How am I supposed to behave at work?

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Sometime at work I feel it is better to say nothing than to say the wrong thing, or the right thing the wrong way or even the right thing the right way which are all wrong it seems.

But this morning a manager said to me that if I don’t say something it can be wrong because I could be using silence as a punishment to a colleague. (If you knew me you would know that silence is a blessing).

I don’t mean when a colleague asks me a question or something and I say nothing but just don’t wish to get involved with all the complaining and backstabbing but apparently I’m in the wrong for this too?

Therefore what should I do? When someone has a pop at me should I say thank you and walk away, that way I was using silence as a punishment (which I don’t do) and I didn’t get involved in any arguing?

My head is scrambled.
 
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Take him for his word… Literally. He said to say something. Maybe just say “good morn” or “good afternoon”.

Then, you are obeying your manager’s wishes, and he can’t hold it against you.

Managers can be pretty crazy these days.
 
Sounds like your manager is part of the problem.

Do you have an HR department to talk to?
 
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We have an HR department be we aren’t allowed to talk to them.
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No, it doesn’t work that way. Does the HR department know you’ve been forbidden to talk to them?

I would seriously go to HR about being bullied by my manager for refusing to participate in office gossip.
 
If its bad enough, maybe talk to an employment attorney and/or look for a new job. A labor attorney in your state will give you the best opinion for your state/situation. Ask one for a paid opinion on what your best course would be given the facts.

Those jobs usually aren’t worth it.
 
My boss handed a hand made bracelet that he found to a colleague in front of me earlier (both protestants) he mocked saying its nearly a rosary and they both laughed.
 
I really believe the workplace is the number one place that tests your faith.

I’ll cut a lot out and try and make this short as possible. Basically, I worked In a very toxic work environment and had the worst manager (who had no business managing anyone honestly) that I’ve ever had in my life. I honestly believe she has NPD.

One by one she found a way to get rid of her problem employees ( those who didn’t kiss up to her, and those who refused to treat customers like her) until I was the last of the “originals”. She power trips, lies, pins employees against each other, mocks and laughs at customers and never ever takes blame.

I was offered a higher position three times and declined all times, as I knew she would’ve wanted me to be exactly like her. She didn’t like that I was friendly and the fact that I was well liked either…She found a way to get rid of me too and I’m now on unemployment.

I don’t regret my decisions one bit! I probably would be employed right now had I took that position, but I would be miserable every day for sure.

Everything happens for a reason and I know God is looking out for me, and that something better will come my way. I had to pray hard every night for self control and strength while working there, so I know it can be tough. I would say say a prayer before work and stay true to yourself no matter what.
 
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