How much authority and power do you personally give a priest

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Discussing this on another thread I’m currious. A common answer on here is “go ask your priest” so how much authority do you yield to your priest with your own personal life, your marriage, your children, your soul, your consciences, and ultimately your beliefs and faith. And was that authority earned or is it by nature of ordination.
 
If my priest gives me a direct command I follow it regardless of what it is because he is the servant of God appointed over me. It’s only happened twice, but I followed it both times without question.
 
A common answer on here is “go ask your priest” so how much authority do you yield to your priest with your own personal life, your marriage, your children, your soul, your consciences, and ultimately your beliefs and faith. And was that authority earned or is it by nature of ordination.
Who is charged with fulfilling the spiritual needs of his flock by God and the diocesan bishop? Who alone can administer the Sacraments? Why is a priest who you can talk to in real life so questionable, but John and Jane layperson on this site such a better bet?
 
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He can absolve my sins and celebrate Mass, he’s got some authority, there.
 
how much authority do you yield to your priest with your own personal life, your marriage, your children, your soul, your consciences, and ultimately your beliefs and faith
All those things you mentioned should be yield to God, especially your faith.

Your priest have the authority to proform the Sacraments of the church, and teach us about God but you yielding your life to God.
 
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It seems you are presenting this as an either or and feeling that it is either ‘giving to God’ or “giving to the priest’ and not a both-and. A priest has spiritual authority over his flock, that is why he is the shepherd and not ‘just another sheep’. But the authority he is given both comes FROM God and is to be directed ultimately TO God.

So you acknowledge the spiritual direction your priest gives you and offer that to GOD, not ‘to the priest’.
 
A common answer on here is “go ask your priest” so how much authority do you yield to your priest with your own personal life, your marriage, your children, your soul, your consciences, and ultimately your beliefs and faith. And was that authority earned or is it by nature of ordination.
We just discussed this on another thread.
I have no idea how you equate asking a priest a question with giving him “authority” over “my personal life”.
If what he is telling me is a matter of Church teaching, as in, “the Catechism says XYZ is a grave matter sin”, then the authority is not coming from him, it’s coming from the Vatican and from God himself.
If what he is telling me is a matter of his own opinion, like, “I would suggest this” or “I think maybe you should try that”, then I’m free to reject his advice and never talk to him again if it seems to not fit. But most of the time it is worth giving it a try.

The priest doesn’t follow me around and order me to do stuff. He is my priest, not my boss, not my parent.

I never even think of a priest as an authority figure over my life and I cannot understand what would lead anyone to think that way.
 
Asking a priest does not necessarily mean yielding authority.

A priest has authority over us as outlined in Church teaching and canon law.

Many things people ask about on CAF are prudential matters. Those are not cases of authority, but are pastoral in nature.
 
The way @Tis_Bearself explains authority makes sense.

The way @stpurl and @1ke are explaining it makes it sound like my priest has authority over me… could have sworn that authority belonged to Jesus.
 
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A common answer on here is “go ask your priest” so how much authority do you yield to your priest with your own personal life, your marriage, your children, your soul, your consciences, and ultimately your beliefs and faith. And was that authority earned or is it by nature of ordination.
The answer usually has to do with a discussion centered on matters of faith and morals. By virtue of his training in Catholic theology, the presumption is that he’s well-equipped to discuss these matters in the context of what the Church teaches.

Therefore, it’s not a matter of “yielding authority in my life” as much as it is “if you want to live according to the Church’s teachings, learn from an expert what those teachings are.”
 
Discussing this on another thread I’m currious. A common answer on here is “go ask your priest” so how much authority do you yield to your priest with your own personal life, your marriage, your children, your soul, your consciences, and ultimately your beliefs and faith. And was that authority earned or is it by nature of ordination.
Your pastor (not just any priest, but your parish priest) always has a certain authority and power over you, especially where governance comes into play. You see this during marriage preparation, baptisms, confirmation, and dispensations. A priest also gains binding authority over you when imposing a penance in confession, any priest. You are bound to fulfill that penance on pain of additional sin.

Other than that, the priest has zero authority over you and your family. Absolutely zilch. The Church prefers the principle of subsidiarity, and so the authority over a family is the husband/father. A pastor can advise, and quite often, has to. But he cannot bind a family to his authority.

Other than these small cases, if you’re a layman without having any promises made and received by the Church, you owe zero obedience to any priest. The relationship between a pastor and parishioner is nowhere near the relationship between a monk and abbot, or even priest and his bishop. It may not always be the most prudent thing to disregard a priest’s advice or instructions, but I also know that I cannot take every single thing a priest says hook, line, and sinker. Priests have told me wrong things before and I would not “yield” my conscience to those.

“Ask your priest” is the standard CAF advice for the scrupulous, not the general Catholic population as a whole.
 
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Therefore, it’s not a matter of “yielding authority in my life” as much as it is “if you want to live according to the Church’s teachings, learn from an expert what those teachings are.”
Right, and the goal of a priest is going to be trying to help the person asking the question to form his or her conscience so they can have a good understanding of the faith and make their own moral decisions, so the priest does not need to tell them every move to make. The priest simply can’t be there every minute keeping every parishioner out of sin. Parishioners have to know how to ride their own faith and morals bikes without training wheels.
 
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Hebrews 13:17 - Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.

In matters of their competence, running the parish, one should submit to their authority. In matters of their role as spiritual father, they deserve due respect for their authority, and education. Yet in this we are also bound by primacy of conscience. In matter of sports, never, especially if they are from Boston.

In all matters non-sport related, at minimum they should be seen as a source of sound advice.
 
“Ask your priest” is the standard CAF advice for the scrupulous ,
It is also standard CAF advice for
  • people who are having complicated personal, marital or family situations beyond the scope of the forum to advise
  • people who appear to have an erroneous view of some church teaching and not open to a discussion to the contrary
  • people who have a question that requires some specialized (name removed by moderator)ut from the priest, such as a concern about some practice being done during Mass, or needing help with a sacrament that they or their family needs to receive
In addition, there are folks who for whatever reason have a close chatty relationship with their priest and ask him many questions and think it is quite normal to tell others to do so about many matters. Those of us who do not frequently chat with our priests for one reason or another (the priest is busy, we’re shy, there’s a COVID lockdown going on, etc) have to realize that other people may have a different situation going on.
 
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The priest certainly has authority given to him by Jesus, doesn’t he? We don’t confect the Eucharist as lay people. We cannot perform exorcisms, hear confessions and absolve people; the priest does that.

Again, people WILL complicate things by insisting that it’s either-or instead of both-and.

The priest does not ‘take authority away from Jesus’, he exercises any authority he might have as a spiritual confessor, guide, or pastor through Jesus.

The two are not in opposition.
 
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Which parish? The geographical parish priest or the parish where someone is registered?
 
I could never do that. Or ask my spouse or children to do that.
 
The priest does not ‘take authority away from Jesus’, he exercises any authority he might have as a spiritual confessor, guide, or pastor through Jesus.
When you yeild your faith to your priest that putting your priest in place of Jesus.

The OP sounded like she was give all to their priest… part that only belong to God.
 
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Which parish? The geographical parish priest or the parish where someone is registered?
Your parish priest is always that of parish in which you live. Registration tracks your contributions, for tax purposes, and you can even regularly support and attend another parish, but registration has no bearing over which pastor has pastoral authority over you. It is always that of the parish in which you live.

The exceptions are if you belong to a personal parish, which can also be effective alongside a territorial parish. You can belong to a personal parish by virtue of your ethnic origin (e.g. Polish parish, Chinese parish) or your path into the Church (e.g. through the Ordinariate vs through a diocesan parish), or membership in an organization (e.g. military).
 
What kind of commands are you afraid of getting from a priest that would harm your wife or children?
 
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