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mitchiko
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I need your help! 
I have a friend who confided in me that she is having an affair with her half brother. 
I met my friend way back in highscool and we were close friends eversince. We were close in a way that we both confided to each other all our secrets and everything that happens in our lives. We were together till we finished Highschool way back 1994. She met her husband during our highschool days, she got pregnant at the age of 18 and both of them was not able to finish college. They had 2 wonderful children ages 10 and 8, the eldest was even my godchild. Since both were too young when they entered marriage, they encountered a lot of problems like financial, emotional etc. For these reasons, my friend told me she lost her love to her husband and they were just living together because of the children.
Early last year, her husband got a job abroad and left them here in Manila. This was the time that my friend was able to find a job of her own because she was a full time housewife all those years they were married. She was able to enjoy herself now and she told me she is happier now that her husband is away from them.
Just last March 2005, she told me that she told her husband that she is contemplating to have their marriage annulled. Her husband does not approve of it because he realized just now how much he truly loves his family. He promised her that they will work things out when he comes back here in Manila this coming Sept. But my friend insisted that she wants an annullment because she said that there is nothing more to fix in their marriage and she realized she does not love him anymore.
Just 3 weeks ago my friend told me that she accidentally saw her half brother at the mall. Since childhood my friend and her brother was not given a chance to really know each other because the family of her brother does not approve of the mother of my friend. Their father did not marry any of their mothers so they are both children out of wedlock. They did not grow up together but both of them knew that they were siblings. Later when they both were in highschool , they got a chance to really meet each other and spend sometime together as what usual siblings do. But their communication was again stopped because both were busy in school. Both of them lived their own separate lives till they reached college. And now that they finally meet again she told me stories that they are now making up for the lost years they did not see each other. They would go out every night to watch movies and eat dinner. I was happy for her since I know it is a good time for her to be reunited with her family. Little did I know that after a few weeks gone by, it seems that something was not right…they were already feeling something else for each other.
She told me just last week the truth, she was crying and she did not know what to do. She was very guilty and confused. We were really honest to each other and we really tell each other what we truly feel about each other. She told me that she knows that it is morally wrong but they can’t control their feelings. I am a Roman Catholic just like her and I grew in a family with high morals. Of course I told her to stop it right away not only because it is sinful, but because it will just ruin both their lives.
I really talked to her and gave her advice but until now she is not doing anything to stop the relationship.
I feel she is just confusing her feelings to her brother as romantic love, but I cannot seem to convince her. What am I going to do about it? What can i tell her to make her understand and make her listen and follow my advice? I want for her to fix her marriage with her husband because I know somehere in a little portion of heart, she still loves him. She told me she knows the consequences of what she is doing right now, but the temptation is really hard to ignore. maybe because she was overwhelmed with what she is feeling right now… PLease help me, I want to save my friend from a BIG mistake she will commit if she continues this relationship. Nobody but me knows it right now, even her brother is calling me and convincing me to accept their relationship. I told him bluntly that they were siblings and their relationship as a couple will only bring trouble and disgrace but he won’t listen.
PLease tell me what to do, i need to save my friend. Thanks!
~mitchiko~
I have a friend who confided in me that she is having an affair with her half brother. I met my friend way back in highscool and we were close friends eversince. We were close in a way that we both confided to each other all our secrets and everything that happens in our lives. We were together till we finished Highschool way back 1994. She met her husband during our highschool days, she got pregnant at the age of 18 and both of them was not able to finish college. They had 2 wonderful children ages 10 and 8, the eldest was even my godchild. Since both were too young when they entered marriage, they encountered a lot of problems like financial, emotional etc. For these reasons, my friend told me she lost her love to her husband and they were just living together because of the children.
Early last year, her husband got a job abroad and left them here in Manila. This was the time that my friend was able to find a job of her own because she was a full time housewife all those years they were married. She was able to enjoy herself now and she told me she is happier now that her husband is away from them.
Just last March 2005, she told me that she told her husband that she is contemplating to have their marriage annulled. Her husband does not approve of it because he realized just now how much he truly loves his family. He promised her that they will work things out when he comes back here in Manila this coming Sept. But my friend insisted that she wants an annullment because she said that there is nothing more to fix in their marriage and she realized she does not love him anymore.
Just 3 weeks ago my friend told me that she accidentally saw her half brother at the mall. Since childhood my friend and her brother was not given a chance to really know each other because the family of her brother does not approve of the mother of my friend. Their father did not marry any of their mothers so they are both children out of wedlock. They did not grow up together but both of them knew that they were siblings. Later when they both were in highschool , they got a chance to really meet each other and spend sometime together as what usual siblings do. But their communication was again stopped because both were busy in school. Both of them lived their own separate lives till they reached college. And now that they finally meet again she told me stories that they are now making up for the lost years they did not see each other. They would go out every night to watch movies and eat dinner. I was happy for her since I know it is a good time for her to be reunited with her family. Little did I know that after a few weeks gone by, it seems that something was not right…they were already feeling something else for each other.
She told me just last week the truth, she was crying and she did not know what to do. She was very guilty and confused. We were really honest to each other and we really tell each other what we truly feel about each other. She told me that she knows that it is morally wrong but they can’t control their feelings. I am a Roman Catholic just like her and I grew in a family with high morals. Of course I told her to stop it right away not only because it is sinful, but because it will just ruin both their lives.
I really talked to her and gave her advice but until now she is not doing anything to stop the relationship.
I feel she is just confusing her feelings to her brother as romantic love, but I cannot seem to convince her. What am I going to do about it? What can i tell her to make her understand and make her listen and follow my advice? I want for her to fix her marriage with her husband because I know somehere in a little portion of heart, she still loves him. She told me she knows the consequences of what she is doing right now, but the temptation is really hard to ignore. maybe because she was overwhelmed with what she is feeling right now… PLease help me, I want to save my friend from a BIG mistake she will commit if she continues this relationship. Nobody but me knows it right now, even her brother is calling me and convincing me to accept their relationship. I told him bluntly that they were siblings and their relationship as a couple will only bring trouble and disgrace but he won’t listen.
PLease tell me what to do, i need to save my friend. Thanks!
~mitchiko~
How sick is that. Someone is going to get hurt badly in this relationship. It also seems like her brother is a perverse individual to even ask you to accept their relationship. Get help from your Church and tell the rest of the family maybe they can get them to stop.
