How Far is Too Far?

[shannyk]

lydie,

Read and re-read everything that GraceDK has said here, because she said it extremely well.

 

[EasterJoy]

My boyfriend and I are both practicing Catholics, both still virgins seeking God’s will in our relationship every day. However, I have been struggling with the physical aspect of our relations and wondering how far is too far (besides oral and vaginal intercourse outside of marriage)?

I was told anything that leads to arousal is a sin? Is this true? My boyfriend disagrees and says in that case he can’t even give me a hug!

Let him hug you, then…in front of church, after Mass.

Seriously, though, the idea is to not allow yourself opportunities for things to go to far. This is why chaperones used to be the norm. Somehow happy marriages were still contracted.

How about this? If you would not do it in a public place and in front of your parents and pastor, turn it down.

 

[Lief_Erikson]

You will sense it. As soon as you start feeling uncomfortable in regards of it going a little too far, it’s time to “change the subject”.

When my husband and I were dating, we talked about it and decided that if any of us was feeling that way, that one would say the words: “let’s go get an icecream”. That was our cue to stop.

It was on mutual agreement and it did work. We now have sweet memories whenever our kids ask us to go get an icecream.

That’s cute.