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nikki7680
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My brother is 21 and he was supposed to have a surgery 6 years ago for something. I don’t know any of the technical terms for it. I just know it has something to do with his male body parts and something internal isn’t where it’s supposed to be. Apparently, when he was 14 a doctor told him he could get cancer from it if it was not taken care of. At the time, my mom asked him if he wanted to do it then or if he wanted to wait, and as a scared kid, he said he wanted to wait. Over the past 6 years we’ve had financial difficulties and also my mom just kind of ignored the fact that my brother needed it because she hates going to doctors, herself. I had no idea about the surgery until about a year ago when he said he had been worrying about it for so many years and stopped caring about the cost, so he just wanted to get it done.
He went to the doctor to have blood tests done and his platelets were low, but not by much and he had a tiny amount of blood in his urine. I looked it up and it could just mean that he’s anemic or has a bladder infection. He has been really stressed out lately and hasn’t been eating and drinking properly. He was feeling good about having the surgery and getting everything taken care of until they told him he needed to give more blood for another test. Now, he’s constantly saying what if he has cancer and what it it spread by now and what if he does he’ll have to have chemo and all these things that could go wrong. And he doesn’t know if it will end up being cancer at all.
I am really worried now because before he made it sound like once the surgery was over, we’d have nothing to worry about. Currently, I’m the only person who knows he’s going through with any of this. He hasn’t told my mom because she gets angry when he brings it up because of the money it costs. She ignores the fact that it is a threat to his health. It’s killing me to see him so stressed out about it. I’ve been praying and telling him to pray, but it’s so hard to be the only one to know about this and be the only person to give him support. I have a lot of faith in God that everything is fine and that the surgery will take care of everything, but sitting around waiting for the next blood test, then the consultation, then the surgery, then the biopsy is a true test of faith for both of us because it’s really stressful.
Sorry for such a long explanation. I just really need some kind of support and guidance. I grew up with a very strong faith and over the last few years, a lot of things made me kind of lose my way and my sense of a connection with God. So, I’m having a hard time concentrating on prayer and faith that things will turn out for the best. Any advice anyone can give me I would really appreciate.
He went to the doctor to have blood tests done and his platelets were low, but not by much and he had a tiny amount of blood in his urine. I looked it up and it could just mean that he’s anemic or has a bladder infection. He has been really stressed out lately and hasn’t been eating and drinking properly. He was feeling good about having the surgery and getting everything taken care of until they told him he needed to give more blood for another test. Now, he’s constantly saying what if he has cancer and what it it spread by now and what if he does he’ll have to have chemo and all these things that could go wrong. And he doesn’t know if it will end up being cancer at all.
I am really worried now because before he made it sound like once the surgery was over, we’d have nothing to worry about. Currently, I’m the only person who knows he’s going through with any of this. He hasn’t told my mom because she gets angry when he brings it up because of the money it costs. She ignores the fact that it is a threat to his health. It’s killing me to see him so stressed out about it. I’ve been praying and telling him to pray, but it’s so hard to be the only one to know about this and be the only person to give him support. I have a lot of faith in God that everything is fine and that the surgery will take care of everything, but sitting around waiting for the next blood test, then the consultation, then the surgery, then the biopsy is a true test of faith for both of us because it’s really stressful.
Sorry for such a long explanation. I just really need some kind of support and guidance. I grew up with a very strong faith and over the last few years, a lot of things made me kind of lose my way and my sense of a connection with God. So, I’m having a hard time concentrating on prayer and faith that things will turn out for the best. Any advice anyone can give me I would really appreciate.