How do I deal with my pro choice wife

[BlueShadow123]

Nice to meet you Blue Shadow,

I simply wanted to catch up, and get some clarity.

I still have not seen your post referencing athiests, but that is not important now.

What is more important now, is that you are welcomed.

‘Welcomed’?
What are you talking about? ive been on here for like 2 months now.

 

[paxomatic]

**If you leave your wife, your 3 daughters will become the mirror image of your wifes first two daughters. You are the example of what it means to be a “responsible - loving - caring - man”, which your wifes first two daughters never had.
**

Hi Julian. Excellent advice. Sometimes I wonder if leaving her and living chastely etc. would be better. But another part of me see’s Christ’s sacrifice for love, and I rethink. But yes, you are absolutely correct. The difference with the older girls is that their father was completely absent for about 20 years. I would most certainly not be be absent. But I find the idea of destroying the girls trust too heartbreaking to take seriously.

Besides, I am betting that some of you wonderful people have been praying for me and mine. I heard my wife, who I have been very clear to about my prolife stance, on the phone with the daughter in question yesterday. She said that if she were to have an abortion, she could not go with her, but would naturally help her after.

But then today, the daughter in question came over, with her fantastic one year old, and took special time aside to assure me, that even though she considered abortion, it is not something she could bring herself to do. So, she will not be having an abortion.

Phew!

I wouldn’t yell or carry on any way. That’s not me. When she announced she was pregnant with her first child, I expressed my disappointment, but both my wife and I assured her that we celebrate new life, regardless of circumstance.

Thankyou, everyone for your time and energy. I will stay with my wife. I will love her, and our children. I will go to church. I will practice an honest and open life, in all aspects of my life, I will try to trust that God doing things that I cannot.

Pax.

 

[StrawberryJam]

Hi Julian. Excellent advice. Sometimes I wonder if leaving her and living chastely etc. would be better. But another part of me see’s Christ’s sacrifice for love, and I rethink. But yes, you are absolutely correct. The difference with the older girls is that their father was completely absent for about 20 years. I would most certainly not be be absent. But I find the idea of destroying the girls trust too heartbreaking to take seriously.

Besides, I am betting that some of you wonderful people have been praying for me and mine. I heard my wife, who I have been very clear to about my prolife stance, on the phone with the daughter in question yesterday. She said that if she were to have an abortion, she could not go with her, but would naturally help her after.

But then today, the daughter in question came over, with her fantastic one year old, and took special time aside to assure me, that even though she considered abortion, it is not something she could bring herself to do. So, she will not be having an abortion.

Phew!

I wouldn’t yell or carry on any way. That’s not me. When she announced she was pregnant with her first child, I expressed my disappointment, but both my wife and I assured her that we celebrate new life, regardless of circumstance.

Thankyou, everyone for your time and energy. I will stay with my wife. I will love her, and our children. I will go to church. I will practice an honest and open life, in all aspects of my life, I will try to trust that God doing things that I cannot.

Pax.

You have my admiration, for what it is worth.

Your wife is also held high in my admiration. Keep up the good work.

Keep being a positive force in this.

 

[forest1970]

show your wife the silent scream video - that may make her change her mind.

 

[BlueShadow123]

show your wife the silent scream video - that may make her change her mind.

That was already discussed in this thread. Apparently there was another video along with it.

I think he should just research it and see what he finds on the internet about it. There are plenty of things that would shock her.

 

[PatriceA]

Hi Julian. Excellent advice. Sometimes I wonder if leaving her and living chastely etc. would be better. But another part of me see’s Christ’s sacrifice for love, and I rethink. But yes, you are absolutely correct. The difference with the older girls is that their father was completely absent for about 20 years. I would most certainly not be be absent. But I find the idea of destroying the girls trust too heartbreaking to take seriously.

Besides, I am betting that some of you wonderful people have been praying for me and mine. I heard my wife, who I have been very clear to about my prolife stance, on the phone with the daughter in question yesterday. She said that if she were to have an abortion, she could not go with her, but would naturally help her after.

But then today, the daughter in question came over, with her fantastic one year old, and took special time aside to assure me, that even though she considered abortion, it is not something she could bring herself to do. So, she will not be having an abortion.

Phew!

I wouldn’t yell or carry on any way. That’s not me. When she announced she was pregnant with her first child, I expressed my disappointment, but both my wife and I assured her that we celebrate new life, regardless of circumstance.

Thankyou, everyone for your time and energy. I will stay with my wife. I will love her, and our children. I will go to church. I will practice an honest and open life, in all aspects of my life, I will try to trust that God doing things that I cannot.

Pax.

I will continue to pray for you and yours. God willing, this is the first step in your wife beginning to rethink her stance on the abortion issue.

 

[BlueShadow123]

Did she ever end up seeing the vids? I can link them if you want. Its on youtube. Search up “silent scream”.

 

[smcgov]

I know this is an old thread, and I’m new, but i have this same issue. My wife went through RCIA and we went to Church together, and now she has decided to become “agnostic”. Her daughter is pro-choice, a college student and sexually active. My wife has recently joined pinterest and showed me her sight and had TWO pro-choice themed cartoons on there that really make me sick to my stomach. We have a 5 year old but this bothers me so much I’m not sure I can stay married in this condition. I feel so strongly about abortion, that I really feel like I’m living with my enemy here. She is incredibly stubborn and it’s doubtful she’ll change her mind.

 

[GraceDK]

Lol, im not talking in a catholic perspective. You see, alot of the younger generation are becoming atheists so they really could care less what god has to say about sex…

Yes, it seems in America and Europe the atheist group is growing. Yet it is not easy to know precisely… for the numbers of religious people are also growing it seems… at least many people believe there is “more between heaven and eath”, when asked.
In the former soviet systems (China, Soviet and Eastern Europe) where atheism was forced on people the numbers of people converting to Christianity are now growing… and if you look at the whole world the atheist camp is still a very tiny group… Most of the worlds population have a religion. Those who wish to make a circle out of evolution (becoming mere biology) are attempting this experiment mostly while living with materialistic unitilitarian ideologies and being brought up believing that atheism is liberating and the peak of civilisation… I believe Dawkins invented a word… was it “the brights”?
Anyway… the point being: what you see depends on where you stand geographically…

 

[GraceDK]

I know this is an old thread, and I’m new, but i have this same issue. My wife went through RCIA and we went to Church together, and now she has decided to become “agnostic”. Her daughter is pro-choice, a college student and sexually active. My wife has recently joined pinterest and showed me her sight and had TWO pro-choice themed cartoons on there that really make me sick to my stomach. We have a 5 year old but this bothers me so much I’m not sure I can stay married in this condition. I feel so strongly about abortion, that I really feel like I’m living with my enemy here. She is incredibly stubborn and it’s doubtful she’ll change her mind.

Dont give up on your wife.
Her soul is sick. She needs your prayer and support. And your son needs both his parents. Thats also being pro-life… staying together when the going gets touch.
You need to start from the point where you agree. I recommend you get a hold of the book:** Forbidden Grief, by Theresa Burke**.
Read it… leave it lying around. This directly deals with the real consequences psychologically for women who have abortions. Its complety scolarly, very accurate and FULL of case stories and valid psychological research on post-abortion syndrom. After reading it, no one in their right mind would be able to maintain that abortion is beneficial to women …
Your wife has sympathy for women… but her sympathy is misinformed.
Get the book…