How can I help my friend whose father has died

[SeanF1989]

I found out on Tuesday that my friend’s father has died, I sent him a message on Wednesday letting him know if he ever needed to talk I am here for him.

My friend wasn’t at Mass this morning (I am assuming he went to another church where his father’s funeral will be held this week) I haven’t seen my friend in 2 weeks, any contact has been via Facebook.

I don’t know what else to do, I have been praying for him and I sent him a message (as mentioned above) on Wednesday but what else can I do? I don’t want to bombard him with constant messages but I don’t want to seem like I am ignoring him. We have been friends since January 2017. I also won’t be able to attend the funeral as I am at work on that day.

What else can I do?

 

[DeniseNY]

Send a sympathy card (and if you can) flowers to the family. Let him know that you’re here for him if he or the family needs anything, or if he just wants to talk. He’s probably overwhelmed right now - not just with the emotions of losing his dad, but with all of the things that go into planning a funeral, dealing with family, etc…

May his memory be eternal.

 

[MaryEstelle2]

You have done what needed to be done. Now simply wait and give your friend some time. Everyone grieves differently. Maybe your friend just needs some reflective time Pray for your friend and the father.

 

[joeybaggz]

Have had many such instances in my life. What you have done is good for now. You have contacted him and let him know you feel for him in his loss.

I have found that many people, even those who I consider good friends, simply need time to process the loss and how to go on. Send a card or some flowers and be patient. I’m sure your friend will return to the comfort of your relationship in due time.

Denise and Mary’s advice is very good. Pray for him, his family, and especially his dad.