How much do you compromise to live near family?

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How much do you compromise to live near family?

I was wondering how many give up this or that to live near extended family members such as parents, children, grandparents etc.
 
I decided to go to a local college and commute rather than going to a college in LA… (I live in CA)… it was a tough decision, but I am pretty happy with it…I love my siblings and family… :yup:
 
i got offered an incredible job opportunity to go and live study and work in Cuernavaca Mexico. but i couldnt stand to leave my family in Texas and my now husband who was then my boyfriend. no regrets. well not many. especially not with my marriage. but hubby misses his family in Austin, we are in Houston. but we see them often. Hubbys job is just much better served in Houston.
 
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…living near my family is not compromise… there is joy and love in numbers…

…we seek opportunities to get together…

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Very well put.
 
We gained much from being with our family. But, we also moved from a nice warm climate to a colder place LOL. We would never move back to S Fla.

Now our children live near us or with us LOL. Our home (DD, Son-I-L,GRANDS live with us) is a multi generational home (we added three bedrooms and two large family rooms our home also the old large living room is now the diningroom lol we need to seat 8 to 12 just for normal meals) Having a family from 18 months to 62 years and when my mother was still with us we went from 0 months to 79 years can be a challange. But it is a real joy most of the time.
Our son and his family are about two miles away. Son moved back from Texas to be near us:D .

Sorry got to go. Someone else needs the computer:D
 
Growing up my dad had to move around alot looking for work, so the rest of the family often moved with him, which made for not really understanding the importance of roots. As a result me, my parents (divorced), and my 3 siblings all live in seperate states or cities. This didn’t seem to matter much to me, before I had a family of my own. But now as a Catholic convert and father of 3. I have come to realize it would be much more beneficial to live closer together. At least within the same state.
 
I have always wanted to live near my family, but never have as my husband’s job takes us all over and his first consideration is always the new job. I was disappointed in this for a long time - wanted the kids to grow up near grandparents and cousins, etc, but I have come to see it as a blessing to our faith. We strongly hold to our faith and my family does not. I can see where living near them would have prevented our faith development.
 
I too don’t live near family due to my husband, and I also was saddened by the fact, but have come to realize that the distance has allowed me to return to my faith, something the others in the family haven’t done as yet. I keep praying for them though.

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Before I had my daughter I actually was quite happy to move away (and did -hubby joined the Navy). My parents are getting up there in years and they adore my daughter and she adores them so it would have something fairly drastric to get me to move.
 
I wish we could live near family. However, my husband’s parents and my parents live at two ends of the state, and in Texas that’s 800 miles apart. We have siblings scattered throughout the state. We could never live near both families sadly enough.

Although I’d love my children to grow up in the same town as my mother, it wouldn’t be fair to my husband and his family. So we just try and visit during the year.

Our girls, at this age, say, “Mama, my husband and I are going to build a house in back”, or “I’ll never leave you”. I smile, thank them, and let them know I love them all the while knowing this will not be so.
 
hubby, dd, and I moved onwards to go to grad school 7 states away from family, then moved out of the country for several years. There was a lot missing in our family due to the hole that the elder generation should have filled. . . then mom in law developed breast cancer, dad had a major coronary followed by quadruple by-pass, then mom had a major stroke, all in quick succession. I went “home” to assess the situation and called dh from mom’s hospital room and told him to get himself transferred “home”. He did – took a major pay and status cut to do so. We bought a house with my parents after his mother died and we live together (with father in law staying with us one weekend a month – he’s six hours away). It’s been five years and we look back now and see that it’s the best move we could have made. DD interacts with her grandparents and learns a lot from them, and she’s learning to care for their physical needs. Sometimes it gets tiring to take care of elderly parents’ medical needs on top of everything else, but when we consider the alternatives, we realize our multi generational lifestyle is such a blessing to all concerned.

BTW: my husband is a SAINT and I’m so grateful to be married to him!!!
 
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