How grave is this

[jesus4ever]

my mother was telling my brother off. but when she tells him off it not just him but us like “you both do this” "all of you never do that. and when she is telling me off its only me.
Anyway I got angry, annoyed and fusstrated when i was hearing her and i said to her "when your telling him off it us and when your tell me of its just me. i said it to her twice. would this be only venial sin.

 

[Buck_Crosswhite]

my mother was telling my brother off. but when she tells him off it not just him but us like “you both do this” "all of you never do that. and when she is telling me off its only me.
Anyway I got angry, annoyed and fusstrated when i was hearing her and i said to her "when your telling him off it us and when your tell me of its just me. i said it to her twice. would this be only venial sin.

Try treating your mother will love and respect and see what happens. Don’t make her repeat herself when she tells you to do something. Treat her the way you want her to treat you.

 

[yellowbird]

It depends on how you said it. If you screamed it at her, that is disrespectful and not showing her proper honor. If you simply told her how you felt, there is nothing wrong with that. Keeping feelings of resentment bottled up are not healthy. It’s all in the delivery though.

You said you were really angry - apologize for your behavior and in the future, try to tell your Mom how you feel when you are calm. I’d say you’re good to go then… not a big grave sin.

 

[EvelynEVF]

We have no idea how you expressed yourself to your mom. I have more than once said something of the kind to my own mother with great respect, because she did not realize what she was doing and it was important to our relationship that the clarification happen. So it might not be sin at all. Talk to your confessor

 

[jesus4ever]

I DID NOT SAY IT IN A CALM MANNER. It was more of a rough kind of expresstion. show that I was really annoyed.

 

[EvelynEVF]

Yeah, still talk to your priest. I come out of a protestant tradition where showing any kind of frustration toward any person in authority was disallowed and shamed, so I am still learning how to speak up and permit myself to show anger and frustration. My radar is off.

 

[isaiah_m]

I DID NOT SAY IT IN A CALM MANNER. It was more of a rough kind of expresstion. show that I was really annoyed.

You be the judge. What works better? Vinegar or honey. I like to choose honey, though in the heat of the moment I often use vinegar. Yes, I need to take my own advice!!!

 

[domandcarols]

Apologize to your mom and if you feel like it confess it.