How to confess this embarassing sin?

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I know what the 3 conditions for mortal sin are, and I’m not sure… I think this is grave matter and I had deliberate consent, however, I’m not sure if I knew that this was sinful.

So, two questions: is this sinful (is it a mortal sin) and if so, how do I confess it in a not so embarassing way? Thanks

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So, the general consensus from my priests involving scrupulous people and “Might be mortal(?)” sins: If you’re not sure it’s mortal, proceed as if it isn’t mortal. I believe this advice originated with St. Ignatius of Loyola, who also struggled with scrupulosity. This sounds like the kind of thing that would fall under that umbrella. You could probably speak to a priest anonymously about it if you felt so inclined, I’m sure he’d be able to answer better than we can.
 
Makes sense. And if I were to talk to a priest about this, how should I describe it without being so explicit?
 
Sit behind a screen if you’re feeling particularly distressed about privacy. There is no need to be explicit about sexual sins, and I’m inclined to think that one shouldn’t be explicit and go into detail anyway. You can give a general idea without needing detail, i.e. if it were me I would simply state it as something like “juvenile games about sex.” If a priest needs to know detail about a sin, they will ask.
 
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As Fr. @edward_george1 has said on several threads here earlier with regards to how to confess your sins in confession. “Be brief, be bold, be gone.”

There´s no need for excessive details or excessive explanations. Just say it as it is. I did x sin x times. The priest will ask if he needs to know more. The priest has heard it all before so there´s no reason to be shameful or embarrassed. If anything, you could go behind the screen and thus you won´t have to sit there and look him in the eye.

However, if you aren´t absolutely certain you´ve committed a mortal sin, then you have not. That´s because mortal sin requires deliberate consent to sinning and that you´re completely aware of the gravity of the sin.

Perhaps you should also speak to your priest about scrupulosity as this might seem to be a part of your struggles here. Scrupulosity is a tough cross to carry, which I know by first-hand experience. So don´t hesitate to share this with your priest. He knows how to help, believe me.
 
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Just go to confession tell the priest what you just said here (though you can leave out graphic details unless he needs more info). Go behind the screen if you are embarrassed (that’s one of the reasons it’s there)

God Bless
 
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If you aren’t absolutely sure it’s grave matter, it’s not a sin. One of the elements of mortal sin is full knowledge of the gravity of a matter. That being absent, you haven’t committed a mortal sin. If in doubt, talk to your priest.
 
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