Help, starting to change my mind regarding waiting til marriage :/

[Nitor]

Great responses. I am thankful to you all for trying to guide me in the right direction. I actually had a dream, where I got a boyfriend and after a couple of months, slept with him. Immidiately after, I had such extreme regret… I felt like my world had fallen down. Maybe it was God trying to warn me. I couldn’t have been happier waking up realizing it was a dream. After that, I have given a lot of thought to this… God is real. Jesus is real. And if I am truly called to marriage, God has someone out there for me. Hopefully I won’t have to wait so long for Mr Right… But I need to be patient and better to wait for something good than settle early for something that’s not holy. Can’t help but to feel like a bad Christian now for doubting God… And actually considering having premarital sex in a long relationship. Anyway… Thank you guys.

That sounds good! I don’t think you’re a bad Christian because you had your doubts. See, you didn’t give in to your doubts but you went to get help from others who share your believes and your values. That’s a good thing! I think every Christian has his doubts every once in while. That’s just how things are. I mean, even the apostles had their doubts and their weak moments, right?

 

[therose01]

That sounds good! I don’t think you’re a bad Christian because you had your doubts. See, you didn’t give in to your doubts but you went to get help from others who share your believes and your values. That’s a good thing! I think every Christian has his doubts every once in while. That’s just how things are. I mean, even the apostles had their doubts and their weak moments, right?

Thank you I appreciate it.

 

[therose01]

Wait.

I’m an artist, it goes with being an artist to be passionate and expressive; had my share of lovers and I wish I waited until marriage. I have since changed my ways.

So, wait.

I will wait

 

[hydin]

Rose, first, you need to stop and think how amazing it is that you put your thoughts on hold and come to a Catholic site … and wait for advice… Unfortunately often is is a couple of drinks too many and smooth talk and well…

You speak of being a bad Christian, I say you are an inspiration… at 19 to put your faith in such an important position in your life is beautiful! The devil is very experienced and he know the buttons to push (he has mine down… drives me crazy and I am old…)

No matter what the temptation their are perceived benefits and risks. A man who is worthy of a woman like you isn’t trying to get “lucky” You deserve more. I wish I could say I was like you… can’t … blew it and not many days go by that I don’t regret it. BUT, I can tell you I know many couples who have dated starting college age and older who waited and found amazing mates. I have a kid who is dating a woman and they are very up front about chastity. Proof their is a God… He is a better man than I am. There are people out there who are just like you… or who find out how shallow messing around and counting that as most important is… God doesn’t ask us for perfection… just doing our best and when we stray from his guidance, repentance…which in the Greek means radical change… not just sorry. You had normal thoughts, you reacted in a pleasantly abnormal but Christ loving way. I’ll bet you made Jesus smile… He will reward you, Trust!

 

[Jelrak_TB]

I will wait

Good. It raises your power. The more unique you are the more desirable. Like a rare flower. If you are looking for a man who will respect you this is the best way to find him. Good luck!