Holy Communion for Divorcee?

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piety101:
Now you say I am spouting off non sense because I ask you to post quotes from the early church fathers about the declaration of nullity? But if I asked you to supply evidence for the necessity for baptism or the validity of the Eucharist, you sure wouldn’t hesitate, now would you? The truth is, there are no church fathers proof texts for a so called “declaration of nullity”, but you won’t admit it.
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                               Marriage in the Catholic church was consider for LIFE or until one spouse would die. They were not free to remarry if the divorced spouse was alive. Even Jesus taught that. So don't accuse me of non sense when I simply asked you to supply evidence from the fathers.
Yes, you are spouting nonsense when you try to say a decree of nullity says that the marriage and the children did not take place. That is not what it says.

And, ChrisR and Bro Rich have supplied examples.

p.s. The Pauline Privilege is in 1 Corinthians, so yes, annulment is in the bible.
 
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Katie1723:
. As an aside, I was also told if I were to remarry I would also have the option of attending a church where they didn’t “know me” and receive communion.This in lieu of a sometimes expensive and often times drawn out annullment.
~ Kathy ~
Whoever told you that gave you terrible spiritual advice. This is about personal sin, not church scandal. The church does scandals well enough on its own.
 
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Katie1723:
Believe me, there is NO way I would have followed this advice. Funny thing is , it came from a priest!
~ Kathy ~
It would be funny if it were not so common.
 
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piety101:
Now you say I am spouting off non sense because I ask you to post quotes from the early church fathers about the declaration of nullity? But if I asked you to supply evidence for the necessity for baptism or the validity of the Eucharist, you sure wouldn’t hesitate, now would you? The truth is, there are no church fathers proof texts for a so called “declaration of nullity”, but you won’t admit it.

Marriage in the Catholic church was consider for LIFE or until one spouse would die. They were not free to remarry if the divorced spouse was alive. Even Jesus taught that. So don’t accuse me of non sense when I simply asked you to supply evidence from the fathers.
Another thing that needs to be remembered is that the Annulment process is a tribunal process, not a Doctrine or Dogma of the Church. It developed with the establishment of Canon Law which took centuries and centuries to develop. In the early Church the Bishop was the authority and we see in the middle ages that “Bishops courts” were developing. I have never researched the history of the annulment process. But we do see from a very early time canons of Church councils forming the basis of Church Law as well as defining Church doctrine. Those laws including Marriage laws had to be enforced somehow and the tribunal process developed. It is correct to say that the very early Fathers when speaking of “Second Marriages” were usually refering to Marriage after the death of the first spouse or a conversion of one of the persons but not the other.
 
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1ke:
p.s. The Pauline Privilege is in 1 Corinthians, so yes, annulment is in the bible.
The Pauline and Petrine privilege is not actually an annulment. This is the one exception where Catholicism does dissolve an active marriage. The privilege can only be used when dealing with a natural marriage where one or both of the individuals are not baptized which made it impossible for the marriage to be a sacrament. The Pauline privilege is actually a divorce.
 
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Shibboleth:
The Pauline and Petrine privilege is not actually an annulment. This is the one exception where Catholicism does dissolve an active marriage. The privilege can only be used when dealing with a natural marriage where one or both of the individuals are not baptized which made it impossible for the marriage to be a sacrament. The Pauline privilege is actually a divorce.
Can the Church dissolve a valid marriage, one done in the Catholic Church, but has not yet been consumated?
 
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piety101:
As Nancy Grace of Court TV says, where is the evidence? What early church fathers ever wrote about any declaration of nullity? I’m still waiting for your evidence. :rolleyes:
If you want evidence I have it… that is unless you consider Jesus to be less than a Church Father.

Matt 5:31-32 talks about null marriages.
“But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife except it be for unchastity, makes her an adulteress and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery”.

The word commonly translated as unchastely in this verse is a bit of a mistranslation. The Greek word is very specific and deals with the unchaste union contracted in violation of the forbidden degree of kindred relations mentioned in Lev 18:6-17 where a person could not marry one that was close in relation. This would have been an illegal marriage and consequently no proper marriage would have existed.

Jesus spoke to the Pharisees that once one was married to another that bond could not be broken, in this instance he is saying that the bond never existed.

By the way if you still consider yourself to be Catholic you have committed what is called Schism. You are stating that the infallible proclamations of the Catholic Church are in error and because of this you have placed yourself in this state of Schism. I would suggest that you read on this issue because it brings with it dire consequences because to actively be disobedient to your Church is a grave matter and if done knowingly is mortal.
 
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Shibboleth:
If you want evidence I have it… that is unless you consider Jesus to be less than a Church Father.

Matt 5:31-32 talks about null marriages.
“But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife except it be for unchastity, makes her an adulteress and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery”.

The word commonly translated as unchastely in this verse is a bit of a mistranslation. The Greek word is very specific and deals with the unchaste union contracted in violation of the forbidden degree of kindred relations mentioned in Lev 18:6-17 where a person could not marry one that was close in relation. This would have been an illegal marriage and consequently no proper marriage would have existed.

Jesus spoke to the Pharisees that once one was married to another that bond could not be broken, in this instance he is saying that the bond never existed.

By the way if you still consider yourself to be Catholic you have committed what is called Schism. You are stating that the infallible proclamations of the Catholic Church are in error and because of this you have placed yourself in this state of Schism. I would suggest that you read on this issue because it brings with it dire consequences because to actively be disobedient to your Church is a grave matter and if done knowingly is mortal.
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Shibboleth:
The Pauline and Petrine privilege is not actually an annulment. This is the one exception where Catholicism does dissolve an active marriage. The privilege can only be used when dealing with a natural marriage where one or both of the individuals are not baptized which made it impossible for the marriage to be a sacrament. The Pauline privilege is actually a divorce.
I was using it as an example of THE CHURCH judging a marriage and allowing a new marriage. That was my point to piety101 who is not grasping that the Church does have authority in such matters.
 
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piety101:
Now you say I am spouting off non sense because I ask you to post quotes from the early church fathers about the declaration of nullity? But if I asked you to supply evidence for the necessity for baptism or the validity of the Eucharist, you sure wouldn’t hesitate, now would you? The truth is, there are no church fathers proof texts for a so called “declaration of nullity”, but you won’t admit it.

Marriage in the Catholic church was consider for LIFE or until one spouse would die. They were not free to remarry if the divorced spouse was alive. Even Jesus taught that. So don’t accuse me of non sense when I simply asked you to supply evidence from the fathers.
Hi Piety101, I believe you have a very pressing but misdirected question on marriage and annulments. The Church has never held that a person can acquire a civil divorce(like from their state) and then get an “annulment” as the Catholic form, and then go off and have fun re-marrying some other person(s). You are right in saying
Marriage in the Catholic church was consider for LIFE or until one spouse would die.
. I’m not sure on the issue of if one spouse dies, does that make it ligitimate to re-marry, but this thread is not for addressing that topic.
They were not free to remarry if the divorced spouse was alive.
Allow me to dissect this statement. “If the *divorced *spouse was alive.” (Emphasis mine). When you say “divorced” spouse, do you mean divorced Sacramentally (not possible) or divorced civilly? If the latter, then yes, I totally agree with you. If the former, then you must realize that there is a difference between ending a marriage because one or both of the partners desired to do so, and submitting your “marriage”(in quotes as you will see why later) to review by a Church Tribunal, which examines the “marriage” and sees if it was properly sanctioned/blessed/witnessed/consented to. And by consented to, I mean that the couple was open to the possibility of having children and that they realized that they couldn’t seek a civil divorce and then “re-marry”. If the Church Tribunal assesses that one of these conditions was not fullfilled at the time of pre-supposed “marriage”, then sacramentally the marriage never occurred, but civilly the marriage did. Meaning that the couple had basically been living in a situation where each partner shared in the income/benefits of the other, including their child(ren), without the benefit of a sacramental marriage. This is otherwise known as “common-law marriage” for non-Catholics, as recognized by the State in which they live. For if a Catholic knowingly entered into a common-law marriage with (or without) children and claimed that it was indeed a marriage, to say their friends or even the Church, that would be a grave sin(s) of fornication(sexual acts without being married), lying, and sacrilige against the Sacrament of Marriage(claiming that, as Catholic(s), you(and/or your “spouse”, were married).
The truth is, there are no church fathers proof texts for a so called “declaration of nullity”, but you won’t admit it.
Now, do you for a fact know that there is/are no examples of a declaration of nullity(even if it was not called that, example being: there is no word “trinity” or “purgatory” in the Bible, but those terms developed and have a direct root in what was being taught in the Bible) being given out in the early Church? Based on the examples cited above by Shibboleth, LSK, ChrisR246, 1ke, and Br. Rich SFO, I beg to differ. For the sake of brevity(which I have probably already violated, lol), I will not include their quotes. It may sound harsh, but what 1ke said is true: no-one can do your homework for you. Your teachers chastised you for cheating in grade school, and for a good reason: it doesn’t help you at all.

I realize that you want concrete **in-your-face-like-how-the-Protestants-like-it **evidence from the [early] Church Fathers. Unless you have done all the research and looked at all of their writings (like your past posts implicitly claim) I think it unfair to say that there is no evidence anywhere. I believe it was ChrisR246 (correct me if I’m wrong) who gave you the quote from an early pope. Also, remember that not every doctrine, discipline, practice, or custom has to be found in the Bible or early writings, although most are, even if implicitly found. That is where we get the development of doctrine, and the “Whatsoever thou shalt bind upon the earth, shall be bound in Heaven, and whatsoever thou shalt loose upon the earth, shall be loosed in Heaven.”, meaning that the Church on earth has the power to make decisions(like annulments, saying that a sacramental marriage never took place) that are binding in Heaven.

I sincerely hope this helps, and if not, I join my suggestions with the others before me of appealing to a higher power, namely the professional Apologists available on this forum to help you. And if you already have, and we just don’t know about it, please let us know, so that we will stop talking about this:D.

-Apolosist4Life
 
Piety,
I am sure you mean well so let me share my marriage/annulment situation with you to ponder: I was married to a man for 13 yrs, had 4 children with him and then one day after mass he announces he doesn’t believe in God anymore. In fact he believes he is a high priest in the pagan worshipping community. I still stay with him because that is what a good spouse does right? So then he becomes very controllong and verbally abusive with me ( maybe due to antidepressants) but I still stay with him. One day he leaves and doesn’t come back. Do I have the right to divorce him and have the marriage annulled? According to the bible I can divorce him (I Cor 7, 11-17)
To the married, however, I give this instruction (not I, but the Lord): 7 a wife should not separate from her husband 11 --and if she does separate she must either remain single or become reconciled to her husband–and a husband should not divorce his wife. 12 To the rest 8 I say (not the Lord): if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she is willing to go on living with him, he should not divorce her; 13 and if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through the brother. Otherwise your children would be unclean, whereas in fact they are holy. 15 If the unbeliever separates, 9 however, let him separate. The brother or sister is not bound in such cases; God has called you to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband; or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? 17 But what about an annulment? So I prayed about whether I should divorce him or just live my life separated from my husband, and should I get an annulment? …Until the day a letter arrived from the IRS saying they were garnishing the tax return for back child support. So I called the number and found out that he was married to another woman before me, and apparently had a child. What a shock!!! So I asked if there was a divorce record on file, and they said yes. I looked up the Divorce record number and found out that the divorce from what was his first wife was after our marriage date. So therefore even though I wasn’t aware of it, my marriage wasn’t valid because he was married at the time we got married. After that I persued the divorce and annulment. Am I wrong? I don’t think so…he commited fraud and my only crime was naivete, I didn’t know I was helping him commit adultery or that I wasn’t the first wife, my children weren’t his first and only children…
I now am divorced and I have gotten an annulment from this man.
 
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So what is the point of my story?
  1. There are always exceptions to till death due us part.
  2. I wasn’t ever really married but my state said I had to get a divorce.
  3. Until I went to confession, I was not able to receive communion because I was an adultress even unwittingly.
  4. Reconcilliation was for me not for him…it repaired my relationship with God not his.
  5. I can not get remarried until my “marriage” is annuled…so I did it…I got the annulment and you know what? it was very good for me to look at my culpability in the whole thing.
  6. If I had gotten married again before the annulment, I would not have been allowed to take communion, this was something I was unwilling to miss, so I waited until my annulment to get engaged and I will be remarrying soon. I am so glad I have waited!!!
 
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Apologist4Life:
I’m not sure on the issue of if one spouse dies, does that make it ligitimate to re-marry, but this thread is not for addressing that topic.
-Apolosist4Life
It is a common misconception that we will be married in the afterlife. This is not the case though, upon death the marital bond is disolved. When we say, “Until death do we part.” it means both bodily and spiritually. Consequently, a person is free to remary upon the death of a spouse.
 
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BlestOne:
Piety,
I am sure you mean well so let me share my marriage/annulment situation with you to ponder: I was married to a man for 13 yrs, had 4 children with him and then one day after mass he announces he doesn’t believe in God anymore. In fact he believes he is a high priest in the pagan worshipping community. I still stay with him because that is what a good spouse does right? So then he becomes very controllong and verbally abusive with me ( maybe due to antidepressants) but I still stay with him. One day he leaves and doesn’t come back. Do I have the right to divorce him and have the marriage annulled? According to the bible I can divorce him (I Cor 7, 11-17)
To the married, however, I give this instruction (not I, but the Lord): 7 a wife should not separate from her husband 11 --and if she does separate she must either remain single or become reconciled to her husband–and a husband should not divorce his wife. 12 To the rest 8 I say (not the Lord): if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she is willing to go on living with him, he should not divorce her; 13 and if any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to go on living with her, she should not divorce her husband. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy through the brother. Otherwise your children would be unclean, whereas in fact they are holy. 15 If the unbeliever separates, 9 however, let him separate. The brother or sister is not bound in such cases; God has called you to peace. 16 For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband; or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? 17 But what about an annulment? So I prayed about whether I should divorce him or just live my life separated from my husband, and should I get an annulment? …Until the day a letter arrived from the IRS saying they were garnishing the tax return for back child support. So I called the number and found out that he was married to another woman before me, and apparently had a child. What a shock!!! So I asked if there was a divorce record on file, and they said yes. I looked up the Divorce record number and found out that the divorce from what was his first wife was after our marriage date. So therefore even though I wasn’t aware of it, my marriage wasn’t valid because he was married at the time we got married. After that I persued the divorce and annulment. Am I wrong? I don’t think so…he commited fraud and my only crime was naivete, I didn’t know I was helping him commit adultery or that I wasn’t the first wife, my children weren’t his first and only children…
I now am divorced and I have gotten an annulment from this man.
May I take a small detour from this discussion to say, “You are an amazing woman and I think Jesus has blessed you because you shared this experience with us.”:clapping:
 
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Shibboleth:
It is a common misconception that we will be married in the afterlife. This is not the case though, upon death the marital bond is disolved. When we say, “Until death do we part.” it means both bodily and spiritually. Consequently, a person is free to remary upon the death of a spouse.
Well, just because one spouse dies, the other doesn’t have to re-marry, correct? And is it wrong if the living spouse still recognizes/celebrates/gets upset over/cries about their wedding anniversary? And is it the Church’s official teaching that a married couple are no longer “married” in the sense that we understand the term, upon their death? If so, does the Church leave believers the room to think that maybe some other type of bond exists between the two “previously” married individuals. And just as an opinion, why would God not allow them to be married in Heaven?? Why would he sanctify and make a sacrament out of Marriage if it is not everlasting? Does that mean that when/if we go to Heaven when we die, that we won’t recognize/still be related to our loved ones? Is that what the church teaches? If so, then of course I will accept that, but it just seems so, idk, unfair to the couple in love.

Thanks for your reply!
 
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Apologist4Life:
Well, just because one spouse dies, the other doesn’t have to re-marry, correct? And is it wrong if the living spouse still recognizes/celebrates/gets upset over/cries about their wedding anniversary? And is it the Church’s official teaching that a married couple are no longer “married” in the sense that we understand the term, upon their death? If so, does the Church leave believers the room to think that maybe some other type of bond exists between the two “previously” married individuals. And just as an opinion, why would God not allow them to be married in Heaven?? Why would he sanctify and make a sacrament out of Marriage if it is not everlasting? Does that mean that when/if we go to Heaven when we die, that we won’t recognize/still be related to our loved ones? Is that what the church teaches? If so, then of course I will accept that, but it just seems so, idk, unfair to the couple in love.

Thanks for your reply!
Certainly there the emotional attachment remains and on a certain level I am a spiritual attachment remains. The sacrament of marriage is something that only resides in this realm.
As Romans 7:2 -7:3 show us…
For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband. Rom
So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress though she is joined to another man.

The Sacrament of Marriage revolves around the Vocation of producing offspring. I would assume that this is the reason for the end of the Sacrament upon death. You are never required to marry at any point.

As a side note, early Church writings such as the Odes of Solomon and the Protoevangelium of James claim that Joseph was a widower and that is the reason that he was able to marry a Temple Virgin.
 
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LSK:
May I take a small detour from this discussion to say, “You are an amazing woman and I think Jesus has blessed you because you shared this experience with us.”:clapping:
Thank you LSK, I am so very blest with wonderful kids and a great parish…That is why I am still sane today (well as sane as any mom with 3 teenagers in the house). But seriously, the point I was making is that there are reasons for divorce and annulment such as abuse or fraud. I was lucky that my abuse wasn’t physical but in some ways I think that mental and verbal cause more lasting damage. I really struggled with self worth and self image during that time. I will never let anyone try to make me think that I am any less than the beloved child of our Lord that I am anymore! I feel for women that have been abused in any form because the only reason that they would put up with it is that they don’t feel worthy of being treated better. We are all worthy, men and women because we are His †
 
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Apologist4Life:
And is it the Church’s official teaching that a married couple are no longer “married” in the sense that we understand the term, upon their death?
Jesus addresses this very clearly. IIRC, the Pharisses try to catch Jesus by laying out a situation where a woman marries several brother in succession as each dies and then ask Jesus who will she be married to in Heaven. He tells them there is no marriage in Heaven. Soory, I can’t quote the passage, but I’m sure someone can.
And just as an opinion, why would God not allow them to be married in Heaven??
I think it’s because in God’s presence we will feel a love for every other person in heaven that eclipses the love one spouse feels for another.
 
The ,“NAME of the Game is TRUE HAPPINESS & CONTENTMENT,” which the catechism, edited by this Pope, says CAN not exist, without a RELATIONSHIP with our God.

I’ve had friends of mine who believed somewhat different from me, who were litterly MISERABLE. It’s NOT a pretty sight! We always want to PURSUE true and contrite happiness, in love… Everything else is a road to MISERY!

In MISERY there exists no ,“CHEERING SECTIONS,” just what remains of your friends…

God could, if he was so inclined, resign US all to an eternity of MISERY…
 
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