How do I bring this up to the Priest?

[Shameless]

Hi. I know I have said before that I have an impurity problem, but I really need your prayers. The other night I tried to get my wife to do something that I knew was very sinful. I don’t know what came over me but I kept pushing her and luckily she finally talked me out of it. Afterwards I realized that I should never have done that or put her in that situation, what I am wondering is how do I present that in the confessional? Is there a certain way to bring that up or should I just tell him straight out? I would appreciate your advice and God bless you!

 

[Dr.Colossus]

You need to give the priest enough information so that he can understand the gravity of the sin. Without knowing precisely what it was you did (and don’t tell us!), I would say just tell the priest:

“I tried to pressure my wife to do ___” (a single verb). As long as the sin is named clearly that is all you must confess.

 

[Sir_Knight]

“Bless me Father for I have sinned. I attempted to commit a sin of impurity with my wife by …”

 

[timmyo]

When you state your sins, say “I was trying to pressure my wife into committing an impure sexual act”. If the priest wants more details, he will ask, but my experience is they don’t want to know specific details unless their is a need for them to know. As far as I know, this is all that is required.

 

[springbreeze]

Dear friend

You do not go into any detail whatsoever. You simply say you have sinned against your wife by asking her to commit a sexual act that is contrary to purity. That is all you say.

I am going to ask you to make your penance before the Blessed Sacrament. I don’t know how your church is laid out, so wherever the Blessed Sacrament is in your Church, whatever prayer your Priest gives you for penance, make your penance knelt directly before our Lord in His Real Presence.

While you are there, offer your heart as it is, sinful and sorrowful and truly grateful for His absolution. Then ask for all the Divine graces you need to overcome these sins of impurity and promise to embrace every lesson the Lord Jesus Christ, who is the Good Teacher, would teach you in this and always remain repentant until you are formed in His Image and Likeness.

Then say this…Jesus Most Chaste, I love You, Jesus Most Chaste, I trust You, Jesus Most Chaste send forth the Holy Spirit and re-create me.

If you will it and if you desire it in faith, God will grace you with Chastity and Purity

You remain in my prayers

God Bless you always and much love and peace to you and to your wife

Teresa

 

[marty1818]

I would suggest what Dr. C mentioned. Tell the priest that you tried to get your wife to do _____. If he needs more information in order to understand your situation he will ask.

Matt

 

[Lux_et_veritas]

Shameless, please consider a very simple thing…

…there is not much you can tell any seasoned priest that he hasn’t already heard 100 times plus.

People are embarassed for the doctor to see their naked rear, yet he has seen them all already. I can imagine some strange things come periodically into confession, but imagine that the priest is not going to yell, “You did what???”

It sounds like you and your wife are growing together as a couple based on your choice to heed her warning and how good for you, that you recognize the need to acknowledge it.

I believe you will find the experience rewarding, not humiliating. Confession can be like childbirth - painful leading up to and during the process of giving birth, but all joy with the first cry of that baby! Such is the feeling of freedom, and the labor required to get there.

 

[elizabeth4truth]

Shameless:

what I am wondering is how do I present that in the confessional? Is there a certain way to bring that up or should I just tell him straight out? I would appreciate your advice and God bless you!

Dear Shameless,

Your resolve to confess is a wonderful sign. The Holy Spirit will guide you in the confessional. Have faith in Him.

Sometimes I hold a Rosary in my hand and pretend I’m holding our Blessed Mother’s hand. I ask her to be with me and help me to make a good confession.

As my dear friend Suzanne says, “Your desire is enough. The rest is His grace.”

Shalom,
Elizabeth

 

[stbruno]

trueknights.org/ Check out this link to help you with your addiction. Talk just as candidly with your priest as you have posted on this board. The Holy Spirit will guide you. You are not alone in this struggle. Also consider praying the St.Michael the Archangel prayer
traditioninaction.org/religious/b009rpMichael.htm

This is the link that will give you the orgin, as well as the long and shorter version of this very effective prayer against the sin of impurity of thought and deed.

 

[aj10]

A dear friend of mine’s husband just died. They were married for many years. In her grief she told me her utter humiliation that he would watch porno films and then try to make her do the things the women in the porn film did. Please expose this sin that thrives on secrecy, for the sake of the woman you love.