, I’ve been reading the forums for awhile but never registered. Anyways here is my question.

Since I’ve stopped masturbating I have begun to experience nocturnal emissions. This hasn’t been too much of a problem, I have been able to hide it even though I share a room with two younger brothers. But here is my problem. I am planning on joining the Military (not sure which branch, Army or Marines), and if I had a wet dream during boot camp…well, the DI’s would have a picnic and…I’m sure you can imagine how bad things could get.

This could also become a problem if / when I am deployed, it may not always be possible to hide it.

This is a rather embarrassing question, but I was wondering if any of you knew how to stop these “wet dreams”.

There is no way to stop a wet dream. It is simply your body’s natural way of expelling excess semen leftover in the vans deferens and ejaculatory ducts.

There may be ways to lessen the impact of these natural occurrences. For example, eating healthily, drinking lots of water and exercising can help balance levels of semen.

Also, you mention that you stopped masturbating. (Kudos to you! ) What you might have here is your body trying to reach a homeostatic balance. Because you had prior sexual activity, your body was naturally at a higher level of semen production. Now that you have stopped the behavior, your body is sloughing off the excess. Make sense? Give it a while and you may have this issue resolve itself.

 

[Transformer]

People have suggested in the past using a condom or similar device to catch the semen, simply by wearing one to bed and disposing of it after waking up. A rubber tube, of course, is not a sin; the contraception that it is often used for is. Could something of that nature help?

God bless.

 

[katy]

I have a question on the subject too.

Is masturbation the same sin as sex? Like when confessing, do you say you masturbated or you had sex? Like sex before marriage or inappropriate sex or something.

How about impurity by oneself?

 

[brotherhrolf]

Having served in the military as well, I can also assure you it won’t be a problem. By the time you get to go to bed, you WILL be completely exhausted.

 

[scylla]

I went to boot camp and trust me, you have extremely little chance of that in boot camp.

Heck, most the guys there couldn’t go to the bathroom for the first few days because of the stress.

Later on go to sleep with some sweats on and don’t worry about it, you have extremely little chance of that happening in boot camp. You will be more concerned with not getting yelled at and making sure you are doing things the way they want you to.

Use the time to get some exercise and eat as healthy as you can no matter how bad the food is.
I liked boot camp because I like to run and pushups don’t bother me so I would do extra to get into better shape. I would get into trouble for smiling though, so just don’t look like you are having fun and let them train you.

I know of no guy who had this problem in my boot camp as we had no personal time, we even showered together. So don’t sweat it, worry more about making sure you fit into the military as that is what makes you graduate boot camp.

Watch Forrest Gump as inspiration of how to think like an ideal military man. Regardless of what your personality is, personal preferences are, etc… In boot camp what you should focus on is fitting in, just getting through it and possibly getting a benefit out of it.

God Bless
Scylla

God Bless
Scylla

 

[Jay2]

Watch Forrest Gump as inspiration

WHY DID YOU ASSEMBLE/DISASSEMBLE YOUR WEAPON SO QUICKLY??
“Because you told me to Drill Sargeant”

The same “Forrest Gump” that ejaculates at the sight & touch of a woman’s breast??

Great advise… Follow the lines of pre-mature ejaculation and try to satify a partner or father children as a man later in life…

What goes on in your brain while you’re asleep is beyond your control. Whatever sexual fantasies or thoughts that happen during sleep, and the resultant “release” are nothing to be ashamed of. It is beyond your control. It happened within the 90% of your brain that you don’t use.

You must be a young man. 22 + at the outside, with few or no “experiences” with a woman.

There is no way to stop a wet dream. It is simply your body’s natural way of expelling excess semen leftover in the vans deferens and ejaculatory ducts.

There may be ways to lessen the impact of these natural occurrences. For example, eating healthily, drinking lots of water and exercising can help balance levels of semen.

BS.

I drink at least 3 litres of water a day, during work walk/climb 4 miles easy. I haven’t had a wet dream in 35 years. I’ve had some serious balls (and hoped for a nocturnal expelling of excess semen in my vas deferens & ducts)" . My release of “expelling excess semen leftover in the vans deferens and ejaculatory ducts” is thankfully taken care of by my wife when we have the infrequent opportunity to “purge my plumbing… or take care of some long-needed business”.

There is nothing simple about the “urge”. The mental, spiritual, and physical conflicts of a young man and his sexual needs cannot simply dismissed by physical exhaustion or mental trickery.

Physical exhaustion only postpones the inevitable… If you decide to enlist, I hope your 1st billet isn’t the “PI”… wet dreams won’t be your 1st problem there!

 

[Neithan]

What is this opinion based on? It can’t be from Scripture because Scripture is totally silent on the matter.

I realize that the sin of Onan is used as an example, but if we read the passage without reading a lot into it that simply is not there, we will see that masturbation was not what caused Onan’s downfall.

Catholic doctrine is not based solely on Scripture, rather, Scripture is complimentary to Tradition, from which it was written, and the latter is sufficient as an authoritative source for faith and morals.

In any case, Scripture is not entirely silent on masturbation:
Sirach 23:16-17:

Two kinds of men multiply sins, and a third draws down wrath: there is a desire that, blazing like a furnace, cannot be quenched until it is slaked; there is the man who lusts for his own flesh: he will not give up until the fire consumes him.

Note that Luther removed the books of the Old Testament that were taken from the Greek Septuagint, even though they were recognised as canonical by Christians since the early Church. So you won’t find the books of Sirach, Wisdom, Tobit, Maccabees etc. in Protestant Bibles.