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gchinchilla22
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Hello I’m new here. Sorry if there are some errors cuz I’m typing this on my phone.
So there’s this guy I used to work with who used to flirt with me and insinuate that he wanted to be in a relationship in a vague way. He never actually asked me out so I never was able to turn him down. I was always kind and polite and tried to be a friend. (I was 19 at the time now 22). Anyways so we kept in touch through a series of events and we now talk on IG sometimes for the past couple years on and off. I’ve always been friendly, kind and supportive, trying to treat him as I would a female friend. Throughout this time he’s still flirted, asking me to hang out, complimented me incessantly etc. I’ve always stopped writing, turned the topic around etc. increased time I reapply etc to try and increase distance and boundaries. We stopped talking for a while but he started writing me again recently. He asked me to hang out several times to which I said I was busy. He then asked if he could go to church with me ( he knows I’m Catholic) and here lies my problem.
I asked him what he knew about Catholicism and he said he didn’t know much ( I have know idea what he believes in. He’s expressed some Christian beliefs but also has said he believes in many gods and Odin and weird stuff). So I said that before he went to church or anything he should do some research and I sent him some resources and he said thanks.
So what I’m asking is how do you evangelize while keeping boundaries. Hes never asked me out so I’ve never been able to find a time to say I’m not interested like that. I feel like if I said that out of the blue he’d get offended, mad or say I was delusional or something.
If a female friend asked to go to church with me I’d say sure cuz they wouldn’t see the closeness as romantic etc.
I feel like he’s trying to do this cuz he wants to get close to me or hang out but isn’t actually interested in religion. That maybe cuz I said I couldn’t hang out with him elsewhere he’s trying this now.
I’m worried if I said yes he’d use it as “hang out” time.
Even if he actually is interested in Catholicism how can I evangelize while keeping boundaries— minimal communication, not going to church together. How do I keep him from using me as his savior or something along those lines.
I want to cut off the relationship (or cut it back to hardly anything) cuz as two adults of opposite gender we really shouldn’t be friends especially when he has/had feelings for me, but I’m worried about what that would to to any evangelization efforts or his opinion of Christianity.
Sorry that was so long and jumbled. I have a mind that incessantly ruminates . Thanks for any advice
So there’s this guy I used to work with who used to flirt with me and insinuate that he wanted to be in a relationship in a vague way. He never actually asked me out so I never was able to turn him down. I was always kind and polite and tried to be a friend. (I was 19 at the time now 22). Anyways so we kept in touch through a series of events and we now talk on IG sometimes for the past couple years on and off. I’ve always been friendly, kind and supportive, trying to treat him as I would a female friend. Throughout this time he’s still flirted, asking me to hang out, complimented me incessantly etc. I’ve always stopped writing, turned the topic around etc. increased time I reapply etc to try and increase distance and boundaries. We stopped talking for a while but he started writing me again recently. He asked me to hang out several times to which I said I was busy. He then asked if he could go to church with me ( he knows I’m Catholic) and here lies my problem.
I asked him what he knew about Catholicism and he said he didn’t know much ( I have know idea what he believes in. He’s expressed some Christian beliefs but also has said he believes in many gods and Odin and weird stuff). So I said that before he went to church or anything he should do some research and I sent him some resources and he said thanks.
So what I’m asking is how do you evangelize while keeping boundaries. Hes never asked me out so I’ve never been able to find a time to say I’m not interested like that. I feel like if I said that out of the blue he’d get offended, mad or say I was delusional or something.
If a female friend asked to go to church with me I’d say sure cuz they wouldn’t see the closeness as romantic etc.
I feel like he’s trying to do this cuz he wants to get close to me or hang out but isn’t actually interested in religion. That maybe cuz I said I couldn’t hang out with him elsewhere he’s trying this now.
I’m worried if I said yes he’d use it as “hang out” time.
Even if he actually is interested in Catholicism how can I evangelize while keeping boundaries— minimal communication, not going to church together. How do I keep him from using me as his savior or something along those lines.
I want to cut off the relationship (or cut it back to hardly anything) cuz as two adults of opposite gender we really shouldn’t be friends especially when he has/had feelings for me, but I’m worried about what that would to to any evangelization efforts or his opinion of Christianity.
Sorry that was so long and jumbled. I have a mind that incessantly ruminates . Thanks for any advice