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johntkd
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lol i think i could have wrote this 90 % of my life and i am 41.
listen to the advice you been given…
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listen to the advice you been given…
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crenfro
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Guess you just need to get over it and get used to it and stop minding it so much, even for the sake of the few people who will appreciate kindness and/or friendliness.
Telling someone to “get over it” isn’t useful, in my opinion. Compassion always works better. Whenever I hear a “get over it” I retreat further into myself. It’s a sort of put-down.
I’ve been a withdrawn type much of my life, I’m in my 40’s now. And what helped me was staying around people who cared about me, that gave me the strength to be more outgoing over time.
Sometimes a person needs to be shown love before they can do the same. God loved us first. We didn’t start it. And is why I don’t understand telling someone in pain from loneliness to “get over it.”
Oh well. Just my opinion.
Claire
Telling someone to “get over it” isn’t useful, in my opinion. Compassion always works better. Whenever I hear a “get over it” I retreat further into myself. It’s a sort of put-down.
I’ve been a withdrawn type much of my life, I’m in my 40’s now. And what helped me was staying around people who cared about me, that gave me the strength to be more outgoing over time.
Sometimes a person needs to be shown love before they can do the same. God loved us first. We didn’t start it. And is why I don’t understand telling someone in pain from loneliness to “get over it.”
Oh well. Just my opinion.
Claire
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Rebecca_New
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Lonliness, depression, hopelessness; they are the plagues of today’s society. I agree with all the posters-everything I would say has already been said by the wise CA supporters! I will pray for you at Eucharist Adoration today.
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jmm08
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Actually I cannot take credit for that wisdom. My friend Larry told me the idea in brown and said he had heard Adrian Rogers (former president of the Southern Baptist Convention, host of the global daily broadcast of Love Worth Finding Ministries and pastor of Bellevue Baptist Church in Memphis, Tennessee) say it.jmm08;2006013:
Or if it causes you to find comfort from Mary.Loneliness can become a friend if it causes you to seek Christ and to receive comfort from Him.
I believe this is a really great insight, and it is true that it had happened to me.
By the way, I am a Baptist convert to Catholic. And since my family is not yet Catholic I still regularly go to the Baptist church with them. (And go to Mass on Saturday evenings).
Adrian Rogers is very wise, and he has a good handle on many basic truths of Christianity. His sermon “God’s Answer to Loneliness” (written years after the above quote) is found at
oneplace.com/Articles/Print-Friendly.asp?article_id=884
And those suffering from loneliness may benefit from reading it. I don’t think there is anything contradictory to the Roman Catholic faith in his brief sermon – and some basic truths of Christianity are also found among Baptists.
But the second sentence about Mary, I added. I am now 52 and it is just simply amazing how wonderful a discovery I have made in recent years. How precious is the “Hail Mary”, the Rosary and how precious is Mary herself who at all time cares for each of us. When I hold a Rosary in my hand, I do not feel alone. And when I am troubled, praying the “Hail Mary” is often a source of such comfort.
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Thank you Jim. We always find comfort, peace, and hope through Hail Mary.But the second sentence about Mary, I added. I am now 52 and it is just simply amazing how wonderful a discovery I have made in recent years. How precious is the “Hail Mary”, the Rosary and how precious is Mary herself who at all time cares for each of us. When I hold a Rosary in my hand, I do not feel alone. And when I am troubled, praying the “Hail Mary” is often a source of such comfort.
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chevalier
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Yes.And when I am troubled, praying the “Hail Mary” is often a source of such comfort.
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stove
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Divine Mercy Prayer For A Lonely Soul from Sr. Faustina’s Diary:
Jesus, Friend of a lonely heart, You are my haven, You are my peace. You are my salvation, You are my serenity in moments of struggle and amidst an ocean of doubts. You are the bright ray that lights up the path of my life. You are everything to a lonely soul even though it remains silent. You know the weaknesses and You comfort and heal, sparing us sufferings. Amen (1,114.)
Jesus, Friend of a lonely heart, You are my haven, You are my peace. You are my salvation, You are my serenity in moments of struggle and amidst an ocean of doubts. You are the bright ray that lights up the path of my life. You are everything to a lonely soul even though it remains silent. You know the weaknesses and You comfort and heal, sparing us sufferings. Amen (1,114.)
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lontas
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Thank you everyone for all your additional prayers and advice. I’ve gotten much better since I first started this thread. God sent me an awesome new friend who has made a world of difference (Hi Christina!). I have found some healing from past wounds that I have not brought up in this thread. Also I’ve become more certain of my goals for the next couple of years. I still struggle with loneliness but I think things are looking up from here on out. Peace,
Chris
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littleone
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I have been alone and that is not too good but bearable but I have had the most lonely time and when I was married.
To live with the one you love and not be able to relate is the most lonely time of my life. I found that so unbearable and would not wish that on anyone.
It was as though the Spirit of God was not there. I would not wish it on anyone.
To over come loneliness you could join a church group and then as you start to enjoy their actions /reactin you might invite them to come around for BBQ cards or other, or join a sports team even though you might not be good at sport.
I will pray for you to get through this time I understand you to a point.
God bless you
littleone
To live with the one you love and not be able to relate is the most lonely time of my life. I found that so unbearable and would not wish that on anyone.
It was as though the Spirit of God was not there. I would not wish it on anyone.
To over come loneliness you could join a church group and then as you start to enjoy their actions /reactin you might invite them to come around for BBQ cards or other, or join a sports team even though you might not be good at sport.
I will pray for you to get through this time I understand you to a point.
God bless you
littleone
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fin
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i feel the same way. i have a few friends, though i rarely keep in touch with them. also ever since i got more devout about my faith, i have no one to talk about it. but recently i talked to some friends and i’m glad to have kept in touch.
i think i also make few friends because it’s so hard to find people who have good influence, good holy and godly people. there’s just no one i know who knows the faith as i know it. people often talk about inappropriate stuff and nasty jokes and i just want to stay away from these things.
in fact i’m praying lately to God that i’d be able to find people who have the same zeal as i have for my faith, just somebody i can talk to about the faith.
i think i also make few friends because it’s so hard to find people who have good influence, good holy and godly people. there’s just no one i know who knows the faith as i know it. people often talk about inappropriate stuff and nasty jokes and i just want to stay away from these things.
in fact i’m praying lately to God that i’d be able to find people who have the same zeal as i have for my faith, just somebody i can talk to about the faith.
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