How to deal?

[jeanne71350]

Hi everyone,

Well I’m a 17 year old high school student. I’ve been really getting upset with my group of friends lately. They talk about really impure stuff a lot. They are Catholics, but they all watch really dirty shows and read sexual books. It is really upsetting me to hear all of that talk. I recently gave up sins of impurity of Lent, I don’t want to go back down that way. Today, they were talking and I chimed in “let’s think pure thoughts.” and they looked at me like I was crazy. I mean, I love my friends, but they are really upsetting me. I don’t want to participate in that junk. Should I leave them? I don’t know.

Can someone help me?

-Jeanne

 

[Monica4316]

aw sometimes this happens to me too… I’m 23 and I’m a university student… when I hang out with my group of Catholic friends this doesn’t happen cause all my Catholic friends are really ‘into’ their faith. But I have other friends too, who are not Christian, and then this issue comes up a lot.
To be honest I try to limit my time with people like this because it ends up affecting me and changing how I look at the world. At the same time, it’s good to be around to be a good witness. (even though it’s really difficult).

I think if they’re leading you into sin or temptation, - it would be best to leave.

God bless

 

[Julian0404]

Yes, if your friends cause you to sin, lose them. Scott Hahn in his conversion CD explains that when he found Jesus, he lost all his old friends, who were contributing to his problems, but he found new friends, true friends in Christ.

When you stand before Jesus on your judgement, you will not be able to point to them, (like Adam) and say “they made me do it”. You will stand by yourself and answer for your choices.

 

[Lief_Erikson]

It is best to withdraw from friends like this. Maybe you can find a good Catholic youth group nearby to make new friends? I know it would be painful to do that, but sometimes we have to endure pain for the sake of Christ.

 

[JaredR]

Why are you upset with them when you yourself just gave up habits of impurity a while ago? (This is not an attack, by the way; I wish we could transfer tone over the internet.) Be careful that you are upset with the temptation to be vulgar and not unduly upset at your friends. It’s alright to expect better of others and of ourselves, but recognize too that without God’s grace you’d be in the same position.

 

[jeanne71350]

It is best to withdraw from friends like this. Maybe you can find a good Catholic youth group nearby to make new friends? I know it would be painful to do that, but sometimes we have to endure pain for the sake of Christ.

I do have a wonderful group of Catholic friends, but I don’t get to see them very often.

-Jeanne

 

[jeanne71350]

Yes, if your friends cause you to sin, lose them. Scott Hahn in his conversion CD explains that when he found Jesus, he lost all his old friends, who were contributing to his problems, but he found new friends, true friends in Christ.

When you stand before Jesus on your judgement, you will not be able to point to them, (like Adam) and say “they made me do it”. You will stand by yourself and answer for your choices.

They really aren’t contributing to my temptation. I’m being tempted in other ways. Usually whenever they talk that way my mind wanders elsewere. I just don’t like hearing all of that junk.

-Jeanne

 

[Lost_Wanderer]

Seeing as how I’m in a crowd like that myself, here’s my two cents… and options.

1. Find yourself a new circle. No offense but I can see why they’d look at you weird when you say things like “let’s think pure thoughts.” You see for them, the only thing pure about that sort of purity is that it’s pure myth. It’s a sad, sad fact but that’s how secular society believes. Please note though, I am not saying they’re right. I’m just giving you an idea seeing as I myself have a knack for seeing things cynically. If you really cannot take these sort of people, then I’m afraid I can’t see how you could get along with them (and vice-versa). It doesn’t look like you have much in common anymore.
2. Put up with with them. They’re them. You’re you. If your faith is strong, it won’t matter what your friends say. You can’t change them but they can’t change you either. Just keep living as piously as you have now and live your example. No need to get on their case and risk coming off as judgmental. That way, they won’t have a reason to judge you.