Helping an active homosexual friend

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First of all, if it’s in the wrong place, I apologize. I’m not sure where to put this thread.

My friend, A, is an active homosexual person. He was baptised in the Catholic Church and he’s not been to the church for the past few years. Today, my other friend, E, went our for dinner with him and she talked to him about it. He confessed that sometimes he felt guilty and scared, but he tried to ignored the feelings. Besides that, he said that if he could he wanted to live a good life, but he just can’t. For some reason, I see there’s hope. He said that it’s not always about sex, but it’s about feelings, because he needs someone to be there for him physically and to realise that God is always there require strong faith, he’s not ready for that.

Besides praying, I felt that God wants me to do something to help him, but I’m not sure how. I’m thinking of giving him books to read which may help him to get out of this situation. So any books that you recommend? Fr. John F Harvey? David Morison? Fr. Benedict Groeschel? Or is there something else that I could do?
No, there’s no courage here.
 
Besides that, he said that if he could he wanted to live a good life, but he just can’t. For some reason, I see there’s hope.
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I think before I gave him any books to read, I would ask him his definition of a “good life”. It’s such a vague and often meaningless phrase, the way it is used today. His understanding and yours may be eons apart. Best to asses exactly where he is in his walk of faith before bombarding him with literature.
 
blessedtoo said:
I think before I gave him any books to read, I would ask him his definition of a “good life”. It’s such a vague and often meaningless phrase, the way it is used today. His understanding and yours may be eons apart. Best to asses exactly where he is in his walk of faith before bombarding him with literature.
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Well, he didn’t mention it, but I used it here to summarise it. He said that he wanted to stop having sex with people and stop having relationship with men, but he just can’t. It’s almost become an addiction to him.

It’s just unfortunate that I’m not in a good relationship with him, but my friend, E, is, and it’s quite unfortunate that she does not have a good understanding of the meaning of suffering/cross for people with SSA. It’s quite complicated in a way. Until now, I can only pray for him.
 
vince2paul said:
First of all, if it’s in the wrong place, I apologize. I’m not sure where to put this thread.

My friend, A, is an active homosexual person. He was baptised in the Catholic Church and he’s not been to the church for the past few years. Today, my other friend, E, went our for dinner with him and she talked to him about it. He confessed that sometimes he felt guilty and scared, but he tried to ignored the feelings. Besides that, he said that if he could he wanted to live a good life, but he just can’t. For some reason, I see there’s hope. He said that it’s not always about sex, but it’s about feelings, because he needs someone to be there for him physically and to realise that God is always there require strong faith, he’s not ready for that.

Besides praying, I felt that God wants me to do something to help him, but I’m not sure how. I’m thinking of giving him books to read which may help him to get out of this situation. So any books that you recommend? Fr. John F Harvey? David Morison? Fr. Benedict Groeschel? Or is there something else that I could do?
No, there’s no courage here.
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There is a good book (not specifically about homosexuality) by Father Benedict Groeschel called Arise From Darkness: What To Do When Life Doesn’t Make Sense.
 
thistle said:
There is a good book (not specifically about homosexuality) by Father Benedict Groeschel called Arise From Darkness: What To Do When Life Doesn’t Make Sense.
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This is a fantastic book. I cannot recommend it enough for EVERYONE. I recently sent a copy to a close friend with SSA. I am hoping she will read it with an open heart. I definitely recommend giving a copy to your friend.

Sincerely,
Maria1212
 
vince2paul said:
First of all, if it’s in the wrong place, I apologize. I’m not sure where to put this thread.

My friend, A, is an active homosexual person. He was baptised in the Catholic Church and he’s not been to the church for the past few years. Today, my other friend, E, went our for dinner with him and she talked to him about it. He confessed that sometimes he felt guilty and scared, but he tried to ignored the feelings. Besides that, he said that if he could he wanted to live a good life, but he just can’t. For some reason, I see there’s hope. He said that it’s not always about sex, but it’s about feelings, because he needs someone to be there for him physically and to realise that God is always there require strong faith, he’s not ready for that.

Besides praying, I felt that God wants me to do something to help him, but I’m not sure how. I’m thinking of giving him books to read which may help him to get out of this situation. So any books that you recommend? Fr. John F Harvey? David Morison? Fr. Benedict Groeschel? Or is there something else that I could do?
No, there’s no courage here.
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Some books I’d recommend are: Beyond Gay by David Morrison, Male and Female He made them by Mary Jo Anderson and Robin Burnhoft and Theology of the Body Explained by Chris West.
 
If he’s open to it…the Christopher West series, Created and Redeemed is a great overview of JP II’s Theology of the Body, which if nothing else would better explain the Church’s compassionate view of homosexuality.
 
Maybe the OP should be the one to be physically close to the Catholic with ssa?
 
Father Groeschel also wrote The Courage To Be Chaste to help homosexuals and any one really with that task.
 
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