I’m not to sure how is it that Muslims get married.I know that depending on the culture there are arranged marriages but is dating a person that you could possibly marry allowed as well?.I’m mainly curious to know if there are any steps that the couple have to do after agreeing to marry like any thing that they have to know to say and do during the ceremony,anything that they have to bring and if there’s like traditional music or a traditional song that has to be played during the wedding.Thank you very much so for your time.
They are mainly arranged marriages.
Dating in islam is forbidden - but - the young couple if need be that they “hang” together, they must have chaparones at all times. They are not allowed to be along with each other.
Marriage in islam is a contract. All is usually spelled out as far a bridal dowry goes. And at times, the would be bride would give a gift to her would be groom.
Here is a summary level of it all…:
The legal bond between a Muslim man and woman differs in many ways from Christian and Jewish marriages. A marriage in Islam is defined by sharia or Islamic law.
The marriage contract imparts certain rights to the man and woman, and divorce is only applicable under certain circumstances.
Types of Marriage
There are two types of marriage that are mentioned in the Qu’uran. The first type, “Nikah,” is more analogous to matrimony in popular Western traditions. A legal contract is signed when entering the marriage, the couple inherits each other’s possessions, and the arrangement is intended for life.
By contrast, the Nikah Mut’ah is a temporary marriage (often for a pre-set period) that does not impart the same rights as a traditional Nikah and the woman may have more freedom within it. It is generally limited to Shi’ite communities, these days; Sunni Muslims outlawed the practice years ago. In this type of marriage, men are not financially responsible for their wives, and the woman can leave her home as she pleases.
Inside the Marriage
Marriage is seen as a religious duty for Muslims. In the Koran, Muhammad is quoted saying, “Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me.”
The bride’s parents play a very large role in the selection of the bridegroom, who must provide a dowry (“mahr”). However, the woman must be consulted throughout the process. Traditional marriage roles–with a man supporting a woman, and a woman maintaining the home and rearing the children–still prevail in Muslim marriages.
Arranged Marriage
Arranged marriages are permitted under Islam but with a catch. Both parties must agree of their own volition to the arrangement upon entering the marriage contract. If the a woman or man is somehow coerced into the marriage, this can be grounds for an annulment.
Polygamy
While sharia law permits Muslim men to have up to four wives under traditional Nikahs (more wives can be added via Nikah Mut’ah), polygamy is a contentious issue in the Muslim world.
The practice is banned outright in Tunisia but is encouraged in Sudan.
Divorce in Islam
In the Sunni tradition, a man has the right to nullify his marriage contract by simply saying “I am divorcing my wife” three times. He must do this after his wife has finished menstruating and before having sexual intercourse with her, so she is in a state of “cleanliness.”
A three-month waiting period begins after the divorce has been announced during which time the couple can reconcile without needing to remarry. During this period, the woman and man must sleep in separate rooms, but the man is still responsible for her welfare.
At the end of the period, if the marriage has not been reconciled, the divorce is complete and the woman rejoins her family.
The Shi’ite tradition is more legalistic and requires a public announcement. By contrast, the right of women to unilaterally divorce their husbands is severely limited in the Middle East.
A woman must engage in a court proceeding and convince a qadi, or Sharia judge, to grant the divorce.
Marrying Outsiders
Islam generally discourages Muslims from marrying unbelievers. A rationale is that marriage compels both partners toward a relationship of tremendous love and trust, and if an observant Muslim marries a non-believer, he may be swayed from the faith.
Under Sharia law, a Muslim woman is not permitted to marry a non-Muslim under any circumstances.
By contrast, a Muslim man may marry a “chaste” Jew or Christian, assuming she is devout in her beliefs.
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