dizzy_dave:
I work with a woman who is a serious assemblies of God member. We got into an arguement once over Mary and haven’t discussed it since. She’s a very good person, she knows her faith VERY WELL… How do I defend Catholicism against this specific religion? It’s hard to get much info on them.
1. Don’t underestimate the power of personal example - it’s easy to say one’s faith matters; how much it matters, tends to come out in how one lives.
Who knows, maybe your friendship can strengthen both of you.
- This Mary thing is tricky, to put it mildly. Personally, I would not discuss it unless it comes up of itself - the more so, if it’s a tricky area. This isn’t being evasive, or failing to mention things you ought to - it’s common sense. Both of you know it’s tricky, so you aren’t hiding something you ought not to. If it comes up, discuss it.
- As it is a tricky issue, I would be inclined to start with something you both agree on; don’t try to explain from a starting point that your friend will find strange, or alien, or incomprehensible - try to see things through her eyes.
- For instance, we are used to talk about “dulia”, “hyperdulia”, “latria”. In our way of thinking, which is theologically highly sophisticated, and fond of ideas, and keen on putting them together into systematic theologies, this is familiar. To a lot of people - is this lady one of them ? - it is double Dutch, because it is just not part of the way that they are used to thinking. A good many objections to Catholicism in the USA, come from the fact that it is quite simply, unfamiliar; it’s European, it uses a lot of ideas that were old when the USA was born, it grow up in a series of societies which had ideas about politics which are completely alien to USA politics - IOW, it is very largely foreign. So people get flustered by it.
So, don’t start with those words.
Instead, ask yourself what message you are trying to communicate: you may even have to “translate” from “Catholicese” into ways of thinking your friend will understand.
Why is Mary important ? Well, she is the first disciple;
She did all the things for which a blessing is given in Matthew 25.31-46;
She stood by Jesus at the Cross (how many mothers would have the stomach for anything as horrible as
that? Mary did).
She
lived her discipleship -
including the agonising parts.
She is greeted as the mother of the Messianic King by Elizabeth.
IOW, stick to the Bible, and draw out everything that it says about her. And, see what Mary says. Look at what it says about the Christian life, about loving God and neighbour, and ask what it says that might be applicable to Mary.
Mary is the disciple who was totally and utterly dedicated to God. I think this is the other side of her sinlessness - she was “free from” all sin, so that she be “free into” the freedom intended for us all, that of serviong God without any reservation at all.
She has a lot of privileges - but, they are
all God-centred - they are not mere titles to glorify her in herself, for of ourselves, we are “dust and ashes”, as Job says (42).
Mary is also a member of the Body of Christ, the Church. We are suposed to love our fellow-Christians - of whom Mary is one. Equally, if we love Mary, we will love them. Because love of Mary is ethical, it affects how we live - and it is ethical, because we worship a God Who is ethical. So that should flow into all our attitudes, including attitudes to Mary.
BTW, Mary is a means of keeping clean in a shabby world - we are influenced by what we look at, by our favourite thoughts not least. Because Mary’s purity is a living purity that comes from her Creator, and because it is completely stainless, it is in all respects holy and good. So we can do no harm to ourselves if we think about her - she exists for her Son, not for herself
Her Son is the reason she exists
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