How do I deal with an obsessor?

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Howdy, I’m 15 years old and y’know how it is in high school. This girl, as well as her friend, are both obsessed with me. She is quite rude to me and texts me a lot and does not respect my faith and gets mad at me a lot, so I said we should not be friends on May 9th and she has been non stop calling me and sending her friends after me. I’ve explained the situation to my family and they think she has mental illness. How do I deal with this? She is threatening me and saying I have mental illness and have caused her suffering, as well as saying she was good to me and didn’t deserve this. She won’t let me go, she is unhealthily obsessed with me. What is the best course of action for the both of us?
 
Simple. Block her number.

And do not respond to her or her friends.
 
Ignore, block, move on, and if she continues with the behavior, have your father tell her to knock it off.

I had some girl in high school who was mentally ill harass me for several months including crank-calling my house several times each evening for weeks. One night my father had had enough, got on the phone and gave her what for in his booming dad voice. She never called again.
 
I feel like that is a bit selfish. She doesn’t go to the same school as me (I got to all boys Catholic) but she does go to our sister school. If I go out of my way to get her into trouble it feels a little wrong to me
 
I agree, and if you aren’t even in school physically right now, it has nothing to do with school.
 
I’ve never been one to block, always felt like it was a little shady. She got VERY close to getting my location because of something I posted but I quickly removed it. She’s got a couple of screws loose, so you think it is SAFE to unblock? I feel like if I cut off all contact she’ll accuse me of something I didn’t do and spread rumors
 
Sounds like you are just magnifying the drama by continuing to want contact with this person.

Sorry, but you’ve been advised by many posters on here how to go about this in an efficient way. I’m not going to comment on alternative strategies. Unfortunately, in many cases of young people and “friend issues”, they encourage the person by being unwilling to completely cut off contact for one reason or another.
 
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I am getting concerned. Since this girl is mental and you are a boy, I am wondering if blocking will be enough. She might try to make up some story to get you into trouble. Another poster some time ago had an issue with a girl who had an unreciprocated crush on her son. What ended up happening was that she was going around telling everyone that he was a rapist. Now, if I recall correctly, he didn’t get into legal trouble, but who knows what could happen in your case.

I would block her and leave it at that for now, but you may need to end up going to her school in the event this gets worse.
 
No no I don’t want to contact, but they contact me every couple of days I just do not respond. I will block them, thank you for the (name removed by moderator)ut. I just wanted to make sure that blocking would be a moral decision.
 
Yeah I’ll block her and stay safe. I am very friendly and quiet and I had family who went to my school as well as hers. If she starts anything just gotta be patient and diligent
 
And there is no harm in telling your parents what is going on. Better they are kept in the loop than out should she react badly down the road.

As a parent, I have seen the actions of something like what @Tis_Bearself’s father did, be the thing that ends all of the nonsense. Do let them know what is going on so they can step in if need be.
 
Oh I did believe me, but they are odd about it. They didn’t tell me to block her, but just not talk to her. My sister was very aggressive towards me about it. That’s why I came here, for a Catholic-approved answer since they are not very religious.
 
Update: I blocked her and she sent my friends after me AND her father. I am going to talk to my school counselor with my parents. Pray for her, and me as well as this situation has given me awful anxiety.
 
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