How to deal with loss

[fellow_servant]

I didn’t know where to put this thread so sorry if this shouldn’t be here. I know that am going to lose someone who I care for dearly and knew this day was coming I only have 2 weeks with them but it has just hit me. Am not losing them to death but I know they will no longer be in my life and there is a growing sense of despair I took comfort,warmth,religious advice from the person but now I have to say good bye but I just don’t know how to let go. So. Ask if anyone has advice on losing some one who you have cared for

 

[Justicia_et_Pax]

I didn’t know where to put this thread so sorry if this shouldn’t be here. I know that am going to lose someone who I care for dearly and knew this day was coming I only have 2 weeks with them but it has just hit me. Am not losing them to death but I know they will no longer be in my life and there is a growing sense of despair I took comfort,warmth,religious advice from the person but now I have to say good bye but I just don’t know how to let go. So. Ask if anyone has advice on losing some one who you have cared for

Gosh, it really could have been me writing this this time last year. I was very close to a university tutor who I regard as my best friend, closest confidante and guardian angel. Parting was very hard, not least because she avoided saying goodbye (she must have wanted to leave out the inevitable pain and tears).

Is this someone you’re losing completely or just someone you won’t be with anymore? Email and letters are a poor substitute but I’ve found it comforting to write to my tutor, even though she doesn’t respond (long complex story to do with abuse claims against her, not made by me but involving me). Sometimes I am moved by the Holy Spirit to write and tell her how much God loves her. It’s hard being apart but I try to remember that the fact we aren’t talking and are no longer with each other physically doesn’t mean the relationship has gone or was not what it was: it has simply entered a new phase, according to God’s will for us both at this time.

It’s hard but try to trust in the Lord and see where this road leads you. You will not be alone, for you will carry this person’s love with you