How to act around guys

  • Thread starter Thread starter cathgirl
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
C

cathgirl

Guest
I am an 18 year old woman and all my life I have been quite shy and the last thing I want is for a man to wrongly think I like him or know I like him if he doesn’t like me back. This has really held me back from having friendships with guys or friendly interactions with them. There are some times where I’ve pushed past this but I realise I really need to treat men well because often I would not be as warm as them as I would to women out of fear of them thinking I like them. There’s this guy that I like but I am so afraid that he will know that I like him but doesn’t like me back. He is a very genuine, devout Catholic so I love talking to him. How do I toe the fine line between being friendly and being obvious that I like him.
 
Last edited:
Don’t act, just be.

Be yourself. Don’t worry whether they think you like them or not. Just be the way you are to anyone else.
If a guy “likes” you and you don’t like him back, so what? Just be nice anyway. You don’t have to change your personality into something different. If there is a guy you are interested in, again, just be yourself. He will like you as you are or not.You can’t change into someone else because that isn’t genuine.
 
And if you like a guy and he doesn’t like you back, it happens in life to everyone. Don’t be afraid.
You will never regret being yourself, kind and genuine.

"From the fear of being rejected, deliver me Jesus. "
 
Be yourself. It is when we act and try to be something else that people get mixed signals.

There is nothing wrong with having friendship, liking, many people. In fact Christ had an inner circle of friends, the Catechism talks about friendship:

2347 The virtue of chastity blossoms in friendship . It shows the disciple how to follow and imitate him who has chosen us as his friends, who has given himself totally to us and allows us to participate in his divine estate. Chastity is a promise of immortality.

Chastity is expressed notably in friendship with one’s neighbor . Whether it develops between persons of the same or opposite sex, friendship represents a great good for all. It leads to spiritual communion.
 
He probably already knows if you do. I am in the same boat with a woman (though I am older than you, and she is older than me). Make it clear to men that you are not interested in that you just want their friendship, if that is it (though I hate using the word “just” as it sounds a bit like an insult), and with men that are interested in you and you may be interested in as well, don’t push away. I have been that dude, in fact, when I was about your age. It did not work out, but at least I felt a lot better when the woman involved told me how she felt about me, and it was not negative, in spite of how she had acted toward me before. Why we treat people we have feelings for poorly to hide those feelings, I do not know.
 
The best advice I can offer is to be genuine…nothing fake…you will be comfortable with yourself. Always be honest…and please do not giggle! Young girls tend to get together and giggle and act silly. And look and dress your best…always.
 
Try to call his attention, I think if he has interest in you like a woman he will give the first step if you give signs.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top