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i have registerd for bone marrow some 2 years ago when a young girle at the church needed a bone marrow transplet.I recieved a letter a few days ago, telling me i could be a potential match for a different person, the way i understand it, there is a chance of 10% i may be selected.would it be uncharitable on my part if i withdraw my registeration(some of my family membrs,suggesting that, because i have responsbility a wife and children).

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A different way to ask the question is that if you are willing to help a specific individual at Church, are you still willing to help out someone else if you are not a match for her?

Methinks that it’s OK to withdraw your registration, or make it understood that if you’re not a match for this particular individual that you don’t want to donate to anyone else, if that’s what you want.

I don’t know the logistics of such registrations, i.e. can you specify if you’re only willing to donate to a certain individual if you’re a match. 🤷
 
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i have registerd for bone marrow some 2 years ago when a young girle at the church needed a bone marrow transplet.I recieved a letter a few days ago, telling me i could be a potential match for a different person, the way i understand it, there is a chance of 10% i may be selected.would it be uncharitable on my part if i withdraw my registeration(some of my family membrs,suggesting that, because i have responsbility a wife and children).

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This is a highly personal decision so I’m not going to tell you what to do.

Some questions you might ask yourself… if they told you that you were a 100% match for this stranger would you still withdraw your offer to donate? How does that offer change between 100% and 10% probability? What is the risk to your family? Does your wife support you in this? If she’s not on board then the debate is over.

Take this question to Christ in prayer.
 
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i have registerd for bone marrow some 2 years ago when a young girle at the church needed a bone marrow transplet.I recieved a letter a few days ago, telling me i could be a potential match for a different person, the way i understand it, there is a chance of 10% i may be selected.would it be uncharitable on my part if i withdraw my registeration(some of my family membrs,suggesting that, because i have responsbility a wife and children).

thankyou
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What has donating bone marrow to someone got to do with having repsonsibilities to your family. Its not a high risk procedure for the donor and a donor can give bone marrow more than once. If you give to a stranger it does not mean you would not be able to give to a family member too if the need ever arose.
 
  1. Everything possible must be done for every patient in terms of preserving life, treating illness, and relieving suffering. All therapeutic decisions must be in the patient’s best interests. The safest, gentlest treatment for a given condition must always be the preferred one.
Comment: Numerous sources in Judaism stress the supreme value of life. We are commanded to guard ourselves most diligently (Deuteronomy 4:15) and to choose life above all (Deuteronomy 30:19). In terms of Jewish medical ethics, the rest is merely commentary, to paraphrase Hillel. Physicians are given permission to heal and, moreover, are obliged to heal the suffering. Likewise, the sick must seek healing to preserve their lives.

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Is there a similiar principle in Chrisitan ethics?

What are the risks of donation?

Has anyone died in the process of donation?
 
It would not be wrong to withdraw your registration now due to the reasons you state. It might be more difficult if you find out you are an extremely good match for someone though. I know I’d have a harder time then.

All medical procedures come with risk of complications and a recovery period. If your family situation is such that you have no one to help you during and after the donation then I think this is something you do have to think about.

Some things to consider-

Will you have to travel a far distance at your own cost to donate? Or will the donation take place locally or your travel be paid for?
Do you have some help for the things at home?
Is your wife willing to endure the hardship that this might bring?
Are there financial issues that must be considered? Will you get paid time off or not?

Then I guess the last thing is -
Is it ok to donate to only someone you know and not a stranger. That’s the tougher one. Only you can make that decision. You aren’t obligated to donate at all.
 
Ask yourself how you would feel if your child/spouse/parent/friend needed a bone marrow transplant and the possible matching donor withdrew their registration. You may be the only hope they have at this point.

Good luck!
 
Love thy neighbor. It is great that you were willing to help out another but why not a stranger? Many people have donated one of their kidneys to strangers. That I find truly amazing. My friend, we are on this earth for such a short time, why do we look for excuses not to help each other. I can say this for true, that whatever decision you make it will follow you the rest of your life.
One thing we should all have is love for our fellow man and with that love comes the understanding that “but for the grace of God, go I”. Good luck on your decision and God Bless.
 
What is your situation, that this would be a hardship and take away from your responsibilities?
 
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