How should I deal with this situation

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I have been working in a company for almost a year and had a female colleague who wasn´t accepted within the team. She was disabled and couldn´t handle her job anymore, and out of insecurity she started to brag about her self, and became hard to tolerate. I didn´t want to reject her tough and told her nicely if she made a mistake. She then started to act as if she was my friend and invited me over for dinner, I think she also did this because I was “loved” in the company and by this means she could upgrade her own status. With mixed feelings I accepted her invitation, because I didn´t relate to her as a friend. When I was there she implied that she was into semi-occult things like reiki and obviously wasn´t interested in what I told her about this. We both left the company however she keeps contacting me. She just invited me for a coffee, I didn´t want to reject her invitation but now it feels wrong to me to accept. I mean what´s the point in meeting her, if she rejects Christ.
the following verse from the gospel comes to my mind:
Matthew 10:14
“If any household or town refuses to welcome you or listen to your message, shake its dust from your feet as you leave.”
Should I cancel her second invitation and what should I tell her?
I have been in a similar situations before. I am definitely not naive but I have a very gentle personality and aim to love my neighbour selflessly. Sometimes it feels like people take my whole hand if I give just one finger and keep asking for attention, to the point they seem almost obsessed with me.
 
I have cut a multitude of people out of my life that dragged me down in one way or another: energy-zappers, promoters of bad habits, judgmental janes, etc. The bottom line: You are who you hang around with. You choose to put yourself in that situation, and you will feed off whatever energy the relationship and other person provides. Knowing when a friendship is bad for you and doing something about it can save you from years of misery. It sounds to me like you don’t have much in common with this person, and in trying to get to know them better you’ve found aspect’s that don’t relate to you or your christian lifestyle. Best to cut ties now, ignore and move on. I know it sounds harsh, but you will be better off in the long run. Don’t judge her, or hold her beliefs against her, but at the same time realize it’s not your obligation to put up with it. I’d just tell her thanks for the invite, and say right now isn’t a good time. Perhaps in the future, when she has more in common with you, it would be a good time. You could also just not respond to the message at all and block her number. She chooses to reject Christ and you do not. Cut ties with the demonic influence and go have coffee with your real friends after mass!
 
Thanks for your advice. You confirm what I feel inside. I unfortunately already agreed with her invitation so I will have to tell her it doesn´t go on. I´m not sure how I will communicate this to her. This is a powerful bit of learning tough, that I should not put myself in this kind of situation and remind me of what my priest always tell me, always to aspire after the gift of Wisdom because without wisdom, even your good intentions to love your neighbour can have the reverse effect.
 
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I have been working in a company for almost a year and had a female colleague who wasn´t accepted within the team. She was disabled and couldn´t handle her job anymore, and out of insecurity she started to brag about her self, and became hard to tolerate. I didn´t want to reject her tough and told her nicely if she made a mistake. She then started to act as if she was my friend and invited me over for dinner, I think she also did this because I was “loved” in the company and by this means she could upgrade her own status. With mixed feelings I accepted her invitation, because I didn´t relate to her as a friend. When I was there she implied that she was into semi-occult things like reiki and obviously wasn´t interested in what I told her about this. We both left the company however she keeps contacting me. She just invited me for a coffee, I didn´t want to reject her invitation but now it feels wrong to me to accept. I mean what´s the point in meeting her, if she rejects Christ.
the following verse from the gospel comes to my mind:
Matthew 10:14
“If any household or town refuses to welcome you or listen to your message, shake its dust from your feet as you leave.”
Should I cancel her second invitation and what should I tell her?
I have been in a similar situations before. I am definitely not naive but I have a very gentle personality and aim to love my neighbour selflessly. Sometimes it feels like people take my whole hand if I give just one finger and keep asking for attention, to the point they seem almost obsessed with me.
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Tell her that you’re a Practicing Catholic ad feel very uncomfortable with her faith positions and that it would be BEST if you discontinued the relationship. The PARY for her

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It’s like the dating world for single Catholics… women show up with “anything but” Catholic an you have to figure out what to do. Send away for the booklets I have listed below and use the opportunity to evangelize. If she acts up, tell her you are a bit offended that she didn’t give your position any consideration and wish her well.
 
Thanks for your reply. Reflecting on this situation afterwards, it is such a relief that I cut off all contact and now understand why God asked me to do so. I now realize that evangelizing is not all about being friends with everyone. It asks for discernment and wisdom and sometimes “embracing” your neighbor means taking distance from them.
 
I don’t get why you feel you can only be friends with those who share your religious beliefs but I understand why you had to distance yourself from this person, it would have been wrong to give her false hope of a friendship. I think she is deserving of sympathy in that the world is a difficult place when you don’t have the social skills to negotiate it but you cant fix this for her.
 
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