How to deal with an agnostic sibling?

[Alexandria2020]

I have a sibling who’s agnostic, and he’s currently in a relationship. The sibling is Eastern Catholic, and what I learned on the positive is his partner’s father is a Latin Catholic. So technically they are both Catholic, but lapsed. How do I convince them to return to the church, and to marry in the church? (what I’ve learned is he hasn’t attend Mass in like 8 years at least, and could be more for confession).

He’s one of those very smart kids, he attended an Ivy League school. I think college turned him away from the faith. As a teenager, during his high school days, he served as an atar boy. Now he’s in his late 20s.

 

[Lou2U]

Well, you can’t, really. You could ask if they’re open to discussing their beliefs with you, but as an agnostic myself, I’ve always found the adage “Preach the gospel. Use words when necessary” to be the best advice. Live your life out as a Catholic and let them see it. That may help to draw them back, but every person’s faith journey is different and they have to make their own way along it.

 

[Irishmom2]

@Alexandria2020, if anyone knows what they are talking about, it is @Lou2U.

Lead by example. Invite your brother to mass for Christmas, he may turn you down. No need to beg or nag or argue. “Maybe next time.”

And pray for him. That is all you really can do.

 

[dscath]

How?

With charity!

 

[Psalm30]

if anyone knows what they are talking about, it is @Lou2U.

@Lou2U is pure awesomeness

 

[Legend]

The only things you can do is pray for them, and be an example of a good Christian. Don’t preach, nag, or look/talk down to them. If they and you are staying nearby, ask them to mass, and church activities, but understand…you’ll likely be taking ‘no’ for an answer, a lot more often than ‘yes’. Again, don’t nag them. But, if there’s any chance they’ll be interested in going, just issue your invitation, then leave it to them, and God!

Never stop praying for them, even if they close all other doors. But try not to let this happen by making your requests short, simple, and non-judgmental.

They are blessed to have a relative like you, who is concerned about their souls. Take care of yourself, and God Bless!!!

 

[Lou2U]

@Alexandria2020, if anyone knows what they are talking about, it is @Lou2U.

@Lou2U is pure awesomeness

Awww, thank you so much! That’s so nice of you to say! (I think you are both pure awesomeness too!).

I know I’ve said this before on CAF, but I will never forget the time I visited a Catholic church in Italy and saw a lady made the sign of the cross. Just a very small action, but obviously sincerely and devoutly felt. It’s really stuck with me, more than debates and words ever have done. I do believe actions are what makes the real difference.