How to defend the pro-life stance on these questions

[lucybeebee]

A common criticism of pro-lifers is that we don’t care about children after they are born. How can I respond to this accusation? Also, many women are discouraged from adoption because of the bad conditions in foster and group home situations and of the difficulty of finding homes for older, disabled, or minority children. This is all true and I don’t know how to respond. How should the Church and other like-minded individuals encourage women in crisis pregnancies not to have abortions while simontaneously supporting the two-parent family as the norm?

 

[hasikelee]

A common criticism of pro-lifers is that we don’t care about children after they are born. How can I respond to this accusation? Also, many women are discouraged from adoption because of the bad conditions in foster and group home situations and of the difficulty of finding homes for older, disabled, or minority children. This is all true and I don’t know how to respond. How should the Church and other like-minded individuals encourage women in crisis pregnancies not to have abortions while simontaneously supporting the two-parent family as the norm?

Do you know that was a very common argument for slavery? Those who supported slavery claimed that releasing slaves would cause the poor black folk more misery as they had no education or homes.

Talk about a whacky way of thinking!

If our government and communities are hostile to children and mothers, does this mean we should kill them?

And whoever is claiming that pro-life people do not help others after abortion needs a wake-up call. Sure, you can concur that some people can only stretch so far and so they choose abortion to fight on. But what about the Church and all of its members? Their motto is Protect life from natural conception to natural death.

How can wanting to protect a poor pre-born child from death not be looking out for their best interests?

 

[Liberian]

Lucy,

The first way to respond to the accusation that pro-lifers don’t care about children after they are born is to get in touch with the local pro-life organization and see that the accusation is false. I would emphasize that not every anti-abortion protester needs to be personally involved in day care, child support, or fostering; different people have different jobs, after all. But it is my experience that pretty much everybody in the pro-life movement cares deeply about children who have been born already.

The idea that “many women are discouraged from adoption because of … the difficulty of finding homes for older, disabled, or minority children” is a canard. First of all, if the child is as yet unborn, “older” is a non-issue. Second, the waiting list for parents wanting to adopt is years long; I don’t think there is too much trouble finding a home. Finally, if the mother is serious about adoption, the question of a foster home or a group home is similarly irrelevant.

To answer your last question, the two-parent family is indeed the norm and the ideal case. In the real world, though, we don’t always get what is ideal. This does not give us an excuse to make things worse. Just because you can’t give a child a two-parent family is no reason to kill the child.

• Liberian

 

[Liberian]

The notion that pro-lifers do not care about babies until after they are born is false. The people I have met who have said this are usually uneducated and perhaps don’t care enough to educate themselves.

In my experience it is a deliberate canard put out by the pro-abortion forces in an effort to discredit pro-lifers. The slogan is that “they believe that life begins at conception … and ends at birth.”

• Liberian

 

[Teakafrog]

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Not only are there waiting lists for adoption of healthy/typical newborns…there are also waiting lists for adoption of newborns with disabilities in case you were unaware of that. Hope this helps.

Yep, there are thousands of us who spend months or years waiting, most of whom will take any baby we can get. So that is a load of bull, check out any adoption agency and they will tell you there are way more parents on the list than babies to give to them. I guarantee you 99.999999999% of babies (maybe only except for the most severely disabled) will have a home before they are born, or just the moment they are born, if given the chance to be adopted.

 

[CRW]

A common criticism of pro-lifers is that we don’t care about children after they are born. How can I respond to this accusation? Also, many women are discouraged from adoption because of the bad conditions in foster and group home situations and of the difficulty of finding homes for older, disabled, or minority children. This is all true and I don’t know how to respond. How should the Church and other like-minded individuals encourage women in crisis pregnancies not to have abortions while simontaneously supporting the two-parent family as the norm?

I guess the choice of Death is a better choice then a poor foster home? God said “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you”. Jeremiah 1-5. God is the source of all creation, how can we judge Him for the condition in which a child is born? It just may be that they have a special role, in their suffering, to purify the world of it’s culture of Death. A man rapes a woman and gets probation for two years. The woman, as the result of the rape, kills the baby and and gets what??? Salvation?

 

[StMarkEofE]

A common criticism of pro-lifers is that we don’t care about children after they are born. How can I respond to this accusation? Also, many women are discouraged from adoption because of the bad conditions in foster and group home situations and of the difficulty of finding homes for older, disabled, or minority children. This is all true and I don’t know how to respond. How should the Church and other like-minded individuals encourage women in crisis pregnancies not to have abortions while simontaneously supporting the two-parent family as the norm?

Totally untrue. The folks who are against abortions have been in the forfront of adoptions for many years.

 

[m134e5]

How can wanting to protect a poor pre-born child from death not be looking out for their best interests?

You can’t stop there though. Once they are born, what are they going to do? Where are they going to go? The questions are directed towards those who do not seem interested in helping care for those who cannot care for themselves.