How Did you Cope?

[phil_at_dayboro]

Have you ever felt an emotion that was Horrifically painful in your lifetime ,
but cannot explain that emotion to others ,

How did you Cope ?

I saw this Question today , and some responses were really surprising ,

 

[Lormar]

Have you ever felt an emotion that was Horrifically painful in your lifetime ,
but cannot explain that emotion to others ,

How did you Cope ?

I saw this Question today , and some responses were really surprising ,

Yes.

The past four months of my life have been an emotional nightmare. I was becoming unglued and would walk around crying all day lone. I am in my sixties, have been through hell in my life, and this is the first time I haven’t been able to handle something traumatic. Not sure why. Maybe my age and just being physically worn out contributed to this.

Finally the other day, I gave myself a stern talking to and pulled myself up by the bootstraps. I attribute this to a great grace obtained for me through the intercession of St. Therese. I was making a novena to her when it happened.

 

[SuperHappy]

Yes that has happened to me.

After nobody appeared to understand, I took it up in prayer, which is what I should have done in the first place. By grace, it passed with days of prayer.

I cried daily alone and that also seemed to alleviate my body after several days.

If it happened to me again, I would take it up with a priest in prayer first and then if after two or three days passed and I was still feeling terrible I would get professional help from a psychologist or a doctor. The suffering can be unbearable at times and I realize now that although it made me stronger, it was not necessary to live through it without help.

Prayers going up.

 

[oldgraymare2]

Yes, there have been a few times in my life where I could say that it was really difficult for me to talk about certain issues, only because they were so very emotionally painful.

When it came down to it on a purely spiritual level, I coped by bringing the situations to Our Lord and to His Bless Mother and to the Heavenly Kingdom in prayer.

The situations were all different. Some involved very deep emotional grief, and some involved betrayal by others.

 

[Hoosier_Daddy]

Have you ever felt an emotion that was Horrifically painful in your lifetime ,
but cannot explain that emotion to others ,

How did you Cope ?

I saw this Question today , and some responses were really surprising ,

It’s interesting that you seemed to replace the idea of a situation, with “felt an emotion”. It completely changes the answer I would give. The death of my father, a bad breakup, a miscarriage, injustice, doubt. These are situations. But emotions I stuggle with are a different category. Though they tend to follow major situations. My personal emotional struggles have been jealousy, fear, sadness etc.

 

[psalm90]

Fr. John Riccardo has a radio program on EWTN radio entitled “Christ is the Answer.”

We don’t like when we are in that sailing ship with the apostles being tossed about on the sea and when it seems that everything is lost.

But…yes…but, Christ is with us and we need to keep our faith and perspective.

Sometimes we need to objectify our problems. THERE it is and I’m not going to let it master me. Most of us are never pushed to extremes like losing our home and family, but that happens, as with the Holy Family.

If we need to go on welfare, then so be it. If we need to beg, then beg. But, never lose sight of Jesus at your side.

 

[BigBabba]

Lately I’ve been feeling scared, anxious and fearful. I know it is do to an upcoming major surgery. While praying and journaling my feelings, I have found other things causing my fear. Family issues, lies, etc. Most everything stems from fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of death, fear of losing. But truly, there is nothing to fear as long as you know that you have His Love, His hope, His faith in you. Give all of your fear to Him so you can truly live. I know it’s easier said than done and the journey seems endless, but we must strive ahead.

God bless you all

P.S. I just recently started praying the rosary which I have never done before. I really enjoy it and get lost in it.

 

[Lormar]

Yes that has happened to me.

After nobody appeared to understand, I took it up in prayer, which is what I should have done in the first place. By grace, it passed with days of prayer.

I cried daily alone and that also seemed to alleviate my body after several days.

If it happened to me again, I would take it up with a priest in prayer first and then if after two or three days passed and I was still feeling terrible I would get professional help from a psychologist or a doctor. The suffering can be unbearable at times and I realize now that although it made me stronger, it was not necessary to live through it without help.

Prayers going up.

That’s the hardest - having not one warm loving heart that understands and meeting with only harshness and coldness and then being brushed off and dismissed whenever you attempt to unburden yourself. My own ordeal was made worse two-fold: Christmas holidays and the worst winter we’ve had in decades.

But, thanks be to God, His Blessed Mother, St. Joseph, and St. Therese, here I am!

Don’t ever give up hope. And, when all seems lost, beg Our Lord to draw you closer to His Loving and Merciful Heart in the midst of your anguish and sorrow and seeming despair. If you can’t manage to utter that prayer, Our Lady will for you.

You are 100% correct about having taken it up in prayer from the get-go. It says as much in the Imitation of Christ. Human beings are fickle. Only God is constant. And He understands all.

 

[Lea101]

Have you ever felt an emotion that was Horrifically painful in your lifetime ,
but cannot explain that emotion to others ,

How did you Cope ?

I saw this Question today , and some responses were really surprising ,

I tend to keep going back to harmful coping mechanisms (not eating, over exercising, self harm)

Obviously not good advice, it’s just what I do.

 

[3DOCTORS]

Lately I’ve been feeling scared, anxious and fearful. I know it is do to an upcoming major surgery. While praying and journaling my feelings, I have found other things causing my fear. Family issues, lies, etc. Most everything stems from fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of death, fear of losing. But truly, there is nothing to fear as long as you know that you have His Love, His hope, His faith in you. Give all of your fear to Him so you can truly live. I know it’s easier said than done and the journey seems endless, but we must strive ahead.

God bless you all

P.S. I just recently started praying the rosary which I have never done before. I really enjoy it and get lost in it.

Can so relate to this. I had one last fall. And it was under trying circumstances. I almost postponed it, but was kind of afraid not to so I went ahead. I was overcoming a sinus infection when I went in, I don’t have a spouse or kids or living parents, and the usual friends who would help me out with some of it were out of town all at the same time. The surgery itself was rougher than I expected - not a ton of pain, but more medical equipment and really feeling like wow, I’m at the mercy of the doctors and nurses. And loneliness. Prayer was how I hung on, and that just barely. The Rosary, which I now pray daily, I had begun the regular practice of with a 54-day Novena I started that ended on the day I went in for surgery. I will pray for you with your surgery!

As for the general question of the thread, those various Dark Nights of the Soul (or the Mind) - Oh, yeah. Several times, several different circumstances. Not all of them I’d even be comfortable sharing online. Raw faith, surrender to God. In some instances where there were thoughts of ending it, affirming my Baptismal promises (rejecting Satan emphatically and affirming my belief in God with the Apostles’ Creed) and the St. Michael prayer helped get the bad out of my mind and usually I’d have a good cry and be ready to re-enter the battle. :knight2:

 

[chevalier]

Rationalizing, praying. The one is connected with the other because of human reason is an imperfect reflection of God’s.

In terms of what the smart thing is, you do want to talk to a counsellor — somebody properly qualified, either through respectable credentials or respectable results, not just any hack that hangs out a shingle.