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About a week ago, my dormitory had a “How to have the best sex ever” program and apparently, some people got insulted enough to illicit this dorm-wide e-mail, which isnt really an apology anyways:

Dear Sellery residents:

On March 10, Sellery hosted a program called “How to Have the Best Sex
Ever…,” designed to open discussion among residents about decision-making
around sexual activity. While we believe that the program and its content
was an important part of the kind of interpersonal and social education we
strive to provide in the residence halls, we do recognize that some of our
publicity efforts were offensive to some and created an unwelcoming
atmosphere.

Our philosophy behind the program was that a positive and healthy sexual
experience, for those who are exploring this, involves the following:
clear consent by both partners of everything that is occuring every step
of the way. UW law student, Kene Okocha, who has expertise on the legal
definition of consent facilitated this part of the program. It is
important for students to consider this in light of the number of date
rapes that occur each year. We encourage all students to only engage in
any sexual activity with clear verbal consent. Rather than the old
motto of “No means no,” consider that “Anything but absolutely,
definitely yes means no.”
safer sex to minimize as much as possible unplanned pregnancy and
sexually transmitted infections including HIV and AIDS. 3.75 million
teenagers contract an STI each year, about 25% of all cases. This
information and specifics about practicing safer sex was presented by
Sex Out Loud.
an awareness of the variety of different options and resources that you
can access, when and if you want to, to explore new sexual experiences
alone or with your partner. Sex Out Loud also presented this
information about sexual pleasure.

Given the information we know about sexual activity, sexual assault, and
safer sex practices among college students, we do feel that this program
was important information for many of you.

We do want to apologize for the publicity that seemed to trivialize or
make a joke of such a serious topic. While most of the publicity did
indicate that we would be talking about the range of topics listed above,
some did not and might have appeared that we would not treat seriously the
very real and damaging impact of sexual assault, unplanned pregnancy, and
sexually transmitted infections. In fact, those serious topics are
exactly why we created this program and worked so hard to publicize this
event so that many of you would come to hear the discussion.

Some of you reading this may not have had the same reaction to the
publicity. Even if you were not offended, please recognize your role as a
community member in respecting others’ choices and opinions. A community
that is safe and inclusive does not shy away from discussing challenging
issues, but it does so in a manner that allows each person to feel safe
and respected for who they are.

If any of you wish to discuss this further, we welcome you to seek out
your House Fellow or one of the Residence Life Coordinators on the first
floor.

Sincerely,
Cindy and Dora

OF COURSE its offensive, ahhh! I cant let this one go, I’ve gotta say something, any help?

I wsa thinking along the lines of “This program was incredibly offensive to myself. The promotion pre-marital sex reinforces the thought that men and women are sexual objects while further trivializing marriage in our society. These types of “programs” perpetuate the view of this university as a decadent institution and community dedicated to the promotion of self-gratification in the name of progress and academics.”
 
Just voice your objections and be ready to be labeled a prude. You don’t have to eloquent, just tell them what you object to and why. Tell them that premarital sex is wrong and that it goes against your religion.
 
The night I proposed to my wife to be, I said, these words, “Blessed are you among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb for it shall bear my children”. That night she excepted my proposal and in a year and three month we entered the covenant of marriage. A covenant is a solemn vow to God that you will remain faithful to your spouse until death. A faithful spouse desires that his/her partner gets into heaven. This is love to desire the best and greatest thing for the beloved and that is heaven.

A covenant is defined in these verses.

Genesis
Chapter 15

9
He answered him, “Bring me a three-year-old heifer, a three-year-old she-goat, a three-year-old ram, a turtle-dove, and a young pigeon.”
10
He brought him all these, split them in two, and placed each half opposite the other; but the birds he did not cut up.
11
Birds of prey swooped down on the carcasses, but Abram stayed with them.
12
As the sun was about to set, a trance fell upon Abram, and a deep, terrifying darkness enveloped him.
13
Then the LORD said to Abram: “Know for certain that your descendants shall be aliens in a land not their own, where they shall be enslaved and oppressed for four hundred years.
14
But I will bring judgment on the nation they must serve, and in the end they will depart with great wealth.
15
You, however, shall join your forefathers in peace; you shall be buried at a contented old age.
16
In the fourth time-span the others shall come back here; the wickedness of the Amorites will not have reached its full measure until then.”
17
When the sun had set and it was dark, there appeared a smoking brazier and a flaming torch, which passed between those pieces.
18
It was on that occasion that the LORD made a covenant with Abram, saying: “To your descendants I give this land, from the Wadi of Egypt to the Great River (the Euphrates),
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the land of the Kenites, the Kenizzites, the Kadmonites,
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the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Rephaim,
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the Amorites, the Canaanites, the Girgashites, and the Jebusites.”

A covenant is defined in these verses. The animals were divided into two pieces to define the seriousness of the covenant. Anyone who enters into a covenant says that if they violate the said covenant they desire to be divided into two pieces of flesh like the animals were. This is how serious the taking of a covenant is. To enter a covenant then is to take such an oath before God. This is why at a marriage the church is divide into two groups, those belong to the bride or the broom. This custom reminds us of this solemn oath.

Now you may understand how it is that the family is the center of our faith community. But it goes futher than that for our faith community is a family.

I hope this helps.
 
Some of you reading this may not have had the same reaction to the
publicity. Even if you were not offended, please recognize your role as a
community member in respecting others’ choices and opinions. A community
that is safe and inclusive does not shy away from discussing challenging
issues, but it does so in a manner that allows each person to feel safe
and respected for who they are.
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This. . .stuff. . . .drives. . . me. . . INSANE!!!

“There is no truth other than that which you define for yourselves.” I just can’t stand it.
 
You can tell them that you took an informal poll from married people and share some of their responses. Here’s mine:

“We’ve been married for 20 years this June. Unfortunately, we engaged in sex before marriage. We wish we would have waited because the best sex we ever had was in the freedom of the marriage covenant. Even though we grew up in a time when consentual sex was expected, we both knew it was wrong and realized later (when we were married) how we abused one another for pleasure.”
 
Of course, unless you are in a cave, the language expresses in the memo was filled with ‘liberal arm twisting’. They stlll get to state their point, even if those objecting to it are appeased.

To me while reading the commment you posted, I go thte impression that it ‘was an apology BUT really wasn’t’. They still made their point that they are in favor of ‘sexual expression’ and the ONLY way one can express themselves.

They also made it seems like, any sexual desire GOES. Without directly saying it, they promote homosexuality also as a form of ‘free expression’.

The term that gets me is ‘unwanted pregnancy’. If you DON"T want to get pregnant…DON’T DO IT! :banghead: :banghead:

Lord, Have Mercy on US All!
Edwin
 
Get a copy of the book: “Sex and Sacred City” by Sreven Kellmeyer

Share the message. Hold discussion class on the book.

I will help if you ask. I live in Rio just a little North of Madison.
 
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