How can I get the Church to understand that I believe our marriage was valid?

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I am not catholic and i believe my ex husband and his current wife are converting. i received petition in mail that he has filed for an annulment under the grounds “lack of discretion” although my ex husband and I have been divorced since 1999 i do not feel in my heart that we were to young or too immature, we had already had a child together who was nearly a year old. I loved that man with all my heart and i can honestly say that in my heart i still do. Our marriage was never a mistake and even after our divorce we still were good friends and often tried to reconcile even up to the last month before he married his current wife. Now this annulment thing has arisen and I know that it is only in the eyes of the church, but I don’t feel our marriage was a mistake and our child is now 22 years of age, this has hit hard on my son’s heart he feels that his dad is trying to erase things from his past. my son is offended by this as am I. My son feels that if his dad believes his marriage to me was a mistake then was his son a mistake as well??? this hurts deep to both my son and I how can i get the church he is joining to understand this??? plz i beg for some advise!!!

 

[Fr.Vincent_Serpa]

Dear friend,

I understand that you still have feelings for him, but this does not rule out the fact that he could have been immature at the time of your wedding and not ready for such a commitment. If this is in fact the case, then his past immaturity is a reflection on him and not on you or your son. No person is a mistake and I am sure that your son’s father does not consider him as such. You are in our prayers.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.