Honor thy father and thy mother

[gourmet]

How far does honoring your father and mother go? I am a friend of a mother who bribes her two grown with children daughters to live with her most of the year instead of their husbands. She has put up a swing set worth hundreds of dollars and a huge above ground swimming pool. This bothers me so much because I believe she will cause the marriages to break up. Am I just being judgemental?

 

[otm]

I can’t say that your post makes a lot of sense.

You say that she bribes her daughters, who have children of their own, to “live with her instead of their husbands” most of the year.

Are you saying that they physically move into her house, on average, more than 180 days a year?

Does she need physical assistance, such that she needs one of her daughters living with her?

Your comment about the swing set - even if it was a $10,000 set (and that doesn’t really amount to a whole lot) hardly strikes me as a reason that a daughter would “live” (meaning, physically move in) with their mother rather than their husband. It might be a reason that the women visit their mother often - but you used the term “live”, implying a physical change of residence.

Can you be more specific?

 

[kaymart]

If what your saying is she is trying to get her daughters to leave their husbands for a pool and a swing set and the girls are even considering it, these girls need major marriage counseling ASAP!!! I too, don’t really understand the post.

 

[Lillith]

My own mother put in a swimming pool and has toys and tries to accomodate her grandchildren…and it works…we visit her more often because the children are satisfied there…

BUT…I would never leave my husband for a stupid swimming pool. It is not the mother that is the problem here, but the grown daughters who are Wives first, and are neglecting their duties as such

 

[kaymart]

Seems like the mother and daughters don’t understand the meaning of Marriage, “Leave your Father and Mother and the Two shall become One.” If they were not ready to leave mommy then they should have never married let along have children of their own.