How do you deal with this?

[fdsafdsa]

I have a question for those who are looking into the religious life or are in some type of vocation. This may not seem like a big deal but it often times is a deciding factor in many situations ex certain marriages and friendships. Obviously when you pursue a vocation you will not be searching out someone to marry and have given up on the idea of having sex, and children. That is a requirement, and I believe a necessity, after all that is the point of sacrifice. Marriage is such a beautiful thing and desirable. Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. I think any normal person would love to be married and bring up children, or at least acknowledge that, it is a good way to live life. So my question is how do others deal with this feeling or yearning to be married and deciede that their vocation is more important. For me, I say it is mainly a dream and in a ideal world all things would work out, but it is not a reality. It would be nice to have kids after all, but someone has to raise them. Or marriage is great, but will you feel the same way about that person 20 years from now. Marriage after all is not without sacrifice. So please any one tell me how you deal with this idea, or rather fantasy of being married. Is there an other way of looking at it. I feel called to the religious but marriage and kids feels so natural. Obviously pray, pray, pray but can someone give me any words of wisdom?

 

[aaronjmagnan]

Hi. I feel called to both as well. But I decided on marriage, and I pray and pray and pray.

Anyway, a suggestion:

It is all sacrifice. That is the way to look at it. That is what Christ came to show: the cross of the human is the reality of things.

All of this seems not-human, but truthfully it is the lack of control that is more animal, less human.

The human aspect of all of this is the availability of God’s graces in either vocation after the sacrament binding one to that vocation. God makes it possible for you to stick with your vows if you seek him first. Eventually you find that occupying yourself with the things of the Lord is the key.

Maybe you should email Father Serpa in the ask an apologist section and get some help with discernment.

All of this seems not-human, but truthfully it is the lack of control that is more animal, less human.

The human aspect of all of this is the availability of God’s graces in either vocation after the sacrament binding one to that vocation. God makes it possible for you to stick with your vows if you seek him first. Eventually you find that occupying yourself with the things of the Lord is the key.

God bless
Aaron

 

[fdsafdsa]

Thanks for the reply Aaron. I agree much, with what you said, especially that God will help make you fullfill your vows. I mean you have to trust in God in the first place to even consider a vocation. My question that I posed yesterday was one out of passion you could say. I am considering a vocation and the issue of marriage is just one frustration that I was dealing with. Today I actually had some time to ponder why I felt that way and it is not as vital an issue at the moment. None the less it is some thing that I will have to deliberate for some time. There are no easy answers but some times you have to make a decision and stick with it, I think?