How should I as a Catholic respond towards failure and when things go unexpectedly?

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If say you failed your English or that of any form of failure, how should Christians respond to non sin based failure. should they beat themselves up or calm down and not self insult?
 
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We shouldn’t beat ourselves up over failures that are not sins and not our fault. The best thing to do is accept our weaknesses, thank God for having humbled us, and move forward.
 
I look at Failures as God guiding us down the path he has willed for us. Though it is often difficult to accept, perhaps we do learn what direction He wants us to go in. That may sound cliche.
 
I don’t see how productive it is beating yourself up and insulting yourself.

Learn from it and move on.
 
+JMJ+

“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
 
Jesus, fully human and fully divine, had to learn how to walk at some point I am sure. I am also more than sure that there was more than a few times he fell on his divine fanny too. I bet he just giggled and got right back up. Learning is a messy process. We are always learning and trying new things which means we will fail and it’s not a sin, it’s the natural way things go. Embrace failure as a learning experience, plan on how to do better, dust yourself off and move on and know that God smiles on that just as we smile on a little baby stumbling around a room trying to figure out walking.

oh and on beating yourself up: people seem to forget that it is “love others as you love yourself” So, simply think about if it’d be okay to say to someone else what you say to yourself. This is something I struggle with too. If I wouldn’t walk up to my husband and say “You didn’t unload the dishwasher like I asked! I don’t care you forgot! You’re a terrible husband and I can’t believe I stay married to you! You’re worthless and you just bring this family down.” No, I’d never in a million years do that, and not just because he’s an amazing spouse. So then I better be sure I am not saying it to myself when I forget to do things!
 
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calm down and do not self insult.

tell yourself there is something else coming your way. the failure is due to it’s not in God’s plan yet or maybe never. Keep going forward and pray. Offer up your sadness or any pain you feel to the souls in purgatory if you’d like. Failure is only a bump in the road of life.
 
When you take on a new challenge that you have never done before, you automatically EARN the right to fail.

Failure only becomes failure when you give up.
 
Lot’s of good answers here, to which I will add a story of hope.

I went to a university that had a student machine shop. Once I broke a tap – that’s a tool for cutting screw threads in a drilled hole. I went to the shop superintendent to get a new tap, and I told him what I had done and that I knew it broke because I didn’t back it up frequently to like I was supposed to (in order to clear the cuttings out of the flutes).

He told me that when he was a young machinist, he made every mistake in the book, and learned from his mistakes. After he had made every possible mistake, the shop manager figured he was now the best qualified to run the student shop and teach us everything he knew.

So look on the bright side. When you have made and learned from every possible mistake, you will be a master.
 
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Eric_Hyom said:
When you take on a new challenge that you have never done before, you automatically EARN the right to fail.

Failure only becomes failure when you give up.
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I meant to say as well, that when you try, you do your very best.
 
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You pray…
Jesus, I thank you for this cross…
I accept this cross out of love for you
and for the conversion of sinners.

This is how we work in the Lord’s vineyard.
God bless and keep you close.
 
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