Help Me to help my Troubled Neice

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My Neice is a 13 yr old Baptised Catholic (unConfirmed) who is going through her parents divorce, and a lot of issues with sex/drugs. I have tried to help, but the liberal members of our family continually portray my intercessions as OverReligious, attempting to undoe my efforts.

Recently I sent her a Catholic themed book about Chastity, and yesterday, a similar video (Teen Relationships and Sexual Pressure). Her Grandmother said that she was showing her friends the book and Teaching them about diseases, showing that the Media has had some effect. I would like to tap into this leadership spirit gently and guide her even closer to the Church. Your help would be appreciated.

I would also like some advice, opinions and/or the locations of Materials that can guide her in dealing with her parents divorce. I have yet to find any media (Teen Themed) dealing with this matter from a Catholic perspective.

Anyone else with similar problems, please join in. Dare I say, It takes a Community to Raise a Child.
 
I know your neice can get free counciling at a Women and Children’s abuse center. My sister is going through an ugly divorce from an abusive and controlling lost sheep (I will not go into that, but he needs the prayers for his soul). Both my sister and nephew are seeking counciling there, however it is not religious.

Also try the book of Job on getting through trials, or the stories of Ester on doing the right thing. I also know there is a tape out there, my parents have talked about it, on saving yourself for marriage. This sight also has several books on chastity.

Check with your priest or diocese about any programs for the youth on divorce or teen intervention. Also see if you can find a good Catholic teen support group. Take the child to church too!

And for the family who are trying to tell you to mind your own business, this is your business. She is still your family, and as a fellow Catholic you do not have the luxury of doing nothing. You need to help guard her soul. She is not fully understanding the consiquences to her actions. Yes, she might blow you off, but if you can plant a seed, the Holy Spirit will do the rest. Pray to the Holy Spirirt to guide you in your actions and words. Since she is so vulnerable right now, you do not want the armies of the Neither world leading her astray. She is hurting, confused, and lacks security. These emotions make her so vulnerable and willing to accept many empty promises.

God puts people in places to do his work! Is it God’s will? My mother told me a priest told her “If it is something you feel you must do, but it is not necessarily the easiest, then it is probably God’s will!” You know what you need to do, do not let being “politically correct” make you act in a certain way.
 
Thank You very much for your help.

I checked in our Diocese and we do have a Family Life ministry that may help. I will check into your other suggestions as well.

The video, or Teen themed book I am looking for would be about being a Catholic child trapped in a divorce. Teens seem to be really responsive to visual media; as I was. I am sending her a Teen Catholic Bible, and a Teen Catechism.

I wish that I had a family member that could have helped me when my Parents divorced. While they were biting and scratching at each other through me and my other siblings, all I had was He-Man to look up to. : )
 
By The Power Of Grayskull!!!
I… Have… The Power!!!

😃

That show rocked.
 
I know this is incredibly simplistic, but if there is any way that you can encourage your niece to pray the Rosary, she will have grace showered down upon her and protection from our Blessed Mother. You can find her a special Rosary that will be meaningful to her, a cherished gift from her Aunt, and suggest that she say even one decade when she feels angry or hurt about the divorce, or tempted, or confused, or just before bed, etc. Does she have a Patron Saint or namesake? A prayer card or medal of that Saint too can be a token she carries with her that is a special keepsake from her Aunt. And of course, offering Rosaries for her safety and preservation can be something you do to fortify her against the adversity she is facing.

God love you for intervening! Keep up the faith, it is not in vain!
Aimee
 
Simplistic to you…Great advice for me. Thank You.

She recieved one of the books I sent. She is anticipating the other.

That show was pretty cool.
 
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