How can i convert my boyfriend to the catholic church

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hello i need advice on how to convert my boyfriend to the catholic church he never goes to church his mom is catholic too he swears alot and me and him are disabled he can walk i cant
 
You’re going to need to give more information. Convert him from what?

I’m sorry to hear about his language. That can become a bad habit, and even if he doesn’t want to use bad language, it just comes out.
 
I can only tell you from my experience that you shouldn’t expect that you can change someone. I know that I can offer an almost bullet-proof defense of the Church, but that has never helped me get a single significant-other to church. My advice when it comes to dating is: only date the person if you’re happy with them the way they are right now because they may never change. By the sounds of it, he’s rude to you anyways (I assume you have asked him to stop swearing and if you haven’t then you should). Why would you be with someone that you feel the need to change and is mean to you?
 
**By being the most honest, active and genuine Catholic you can be.

“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.”
— Maya Angelou **
 
avemaria2010 said:
hello i need advice on how to convert my boyfriend to the catholic church he never goes to church his mom is catholic too he swears alot and me and him are disabled he can walk i cant
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you cannot convert anyone, only the Holy Spirit can do that
you can be the best example of a CAtholic woman you can be, and hope his mother does the same, and pray for him constantly but you cannot change his heart.

It is almost impossible to change anyone else’s bad habits like swearing, but you can refuse to tolerate bad language in your presence.

the best book on how the Catholic should approach friends and family who have left the faith is Search and Rescue by Patrick Madrid. What you do not say is as important as what you do say and do.
 
avemaria2010 said:
hello i need advice on how to convert my boyfriend to the catholic church he never goes to church his mom is catholic too he swears alot and me and him are disabled he can walk i cant
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Perhaps you might want to evaluate who best suits you as a future spouse. Swearing a lot and not going to church are often accompanied by other undesirable traits.
 
Tell him you will dump him if he carries on like a buffoon. If you don’t want to you should just pray for him and ask him to pray together with you.👍
 
avemaria2010 said:
hello i need advice on how to convert my boyfriend to the catholic church he never goes to church his mom is catholic too he swears alot and me and him are disabled he can walk i cant
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You cannot convert him - that is the Holy Spirit’s job.

If you want to marry a good, kind Catholic man, then you must date good, kind Catholic boys - it is the only way. 🙂
 
If he has Tourettes challenge him to go to church because he will be a challenge for those old farts.
 
avemaria2010 said:
hello i need advice on how to convert my boyfriend to the catholic church he never goes to church his mom is catholic too he swears alot and me and him are disabled he can walk i cant
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First off you don’t want to coarse a conversion on anyone. It is truly something beyond words when I person finds their conversion. You need to engage in conversation with him. If he responds well at least ask him to go with you to church and give it a try
 
AdriannaJean said:
I can only tell you from my experience that you shouldn’t expect that you can change someone. I know that I can offer an almost bullet-proof defense of the Church, but that has never helped me get a single significant-other to church. My advice when it comes to dating is: only date the person if you’re happy with them the way they are right now because they may never change. By the sounds of it, he’s rude to you anyways (I assume you have asked him to stop swearing and if you haven’t then you should). Why would you be with someone that you feel the need to change and is mean to you?
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I Ditto Adriana above. What you find is exactly what you get. If this is the man that you want to marry then love him with a right now type of love. What I mean by that is love him for who he is and not for who you want him to be. Love him for who he is not and for for he was. Love him for who God is slowly molding and shaping him to be and not for who you want to mold and shape him to be.

It may very well be the case that you might be able to love and pray him into the Church, but don’t expect it, inasmuch as you may hope for it. And don’t let your expectations be a condition of your love. Just love him for him - in spite of who he is and you will always be happy with him. 👍
 
The best way is through example. When I first got married I went into the Methodist church with my husband. After a while he just did not want to go anymore. He began to feel that they all talked the talk but never walked the walk. Which he was right. But as a mother to four girls I continued to take my children to church because it was the right thing to do. It was my ( and also his but he was not taking it) responsibility to teach my children about God.

The only thing I could do was pray for him. I have prayed for 15 yrs and finally this year after putting my children in at a Catholic school something changed in him. He wanted to go to church and now both my husband and I are taking RCIA classes and having some wonderful conversations with him. Of course this all took a lot of time. Some people are more responsive than my husband much sooner than 15 yrs. Some are not. But all you can do is pray.
As for the swearing , it depends on what type of swearing your talking about. There is the swearing that is just down right immature. They do it because they think they are being ‘funny’ but they aren’t really. My husband is 41 and I’m not sure if he’ll ever grow out of that. Ugh.
Or if your talking about emotionally abusive swearing , this you should never put up with.

You will have to sit back and think about if you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. Do you want to spend that much time in your life praying for someone to convert or change his ways? It might happen ( if that’s what God leads him to ) or it might not. There is no guarentee. If you want to be with someone who shares your faith you might have to seek a person who shares your faith.

Like everyone else said here. You can’t convert him. That is the job of the Holy Spirit.
Now if he wants to be converted, then you would want to start with calling your parish church and setting up RCIA classes for him if he hasn’t done that already.

You can also check out www.catholicscomehome.org and he can read more info there too.
 
You can tell him that your Christian faith is important to you and that you want to share your faith with him and your children. Invite him to attend church with you. You may find he’s ok with the idea. If he is, give him time to get used to church-going and all that entails. If not, you may need to find a new boyfriend who not only loves you but is willing to help you lead the kind of life that matters to you.
 
The purpose of dating is to discern marriage.

Marriage is a union between spouses and God.

Your boyfriend not only does not share your religion but from the picture you are painting he does not share your values.

Why is he your boyfriend?

Please do not sell yourself short - open yourself up to being available for someone who conducts themselves in a Holy manner and you will find yourself happier - even if he is not Catholic.
 
Dump him and get a Catholic boyfriend. The purpose of dating is to discern marriage. Doesn’t sound like a very good prospect for a husband.
 
avemaria2010 said:
hello i need advice on how to convert my boyfriend to the catholic church he never goes to church his mom is catholic too he swears alot and me and him are disabled he can walk i cant
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You should never try to change someone. Doing so will likely drive them away. If you don’t like the fact that he’s Catholic and he doesn’t want to change you have to ask yourself if you’re ok with it. If not then you need to move on. However, I don’t think just flippantly “dumping him” because he doesn’t share your beliefs is extreme and is the kind of fanatical view that makes a lot of non Christians stay that way.

I’m quite literally just starting a conversion I haven’t even started RCIA, I have an appointment at my local church next week and this is because of my girlfriend but I haven’t told her yet… I don’t want her to think I’m doing it for the wrong reasons. So I think as far as advice on how to “make it happen” I might be the best one here to tell you.

Don’t TRY to convert him. Just show him by your own actions. You go to church, you pray, you do all the things you’re supposed to and hopefully he’ll catch on. I’ve spent most of my life away from not just Christianity but ALL organized religion because of people TRYING to “save” me. It’s human nature that when a person feels pressured to do something they’re less likely to want to and if they do do it may well be insincere and done as a form of pacifying the source of the pressure. Using myself as an example further… it wasn’t until a week or so ago that I decided to take my current path… I talked to God for the first time in a long while and apologized and asked for a sign. Within a week my girlfriend asked if I wanted to go to Christmas Mass. The key phrase there… she ASKED me if I WANTED to. Had she said “will you come with me” or “you should come to Christmas Mass” I’d have likely declined. Anyway we went with her parents, I observed and had a feeling I can’t even begin to describe.

I had to open myself up to God. It was my choice… trying to make someone do that is not only impossible but will usually have the exact opposit effect.
 
1st: PRAY for Him ! nonstop.
2nd: Practice the Catholic Faith by being a good example of Christian living
3rd: Let him know how important it is for you to have a good relationship with God and His Church.

4th: let God do the rest, only God can convert a person.
 
Well said mdrummer! 👍 the gentle invitation + being a happy, peaceful Catholic letting the Gospel shine through your life – best strategy. Plus praying to the Holy Spirit & the person’s guardian angel.
 
jmjconder said:
**By being the most honest, active and genuine Catholic you can be.

“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.”
— Maya Angelou **
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thats the only way you will find a Cristian woman in the world we live in.
 
jmjconder said:
**By being the most honest, active and genuine Catholic you can be.

“A woman’s heart should be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him just to find her.”
— Maya Angelou **
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try telling a woman that:eek:
 
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