I am guessing that many of those children were taken from homes and as a result of ongoing legal battles are not available for addoption. You also have a culture where welfare influences peoples decisions to have children. Instead of using abortion to kill these kids off, we should have penalties for the parrents who create these situations.
If you disagree with a behavior, you can’t support it. So, while most Americans believe that it’s wrong to have kids that you can’t afford (and especially wrong to do it when you aren’t married and have multiple kids w/ multiple partners), they vote for people who support increases in the social programs that make that behavior possible - and even attractive to some.
I’ll never understand why people live and think one way, but vote another. How did any Catholic vote for Obama?!
Anyway, my solution to the problem.
Anyone can make a “mistake”. People sometimes believe that it can’t happen to them. If we’re honest, we have to acknoweldge that some women and teens are genuinely suprised and disbeleiving when they find out they’re pregnant after having unprotected sex. It’s stupid, but it’s true.
OK. We’ll give them that once. No one can be surprised twice. If they are surprised the 2nd, 3rd, and 4th times, they’ll be even more surprised when my proposal is adopted by the thinking people of America. (I can dream.)
Each person, if he’s poor, can have one child on welfare for 2 moths if they choose to work, or 2 years and 3 months if they choose to get an education. Most American women don’t get 3 months paid maternity leave, much less 2 years and 3 months. And most men get no maternity leave at all–even unpaid. But that amount of time is sufficient for both parents to complete a 2-yr program at any community college or trade school, at the students’ expense. If the school has scholarships that they want to give the students, good for the students. But the students will not recieve grants from the fed gov’t or state ahead of people who aren’t already recieving aid. You can only go to the well so many tmes. There are others who deserve help, too.
At the 2 years and 3 months mark, the parents will sink or swim on their own. If the parents are unable or unwilling to work, the state will charge them with neglect in the case of normal intelligence of one or the other of the parents, or else the state will have to declare the parents unfit and a case worker will be assigned to decide where the child will do best.
If the parents refuse to go to school or work to support their kid at any time in the 2 years and 3 months period, they will be charged with neglect and will explain themselves to the judge.
If they are deemed to be unable to work or go to school in the same period, a case worker will be assigned to assess the situation. This will be done with the child’s welfare being the only consideration.
The parents don’t have to be married. They don’t have to be speaking to each other. They don’t have to have rights to even see the child. They are the parents and they are responsible for that baby.
Now, if one of the parents has a baby with another person, that other persoon is out of luck.
I’ll take the father as an example. The father, Tom, has a baby with Susan. They were poor and unmarried, so the state gave aid to the baby for the 2 years and 3 months period. They are now responsilbe for that baby.
6 months later he finds out that Julia is pregnant with his baby. Julia applies for aid when the baby is born. Unfortunately for Julia, she didn’t know Tom well, and didn’t know that he had already had a baby or that the baby had already recieved aid from the state.
Since a person is allowed only one child on welfare in a lifetime, Julia’s application is denied.
I’m sure this plan will catch a few people in the beginning.
This plan, though, will force people to at least know the person they’re having sex with. And it will force them to consider the consequences of their actions before they act, instead of thinking after the fact–if then.
They are the parents, and
they are responsible. The idea that you can have a kid and everyone else will pay has to become, again, a horrible idea.
Do you remember when planning to have a baby on welfare was considered a bad thing? When not caring that other people were paying your way,and thinking that it’s only right that others do, was something to be embarrassed about? When choosing not to work to support your kids was widely known to be a sin? When having sex with someone before marriage who had had a baby with someone else while not married was considered sleezy—and stupid?
We all complain about morals today, yet more than 1/2 the country voted for people who want to increase funding to the social programs that support the immoral behavior.
Put your money, and your vote, where your mouth is. You can’t say that A is better and vote for B. You can’t say that B is wrong and then pay to support B.
Take a stand.
